Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 3

elsien

Blanket warmed, ready and waiting.
Did I mention he's not allowed on the furniture?

codemonkey

Aww. Gitdog is so cute. I'd choose the fluffiest bed too. .:rotfl:

Cried twice today. Do you guys think it's reasonable to give this job a month before I think about asking for my old job back? I know it's a bit soon but I just have this feeling that this is not the right fit for me.

Eta: I really don't want to ask for my old job back because that would be humiliating

Pyxis

codemonkey wrote: »

Aww. Gitdog is so cute. I'd choose the fluffiest bed too. .:rotfl:

Cried twice today. Do you guys think it's reasonable to give this job a month before I think about asking for my old job back? I know it's a bit soon but I just have this feeling that this is not the right fit for me.

Eta: I really don't want to ask for my old job back because that would be humiliating

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I'm not sure you should ask for your old job back; the reasons why you wanted to leave will still be there, and will frustrate you even more, once the 'relief' of being in the 'familiar' environment wears off.

It is such early days, still, Code.

Plus, it won't look good on your CV in the event of your moving on again in the future.

Why don't you list the things that attracted you to this job, and then by each one, put whether that thing has been forthcoming.
Then, armed with your 'list', have a chat with your boss?

Are they not giving you enough work? What exactly is it about this job that is making you so unhappy? Is it just that it is so unfamiliar? If the latter, that will deffo go in time.

Even a month is a very short time really.

I think you are grieving; grieving for the comfort of familiarity and for not having to plough your way through the morass of new people, new ways etc.
All that will get gradually easier.

Try not to think about going back to your old job, as that will stop you going forward in this one.

More (((((((((((((Code))))))))))))))





I know it's not the same, but it reminds me of when I moved to my current home. I was moving to what I considered to be a nicer house, in an environment better for me and mine. However, I was moving 100 miles to an area where I knew nobody, didn't know the area much, and the sprog was changing schools.

The removal men went, the friend who had brought me and all the pets down to the new house had gone, and I went to bed thinking, " Aaaaargh! What have I done?" Nothing was familiar, you see. I didn't have the comfort blanket of friends to see, shops I knew well, the support network around me.

I had moved through pure instinct. It had all felt so right, but then the enormity sank in when it became a reality.
......................Little steps. Little steps..................

30 years later, I am still in the same 'new' town, and in the same 'new' house! It had been the better thing to do!

tea_lover

My old house was freeeeeeeezing cold (and I'm always cold anyway) and very damp. I could never keep cereal etc in the house as it would be mouldy within days. My house now is v lovely....but the day after I moved I was in floods of tears, and seriously talking about could I call the solicitor and get it all changed back somehow.

Have done very similar with jobs previously too.

Hang in there code. This job may or may not be right for you (give it another few weeks before you decide). If it isn't.... onwards and upwards to the next exciting thing in store for you.

If all else fails just concentrate on the fact that today is Friday

codemonkey

Thanks Pyxis and tea. I don't deal with change very well and I've been hormonal and fighting a cold which hasn't helped either. I made a choice and I need to stick to it for now and get what I can out of the situation. At least the commute is shorter and the pay is more so that's something. First week is almost over so hopefully it will get easier from here. Office is freezing cold though so will need to invest in more cardis. I love cardis so that is a positive too I guess. There. Positives.

I may point out that I moved to my current house 6 years ago and the area has only started feeling like home for the past year or so. :rotfl:

tea_lover

More cardis is a huge positive - I flipping love a cardi

codemonkey

There's something so comforting about them tea and they go with everything. And usually they're so snuggly.

Georgiegirl256

codemonkey wrote: »

Cried twice today. Do you guys think it's reasonable to give this job a month before I think about asking for my old job back? I know it's a bit soon but I just have this feeling that this is not the right fit for me.

Eta: I really don't want to ask for my old job back because that would be humiliating

I know that all Pyxis says is wise and sensible, however, I'm a firm believer that sometimes you just know if something isn't right for you or not.

Obviously, you've got to give the new job a good go, is a month long enough to do that? I don't know? But your old job won't be open for ever, and if you did have to go back, then yes at first it would be abit embarrassing, but people also understand that sometimes people make mistakes. Not saying you have made a mistake of course, this new job might be the best thing ever in a week or so, just offering up a different perspective.

Life's too short to be unhappy, especially in your place of work.

Edit: Another cards fan here too!

Izadora

codemonkey wrote: »

I may point out that I moved to my current house 6 years ago and the area has only started feeling like home for the past year or so. :rotfl:

I'd definitely give it at least a month before you make any decisions

Well done for being able to see positives and don't ever underestimate the joys of a shorter commute!!

onomatopoeia99

codemonkey wrote: »

Do you guys think it's reasonable to give this job a month before I think about asking for my old job back? I know it's a bit soon but I just have this feeling that this is not the right fit for me.

I would say give it at least a month, so you can start to get a feel for the work and the people. In the early days you're just scratching the surface of both and I know that it take me ages before I'm able to get to know someone new in the office and talk to them about anything other than work. Not that we have new people very often at all, staff turnover is tiny here.