Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 3

System

Got an appointment, never seen that doctor before but she was really nice, we went with the option of upping my anti depressant and i'll go back in 3 weeks. However im going to take the lower dose the next two days cos when i started this medication and last time it was increased i had to call in sick because the side effects were horrendous. I really can't afford to lose 2 days pay so if i wait till saturday night ive then got 3 days off work so it should have settled down by next week. Considering they can take weeks to kick in i dont think waiting 2 days will make much difference.

My paranoia is a but bad atm (didnt have my mood stabliser last night), so if im not on MSE for a while i'm fine but need a break. Thought it best to let you know x

Stoke

Pyxis wrote: »

Maybe you have outgrown the circle you moved in before, who have known only the 'old' you.
Were they an influence on the 'old' you? If so, and you want to get away from that reputation, maybe it is time for a change. Nothing wrong with that; we all change and want different things and move in different directions.

Even if they weren't a bad influence, you may still have outgrown them. Stuff happens, we move on.

I've not outgrown them as such, I want to remain friends with them, I just want them to forget about things that have gone on in the past or preferably stop reminding me about them and telling other people. I feel they contribute a lot to my current problems and especially to my anxiety.

I think I'm going to see a specialist soon, to help with my current mental health issues. I've already been told I have problems. I need to help myself a bit.

Izadora

Sunny_Intervals wrote: »

You can't make someone forget, any more than you can make yourself forget, but you can talk to them about how it's affecting you.

Exactly that ^^^^

I don't know the context in which they're bringing it up but they might think that it's just a bit of gentle ribbing or reminiscing. If they don't know how it's affecting you then they can't know to stop talking about it.

Stoke

It's nothing criminal or anything like that and no I've not done something to someone else. It's involving past 'relations' yes. Very hard to explain.

I've decided not to go to meet them today. Didn't feel up for it

Pyxis

Stoke wrote: »

It's nothing criminal or anything like that and no I've not done something to someone else. It's involving past 'relations' yes. Very hard to explain.

I've decided not to go to meet them today. Didn't feel up for it

Like others have said, you can only talk to them and tell them how you're feeling and how it is affecting you, and ask them to stop dragging up the past.

If they persist in doing so, then they are not real 'friends' at all.
If you have to keep asking them not to bring things up, then your only option may have to be to cut ties.

It really isn't the sign of good friendship to keep on talking about things in a friend's past that they have been asked not to mention. That is selfish and inconsiderate of them.

dekaspace

Relative rang me again, I thought it would stop as they started new job about 6 weeks ago and hasn't contacted me since, guess what his girlfriends "sister" has been rushed to hospital in her home country and needs to pay medical bills straight away or they double every day, I said no and they rang back and rang back constantly all day.

elsien

dekaspace wrote: »

Relative rang me again, I thought it would stop as they started new job about 6 weeks ago and hasn't contacted me since, guess what his girlfriends "sister" has been rushed to hospital in her home country and needs to pay medical bills straight away or they double every day, I said no and they rang back and rang back constantly all day.

Silence the phone, block the number, whatever you need to do to not be harassed.

dekaspace

He gets around the block by using a withheld number, I know its him calling though, I even told him I have been on antidepressants for a few weeks due to my mental health, my benefits have decreased and I can't afford to give anything at all and he wouldn't have it just said its an emergency.

Pyxis

dekaspace wrote: »

He gets around the block by using a withheld number, I know its him calling though, I even told him I have been on antidepressants for a few weeks due to my mental health, my benefits have decreased and I can't afford to give anything at all and he wouldn't have it just said its an emergency.

If you know it's him, why answer?

If you do answer by accident, as soon as you know it's him, just hang up, without saying another word, then take the phone off the hook for a bit.

As long as you continue to talk to him, he will keep trying it on. You have to stonewall him. Don't answer, or don't talk to him, not one word.

The alternative to that is to change your number.

If you don't do either of those things, then you will continue to have this harassment.

jobbingmusician

It also sounds as if he may be being scammed by his GF! Don't get sucked in..... xxxx