Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 3

calleyw

jobbingmusician wrote: »

I'm also hoping that Calley's little dog is feeling better - update please!

JM,


He is thank you.


With in a few days was walking a lot better. Very short walks which is good anyway because of the weather.


He is not a 100% but he is getting close. Which is all good.


And thank you for asking.


You take care


Yours


Calley x

humptydumptybits

Torry I know you are a Christian, is the church a comfort at all? I remember when my father died my mother was very bottled up, the church was the only place she cried, it was as if she felt safe there. Of course we are all different and I hope you find something that is a comfort.

Torry_Quine

humptydumptybits wrote: »

Torry I know you are a Christian, is the church a comfort at all? I remember when my father died my mother was very bottled up, the church was the only place she cried, it was as if she felt safe there. Of course we are all different and I hope you find something that is a comfort.

It's mixed, on the whole the people have been very caring. However I'm angry with God and can't understand how I've been left like this.

System

I'm so sorry things are still hard for you Torry, sometimes with grief it feels like it never gets easier. But you're still here and you're still fighting and although it may take time one day it will hurt that little bit less. Your grief is still real, and still raw. Its understandble that you're feeling the way you are. I've only lost grandparents and that was painful but i imagine no where near as painful as losing your husband. One day, its inevitable, i'm going to lose Swain, and i dread that day because that will be the day my world falls apart. Iwish there was something i could do to tae your pain away and make this easier for you. I'm sorry i can't. But you're in my thoughts and everyone here is always here for you no matter what.

System

Does anyone have experience of changing doctors when you're not in their catchment area? I really really want to go back to my old GP she fought my corner like no other GP i've had. I feel if i could see her again i might get more support? I'm seeingmjy current GP next week, i'm going to be honest about the fatt that recently i have had suicidal feelings, urges to self harm and havng very paranoid thoughts (possibly, i mean i think there are cameras in streetlights filming me but that might actually be a real thing so don't know if its paranoia). In the past 3 weeks i;ve called the samratains 5 times due to being on the edge and not coping. I honestly dont know what its going to take to be refferd back to the mental health team but i can;t go on like this. I havent seen my gp since feb but in the past 4 months ive been more up and down that a seesaw. Ive been relcutant to go back because they just do nothing and it feels so pointless.

humptydumptybits

Torry_Quine wrote: »

It's mixed, on the whole the people have been very caring. However I'm angry with God and can't understand how I've been left like this.

I'm glad they have been supportive. I don't think your feelings are unreasonable or unusual, I'm sure your Minister has supported people in similar situations with a similar reaction. I'm a Catholic and I know my priest would be great in these circumstances but they obviously aren't all the same.

Pyxis

xXMessedUpXx wrote: »

Does anyone have experience of changing doctors when you're not in their catchment area? I really really want to go back to my old GP she fought my corner like no other GP i've had. I feel if i could see her again i might get more support? I'm seeingmjy current GP next week, i'm going to be honest about the fatt that recently i have had suicidal feelings, urges to self harm and havng very paranoid thoughts (possibly, i mean i think there are cameras in streetlights filming me but that might actually be a real thing so don't know if its paranoia). In the past 3 weeks i;ve called the samratains 5 times due to being on the edge and not coping. I honestly dont know what its going to take to be refferd back to the mental health team but i can;t go on like this. I havent seen my gp since feb but in the past 4 months ive been more up and down that a seesaw. Ive been relcutant to go back because they just do nothing and it feels so pointless.

In my experience, GPs can have who they like on their books.

When I moved out of my then GP's area, I asked him if I could stay and he said yes, although the practice manager would have said no.

I suggest you write a personal letter to your GP, telling her all this and asking her if you can return.
Mark the envelope PRIVATE AND PERSONAL.

jobbingmusician

Gosh there is some good advice on here. I hadn't thought - of course people are furious with God when someone dies like this, and your minister/priest/community elder/rabbi/all religions have someone will have lots of experience of this, so even though everyone's grief is individual they should be able to talk things through.



(Torry, I know you are a Christian, but I bet there are hummingbirds who are being helped by your posts and replies, so I have tried to think about all people suffering an unexpected bereavement).


And that's fab advice about a GP, as well. I'm going to digest that and see if it can help DH at all.

dekaspace

GPs is a interesting thing, my town being the main commuting town in this part of the region has the highest population and the worst rated GPs, I stay 0.05 miles from the border with next town over where has excellent GP's

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Torry_Quine wrote: »

It's mixed, on the whole the people have been very caring. However I'm angry with God and can't understand how I've been left like this.

There's different stages of grief Torry, and we move through them at different speeds. When you personally are ready, you'll move onto the next stage and not before. Nobody else knows how you are feeling, but we can at least empathise a little!

I've seen from your posts on other threads that you're a caring individual, so it's natural to feel it's unfair now that you have been left alone.

Sometimes life deals us a blow that seems insurmountable at the time.
When you come through it, you'll be stronger.

Your signature here 'inspires' me - thank you and take care.