How much rent should my daughter pay

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onomatopoeia99 wrote: »

I was paying my parents £25 when I was 18, 28 years ago, out of about £90 a week take home on my trainee wage. £30 inc bills is an absolute steal in 2016.

I agree that £30 is a ridiculously small amount. I think your daughter needs to have a reality check.

Homeownertobe

pigpen wrote: »

Obviously you are one of the perfect people I've heard tell of.

Relatively speaking, I don't doubt!

pigpen wrote: »

People have babies from the age of 12.. it might not be in the world where you live but we don't all live in the land of make believe some of us live in the real world.

If the real world is having multiple children when you can't support them yourself, then you're very welcome to it.

pigpen wrote: »

I bet you're one of those who would force young women to have terminations against their will and drag newborns from the arms of their mothers to put them up for adoption.

Not at all - but it certainly wouldn't be a comfortable lifestyle choice as it is now. Why else would the workless have multiple children?

pigpen wrote: »

How exactly did I get a mortgage 'on the public purse'??? Explanation more than welcome..

You've existed on benefits for years, during which you've paid a mortgage. I should've thought that was quite clear.

pigpen wrote: »

Young people are kicked out of care at 16 where do you think they go?? into the oblivion until they are 50?

I like a non sequitur as much as the next person but this is ridiculous.

theoretica

Another thing to think about - at the moment your daughter seems to have £170 a week for clothes, life and stuff (or saving) for herself and the kid. Maybe less if she is buyng nappies and wipes etc.

How much spendable money do the other people in the house have?

Threebabes

Pollycat wrote: »

How much? :eek:

We pay less than £20 per month (metered).

I agree with the principle though.
If young adults aren't taught how much things cost, they'll never learn to budget.

We pay £48 a month on a meter for a family of 5.

GwylimT

We asked for 1/3 of their income after tax, we however just used this to pay their portion of the food bill and we saved the rest which was then given back towards a house deposit when he moved out.

Personally I wouldn't use maintenance in any rent calculation.

Pollycat

Threebabes wrote: »

We pay £48 a month on a meter for a family of 5.

Just checked - we pay £15.21 per month.

Although there's only the 2 of us, we are both retired so in the house more than a working couple.

We go out a lot so I do have a lot of washing.

And eat 3 meals a day so there's a fair amount of washing
up too.

Back on topic:

Neilnwalker wrote: »

Thank you for all your comments, very much appreciated. So many people have different ideas but this post has helped me. Once again thank you

It's a pity the OP hasn't cleared a few questions up - such as explain his comment 'living the high life' - but if reading other people's opinions has helped, I guess that's a good thing.

Petra_70

pigpen wrote: »

that isnt true.. she can save a deposit with her very generous income and pay her board of £70 a week.. I doubt she needs to spend £130 a week on clothes for her and a baby! .. so within 2-3 months she would have enough for a deposit for a rented place... and with a guarantor she can easily get her own place.

My son, gf and baby had a rented home at 16, I got a mortgage at 18 with a toddler.. DS1 then got a second house whilst 19 and on benefits... and is now on his third home having added a baby which he moved into at 20.

We later got a council house whilst on a student income (grant+loan+child benefit)

Homeownertobe wrote: »

I must be living in a different world because I don't know anyone like this.

Everyone I know wouldn't dream of being so irresponsible and on the public purse to boot!

Completely agree. I am not a benefit basher, but that is just taking the pee! No wonder the country is in the state it's in, when people act like this!

lazer

missbiggles1 wrote: »

And that will come to a great deal more than £30 pw.

(Rent, food, heating, electric, phone, TV etc)


Not Necessarily


When I moved into my parents, there house was mortgage free and very low bills, it was a small 3 bed terrace bungalow.


So Council Tax/Rates - was about £500 a year- £10 a week
Food - for 3 people about £30 - £40 a week
TV Licence - £3 a week
Phone - About £20 a month - so £5 a week
Heating/Electric - about £25 a week


That's only £73 - £75 a week for 3 people. Actually calculating this I now understand why they didn't take anything off me as I was looking to buy. (I did however treat them to meals out, takeways etc and show my appreciation)


I think how much you take also depends on the circumstances, if its a child coming home after uni or after living away for a while, then they don't need to pay board just to understand the value of money, they have lived independently, but if they have always been living at home, then it is important you make them pay their way (But I still think taking a % of income or similar is wrong, unless low earnings and they can't pay their share of the bills)

SandC

I agree with the others that if she is saving up in order to get a better life for herself and child then I may take the hit on the finances side but reassess what I was paying out for her and the baby and have her contribute more that way.

If not, you run the risk of her getting on to the treadmill of 'it's not worth me working when I can get more in benefits'. At such a young age the reality of what having gainful employment will bring in terms of progression to more hours, better job, better pay, training, experience won't have occurred to her and she will only think of available cash (and not even bills either as they are currently sorted).

It really would benefit all round to increase her rent or have her split some bills so she can see the costs of things.

Difficult I know as being a parent you want to help your children when they need you... it's just that the need might never go if you facilitate the lifestyle too much.

mark5

Weather she's saving for her future doesn't come into it, if the OP is paying out for expenses he can't afford for her and the baby it's for her to pay her way.

op says he has 2 other children and can't afford to supplement her the way he currently is.

Op says they had to move to a bigger house because of this situation.

Op says daughter only pays £30 out of nearly £200 per week to cover all bills and phone etc.

It doesn't sound like he's looking to make money, just get a fairer contribution from her for expenses.

£60 still sounds cheap to me in the circumstances, she's legally an adult, took an adult decision, she needs to be treated like an adult and pay her way.