How much rent should my daughter pay

Caz3121

does she run a car? what does she do with her spare £170 per week?

BNT

It is unlikely that she will get a better deal than room and board for her and her child for £30 a week. However, this is not a normal commercial arrangement; she is your daughter and you need to do what is best for her, for you and the rest of the family.

As an adult living with you, she should be expected to contribute to the family living. You have already accommodated her by moving into a larger house. If she is living with you, she should not expect to be living a better life than the rest of you unless she is fully funding that. By charging her less than she is costing you, you are subsidising a better life for her than for her sisters and parents. That doesn't seem right. I would start, not from what is the right amount for her to be paying, but what is the right amount for her to have left over to pay for the things that you are not already providing. The rest should go towards family spending. I think that either she lives with you as part of the family and contributes as such, or she lives with under a commercial arrangement, at something closer to a market rate. The former seems much more harmonious.

Pollycat

I agree with those posters saying £30.00 per week is not enough.

Just curious - how long ago was the £30.00 pw agreed on and how did you arrive at that figure?

Jagraf

What are her plans as that would have a massive effect on what financial support I would give her - ranging from as much as I possibly could to very little.

System

I want to increase this to £60 per week but she seems to think this is unfair. Is anyone in the same position as me and if so how much do you charge her.

We had much the same conversation with our daughter when she got her first wage. Headstrong madam she is... She seemed to think that just because most of her friends (and boyfriend) got away with not paying board she could as well.

In fairness when she and her husband (then boyfriend) were saving for the deposit on their house her Dad did let her off paying board for a couple of months to help them on their way.

pollypenny

You're giving her a home and helping by buying nappies etc. You and she need a talk about the future, as she surely does not intend to live at home forever.

At the very least she needs to learn to budget; that means paying her way. Additionally, she will need to save for future deposit, furniture etc.

With a child, she has responsibilities and cannot simply live the high life, as tough as it may sound.

JReacher1

OP I don't see how anyone on here can help you as they don't really know anything about the personal circumstances. £30 a week isn't much but she is only 19 years old. If you take too much of her income off her then she will never be in a position to move on with her life and get her own place.

Pollycat

JReacher1 wrote: »

OP I don't see how anyone on here can help you as they don't really know anything about the personal circumstances. £30 a week isn't much but she is only 19 years old. If you take too much of her income off her then she will never be in a position to move on with her life and get her own place.

It's this comment that is key to me:

Neilnwalker wrote: »

No sorry 150per week and 200 per month,
It just seems am skint supporting her while she lives the high life,
Thanks for all your help its gave me plenty food for thought
Cheers

If she really is 'living the high life' on benefits whilst her parents support her financially, then she is taking advantage of everybody in the family - including her own siblings.

The OP doesn't say if she is contributing any practical help to the household e.g. cooking, cleaning, washing, ironing.

JReacher1

Pollycat wrote: »

It's this comment that is key to me:

If she really is 'living the high life' on benefits whilst her parents support her financially, then she is taking advantage of everybody in the family - including her own siblings.

The OP doesn't say if she is contributing any practical help to the household e.g. cooking, cleaning, washing, ironing.

People are too judgemental on this site. She is a 19 year old girl who has a two year old baby and based on a new poster posting one line everyone seems to think this girl is out every night living it up on benefits!

The OP's choice is to keep the rent at £30, increase it to £60 or throw her out.

Nobody on this forum can help him make that decision. In fact I would worry about someone who would take advice from an anonymous group of people that could significantly impact his daughter and grandchild!

HappyMJ

JReacher1 wrote: »

People are too judgemental on this site. She is a 19 year old girl who has a two year old baby and based on a new poster posting one line everyone seems to think this girl is out every night living it up on benefits!

The OP's choice is to keep the rent at £30, increase it to £60 or throw her out.

Nobody on this forum can help him make that decision. In fact I would worry about someone who would take advice from an anonymous group of people that could significantly impact his daughter and grandchild!

Then what is she doing with £170 per week. She's not paying for anything. Everything is paid for by mother.

I would never throw her out. I would just increase the rent. She can leave on her own accord.

The poster is looking for anonymous opinions that's what this site is for. If the poster asked her friends what the charged they might think of her as a skinflint who isn't willing to do anything to support her own child and shouldn't be charging her daughter anything. If she does that the daughter and grand child will never move out. You've got to consider making it hard living at home to get them to move out. Although I said earlier I would charge the entire amount of benefits if my daughter found an affordable property to move to then I would help her move into it by paying the deposit and first months rent and I would help her furnish it to a basic standard. I'm not having her living the high life whilst I work my but off earning money to pay for a child that I did not create.