Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 3

calleyw

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

Could be because your sleep patterns appear to be out of sync? You said the other day that you didn't get up until about 10-11am and then you slept for 3 hours mid day today.

Don't know what time you go to bed, but maybe try and get up earlier about 8-9am?

GG, I try and go to bed between 10-11pm every night. I seem to have trouble falling asleep.

Lodger has gone out tonight and I if I do fall asleep before he gets back I am sure I will wake up when he comes in. Not due to him making excess noise just because thats the way I am.

I don't have a TV or use the latop in my bedroom. Lego man sleeps about 5hrs a night. And he is on nights at the moment so we do text each other up late in to the night.

I will set an alarm for 8am. And start from there.

On that bomb shell I will now toddle off to be and listen to my audio book for a while.

Night. hope everyone gets some sort of rest tonight.

Yours

Calley

Georgiegirl256

calleyw wrote: »

GG, I try and go to bed between 10-11pm every night. I seem to have trouble falling asleep.

I don't have a TV or use the latop in my bedroom. Lego man sleeps about 5hrs a night.

We don't have a tv in our bedroom either.

I very rarely go to bed before midnight. I can't drop off if I go too early (then again sometimes I can't if I go then, but at least I have a better chance), and so it's very rare I'll go before 10.30-11pm, although I did last night!

I usually get up when D gets up for work. I can't lie in anymore, if I'm awake then I need to get up.

Nite nite, hope you (and everyone) sleeps well x

Torry_Quine

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

We don't have a tv in our bedroom either.

I very rarely go to bed before midnight. I can't drop off if I go too early (then again sometimes I can't if I go then, but at least I have a better chance), and so it's very rare I'll go before 10.30-11pm, although I did last night!

I usually get up when D gets up for work. I can't lie in anymore, if I'm awake then I need to get up.

Nite nite, hope you (and everyone) sleeps well x

I do have a TV in my bedroom but that's for when I'm in bed during the day when I go to bed I dont do anything but switch off the light and try to sleep. At the moment I listen to the world Service a lot.

whitewing

Littlewing is really upset about changing to a new school year. Her friend is in a different class. She loves her teacher. We had to write a list of her 'upsets' to take to school tomorrow. She has been in tears.
It makes me feel sad too.

I am torn about ER. Currently I am visiting each work day. I know that it is making a difference as I know her relatively well. She will tell me things that she won't tell the nurses. But it is really impacting our, already busy, routine. DH is somewhat annoyed as he has to pick up my slack. He also worries about me getting overtired as that seriously impacts my mental health. There are closer blood ties who visit once a week if that and who are still out every day on nice trips and outings (majority of which were booked before the hospital incident). I do feel a bit taken advantage of (not by the person in question). I just have to suck it up, I think, and do what I feel best.

System

Thank you for the replies, I think I need to try and put it to the back of my mind and try to focus on what I do have not what I dont

I had good news today, we had a mystery shopper and
I got 100% feeling quite happy with that! Ive been dreading getting one so to find out I got 100% is a relief :j

seven-day-weekend

Hi everyone! Have been lurking although not posting. Sorry some of you are not in a good place right now

I have people get both my first name and my surname wrong. My first name is an uncommon but not unknown name, but many people just call me other, similar names. I don't understand why they can remember those names but not my real one. I always correct people and if I see them often enough they eventually get it right.

My surname is an English spelling of a Welsh name, there are various forms of it so I always have to spell it. We have thought of spelling it the Welsh way, but that would cause even more confusion with us living in England, although it's not an uncommon name spelt the Welsh way in Wales.

On a similar note, a ssome of you amy know, I was adopted as a baby and several years ago found my birth mum and aunt and now have a good relationship with my mother (my aunt died two years ago, RIP Aunty V).

I've realised there is not much chance of ever finding out who my birth father was/is; his name is not on my birth certificate and all my mother will say is 'he was no good'. I don't want to force her to relive what was obviously a very bad time for her.

So...I have ordered a DNA test kit from Ancestry.co.uk. This will not tell me who my father is (unless I am extremely fortunate!), but it will tell me my roots, heritage, and genetic makeup and maybe even find someone else with similar DNA, which may be a way to finding other things out. At least I will know a little bit about my father's side.

Also on the subject of family, my husband knows very little about his family, especially his father's side. His father died in 1978, they were estranged due to my husband's mother and she would never talk about him.

Anyway, he has gone onto a site called Missing You (this is the site through which I found my birth family), put in the few bits of information he had, and discovered that his father was the eldest of nine! . So he had six aunts and two uncles he knew nothing about. This means he almost certainly has numerous cousins on his fathers' side. Got to do some serious donkey work now tracing them. Wish us luck!!

Anyway, sorry for the essay. Wish us well in our endeavours!

Pyxis

whitewing wrote: »

Littlewing is really upset about changing to a new school year. Her friend is in a different class. She loves her teacher. We had to write a list of her 'upsets' to take to school tomorrow. She has been in tears.
It makes me feel sad too.

I am torn about ER. Currently I am visiting each work day. I know that it is making a difference as I know her relatively well. She will tell me things that she won't tell the nurses. But it is really impacting our, already busy, routine. DH is somewhat annoyed as he has to pick up my slack. He also worries about me getting overtired as that seriously impacts my mental health. There are closer blood ties who visit once a week if that and who are still out every day on nice trips and outings (majority of which were booked before the hospital incident). I do feel a bit taken advantage of (not by the person in question). I just have to suck it up, I think, and do what I feel best.

Whitewing, firstly, do you have any sort of timescale for how long ER (that sooooo sounds like the Queen!:D)'will be in hospital? If you have a timescale, then that is a finite length of time to plan for. If not, than might I suggest an early family meeting of all the relatives concerned to thrash out a rota for visiting, etc.?

Situations like this are not uncommon, unfortunately. What has to be drummed into every family member is to remember what it is like for ER., and to get each family member to just think how they would be if it were them in hospital, with people not wanting/able to visit them.

If the timescale isn't finite, then it is important to act sooner rather than later, otherwise other relatives might continue to leave it to you, citing excuses, and then it will become harder to get them involved.

Always at the back of their minds should be "how would I want to be cared for, if it were me?" Also, how they cope with ER will be noted by their own children, and could become a blueprint for how they themselves might be treated in similar circumstances when they become elderly.

xXMessedUpXx wrote: »

I had good news today, we had a mystery shopper and
I got 100% feeling quite happy with that! Ive been dreading getting one so to find out I got 100% is a relief :j

Yey! :T Well done, MessedUp! See! Even with all the health problems you've had recently, you still managed 100%!
:j:j:j Happy dance! :j:j

calleyw

Morning my Lovelies,

sadly not a good nights sleep. But was out the door at 8am due to having to do some shopping for lunch as lego man is coming around today :j have to feed the poor man. To make sure he has enough strength to change my tap :rotfl:

WW, do feel free to PM. I know how tough it is having someone in hospital after a stroke. In nearly 4 months of being in hospital I did not visit my husband twice. But he did have other visitors.

I know that being in hospital and not being able to move out of bed would drive me crackers. As they are woken up at the crack of dawn to have breakfast. I know on the stroke ward they like to settle them down to have a nap in the afternoon before visiting starts again.

Mind you am sure I have told this story before. When husband went in to re-hab he kept telling me about the cat that would wander through his room and sit on his bed. I did worry if I should say something to the nurses just in case. Nope they had a ward cat called kitty who even had her own chair our by the nursing station. The room my husband was in was her fav and she use to go out the window in his room when on the prowl :rotfl:

My husband even lost friends due to the stroke. I think people do not know how to handle it and makes them think of there own mortality. And some are just lazy selfish people who never think of anyone but themselves. I never had a life for four months. Work and then off to hospital every evening and then came back do his washing and then to bed. Lucky to be in bed by midnight:eek:

Suppose I better to a quick once round with the hoover and put some bits and pieces away before lego mans arrives.

Hugs and squishes and handshakes all around.

Catch you all later.

Yours

Calley

Georgiegirl256

Do you know how LNG she is going to be in for WW? Obviously you've got to do what you feel is best, but maybe reduce it to every other day? Phone the other relatives and tell them they need to up their game....in the nicest most diplomatic way you can of course!

Well done on the mystery shop MU! I remember them well! It was always obvious to me who they were, they weren't exactly subtle.

Sounds fascinating SDW! Good luck with you and your husbands ventures!

I didn't have that good a nights sleep either Calley. Just couldn't settle, think we need a new mattress through. Been saying that for ages, but there's so many to choose from that I wouldn't know where to start!

tunathe_cat

Hugs to all who would like one cake and chocolate and other vices all round at the fort xx

Will be made homeless for the night on Saturday as Silverstone red bull crew have hired the whole hotel !! Insurers have asked where we would like to go.... lavender fields norfolk for the night.. but are having difficulty finding a disabled access room.

Maybe camping out near concrete cows or on one of our many famous roundabouts xxx