Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 3

tea_lover

Yep some of the phrases you've shared with us before now are hilarious - does make you wonder who wrote this course... and what line of work they were in before this??

codemonkey

There's a lot of stuff like 'I can't live without you' and some dodgy chatup lines too. It's kind of amusing.

Pyxis, just seen about your scans - it's good that they are moving so quickly.

Lambyr

Hello,

So all my plans for today got derailed early afternoon (about 1:30ish) with the onset of something similar to a migraine. My head was throbbing, feeling like it was gonna explode, side of my face aching. I couldn't sit or lie still cos it made it worse, and when I walked around I felt like I didn't have the energy to stand. Ugh.

Tried some paracetamol... that was useless. So after suffering through this for four hours or whatever, I decided to use a more natural remedy. Still got some pain in the head, but I can look at a computer screen again without whimpering like a puppy left on its own and I no longer feel light-headed and I've just managed to eat, so hopefully that's that coming to an end for today.

I'm gonna guess not enough sleep and too much caffeine lately. I read that if you don't get enough sleep, the proteins that cause migraines can get triggered and obviously caffeine raises blood pressure and has some dehydrating effects (such as being a diuretic) which doesn't help headaches so I guess that might have been the thing. I've had a few days in a row recently where I've been woken from a rather deep sleep by mum, and that surge of adrenaline you get has stopped me getting back to sleep easily. So yeah, that's my guess anyway.

Could do without such things. They stress me out, which obviously makes everything worse... and my dog, bless her, cannot take a hint that her licking my face is the last thing I want when I'm not well.

Right, sorry, moan out of the way!

Thanks for the language suggestions. I had a look at U3A, but the only thing they offer locally is French.

I find the level to which the locals tend to speak English in Europe depends on their attitude to English-language films and TV shows. Flanders and Netherlands both stick with original dialogue and subtitle films and TV shows (at least those aimed at adults) into their own language, so the people there basically pick up English as they go along. France, Germany and Spain tend to dub films and TV shows into their own languages so don't get the benefit of that, but the average German, in my experience, has a good grasp of English anyway because they start learning it from a young age.

The Italians are quite odd in this regard... they have this strange habit of dubbing English-speaking films into Italian, but then when they make their own films, shooting it in Italian (or back in the 70s and 80s, all the native languages of the cast) but then dubbing it into English afterwards. There's hundreds of Italian films that were not shot in English but are only available with an English dub. I guess to try and appeal more to English-speaking markets? Though that practice has sorta subsided over the past ten to fifteen years.

I'll have a look at duolinguo... thanks for the suggestion.

Whitewing - Glad to hear that ER seems to be doing well. Hope she continues.

Pyxis - Good to hear you've got your appointment nice and quick. Hopefully everything comes back alright and there's nothing to worry about

System

having a mini crisis of sorts

Theres a few friends on facebook who have recently become mums, my newsfeed is full of posts about said kids and motherhood

[penguin] I don't know why but its really starting to bother me. I'm still undecided on having kids, mainly as i know there is a genetic link with bipolar and i could never forgive myself for giving them bipolar and them suffering like i did, but at the same time i'd love to have a child. I know now is not the right time, Swain and i both have debts to pay off and we'd need our own place which won;t happen for a few years. I guess im just strugging as i'm 2 years older than Swain and like it or not, time is not on my side. Realistically i will be mid 30's before i can consider it and that scares me. My nan had an early menopause and though my mum as fertile well into her 30's i'm still scared i may have that choice taken away from me. I don;t know how to deal with these feelings. theres no way a child is practical right now so i know i need to wait a few years, its just seeing all these posts about kids and feeling like i'm missing out thats eating me up. I guess i also envious of the fact they;ve all had kids with no issues. I know for me pregnancy would be risky. I;d possibly have to either have to come off meds or risk taking them. And i have a 50/50 chance of developing post natal psychosis which scares the !!!! out of me.

I try not ot be envious of other people's lives, and try to think thats my life is mine, just at a different pace to others but i still feel broodiness and jealously. [/penguin]

onomatopoeia99

Lambyr wrote: »

The Italians are quite odd in this regard... they have this strange habit of dubbing English-speaking films into Italian, but then when they make their own films, shooting it in Italian (or back in the 70s and 80s, all the native languages of the cast) but then dubbing it into English afterwards. There's hundreds of Italian films that were not shot in English but are only available with an English dub. I guess to try and appeal more to English-speaking markets? Though that practice has sorta subsided over the past ten to fifteen years.

As well as my dish pointed at the Sky satellite, I have another monster (90cm) dish on a motor that usually points at Hotbird at 13 degrees east where the Italian channels are broadcast from. Anything originally made in English, series or film, gets dubbed. Doc Martin in Italian is ... odd :rotfl:

tea_lover

I'm going to attempt to penguin, but I'm on my tablet so massive apologies if this doesn't work. I badly, badly just need a big vent

A good friend of mine has just posted a photo announcement on FB. Her two beautiful children and a scan photo. I'm ashamed of myself as I feel utter rage. Smash the house up, down a bottle of vodka rage. She's one of a v small handful of RL people who know about the IVF, mc etc. Would it really have killed her to send me a heads up text? I can honestly say I've never been anything but happy for her, I love seeing her and her lovely kids, it's not like I would have kicked off! I do know it's about her not me but honestly, is a tiny bit of thought too much to ask for.

Torry_Quine

((((Tea))) That hurts, I feel for you.

codemonkey

((Tea)), ((MU)).

Tea penguin: (for tea lover not a penguin about tea) I know exactly how that feels. I seem to be surrounded by happy announcements at the moment, which just feels mega crap. The worst is one who has a few kids, and her husband has had multiple vasectomies and she still gets pregnant. And she's a good mum, but it just seems, so, so, unfair.

I was in a good place until recently, but that baby in the office had me hiding in the toilet until I was sure I wasn't going to cry. Like a baby RKO (out of nowhere).


MU penguin
It's so hard when all your friends are having babies and you're not. Quite apart from anything else, you feel left out, they go off and make other mum friends so they can talk about mum stuff and it's hard to meet up. And they represent something you want and might never have.

You're being sensible though and that's really important. You could try to get pregnant now, with an unstable situation and you might make it work, but you might not. It's a sign of how good a person you are that you're not willing to make that decision purely for selfish reasons. Plus, women are able to have babies later in life - just because one person had early menopause doesn't mean you will. You have plenty of time and who knows what science will come up with in the meantime? In the long term would you consider using a surrogate to avoid the medication issues?

Pyxis

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Waves_and_Smiles

Penguin to MU

As you know, I opted not to have children due to the hereditary conditions I had and the realisation that I wouldn't be able to be the mother I wanted to be. For me with four inherited conditions and also inherited schizophrenia it felt too much of risk. However, in your shoes I think that I would have probably had children. You are active and you have achieved so much, I think you would make a great mother and you have a great and supportive partner too.

Also don't worry too much about early menopause. My grandmother's was over by 41 and my mother's by 38 but at 47 I show absolutely no sign of it. In fact my cycle is far more reliable now than it was when I was younger so it doesn't necessarily mean it will be passed on.

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