Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 3

Torry_Quine

Pyxis wrote: »

What's the equivalent in your dialect of King? Then he could be Torry (king)! Or Torking!

Tea, glad you're feeling a bit better. :A

Ono, oh dear. I hope they're not blaming you.

whitewing, I use Tippex to paint my house number on my food waste bin. I got it back when it blew away only because I'd tippexed the number on it.

Its a Torry Loon!:rotfl:

Now I know why I keep getting called Tory rather than Torry , auto correct. We have to empty our food waste bin into the garden bin thankfully, I have enough problems with my box and bag for recyclables gong missing. At least they are replaced quickly and free.

Pyxis

I'm back from my course. It was very, very good, except for the next bit ........

Penguin about sudden death. Please do not read if you have any triggers at all about sudden death.

There were six of us on this course, plus the tutor. It was residential, so we all ate dinners, lunches and breakfasts together, plus tea breaks etc. None of us had met before. Last night we all had dinner as usual. This morning, I had breakfast early, as I wanted to finish a project we'd been given that I was too tired to do last night. So I did that and then I went to the teaching room. When I got there, most of the others were there, plus the tutor and a member of staff. Then the tutor told me that one of the ladies on the course had died in the night. (The others had already been told). I had sat next to her at dinner last night, and she had seemed fine, if a little tired, but then I was tired too. Huge shock.
The staff member was there in case any of us needed anything, which was nice. We were also given the option of not carrying on, including the tutor, as it had been he who had found her, but we all agreed that we needed to carry on. The course was due to end after lunch today, anyway, so with a slight change to the tuition programme, we did carry on. (The programme was changed to something a bit less heavy than we had been going to do).
(The lady concerned had needed a bit of help getting from the accommodation block to the dining hall, so the tutor had been collecting her in a wheelchair and taking her to and fro. She could walk with an ambulatory, but it made it easier for her all round if he did that. He had gone to collect her to take her to breakfast at 8 o'clock and got no reply from her room, so after a couple of other tries he became worried, and so got a member of staff to open her door, and they found her sitting in a chair, but gone.)
The staff dealt with it very well, as police and ambulance and undertaker had to be called out. It was all very calm.

Ok, I didn't know her as such, but we'd been chatting and interacting since Tuesday. It was such a shock. While we doing the rest of the course, and then having lunch, we were shaken but we carried on. However, once I was driving home, a 65-mile journey, it hit me, and I felt very shaken up and tearful, and very, very tired. I got home, and I've gone straight to bed with a couple of gin and tonics.
The tutor was very professional the whole time, but we knew he must have been even more shaken than we were.

On the 'good' side, she was doing something she enjoyed, in a place she loved; she had had a lovely dinner in good company. She was in her chair, so she hadn't fallen or been lying scared or cold for hours; it must have been very quick.

WaS, if you have read this, it wasn't your fault at all. She was elderly, and she did have some health problems, though I'm not sure what. So please don't think it was your fault. None of us had any inkling. Not your fault at all, any more than it was our fault.

Anyway, am feeling meh. End penguin

Pyxis

Torry_Quine wrote: »

Its a Torry Loon!:rotfl:

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You'll have to call him Loon then. Why does Loon mean King?

Waves_and_Smiles

I haven't read back but I will do later. Right now for once I am angry and also hurt.

This is going to be a CBP about religion. As we mostly don't speak about it on the thread due it triggering me I really hope no one minds a quick post about it. I will be very brief.

Penguin- I have spoken before about how my mother used religion to twist it into ways to control me. At no point do I believe her interpretation of religion was the correct one but it has severely scarred me. I took a huge deep breath and emailed a Priest and told him the things my mother had said (which was extremely hard) and explained I would like to find a way to at least get over my fear of churches. It is the first time I have ever discussed it with someone in the clergy.

He wrote back basically telling me I was listening to the Devil and I had a choice to turn to God. I had said that religion terrifies me and he ignored it completely and went on and on about how the Devil tries to influence people. How is that helpful to tell someone who had spent her entire childhood being told she was Devil's spawn and would rot in Hell? He didn't answer a single one of my questions or even acknowledge my past, just gave me a lecture about how I am listening to the Devil, had the Devil within me and must stop. He told me the Devil had taken over my mind and was preventing me reading the Bible. No, a past of having to swear on it after I was abused and being forced to ask for forgiveness is what is preventing me reading the Bible as I explained to him. Well, thanks for confirming everything my mother said. I am very upset right now.

End penguin

Torry_Quine

((((((Pyxis))) That's awful. It's not that loon means king, it's just the male equivalent of quine.

WaS You have every right to feel angry. My heart goes out to you, I have no doubt that my pastor would not have responded like that.

Pyxis

Blimey, WaS, you drew the short straw with that idiot of a priest.

Waves_and_Smiles

Thank you Torry, I am aware that my mother's twisted views are not what others believe and I would hope this individual's views are not what the majority believes either. I was ready to address this aspect of my past, now I just want to run for the hills as fast as I can. I doubt he even realises how damaging his words were.

Pyxis, I will read your penguin but not quite yet. Hope you are ok, have a hug.

mellymoo74

((((WaS))))

Am angry on your behalf

Pyxis

Torry_Quine wrote: »

It's not that loon means king, it's just the male equivalent of quine.

I thought that Quine meant queen?

Wellyboots6

Escapette has taken a wooden spoon to bed