How much rent should my daughter pay

theoretica

What is she spending her money on? If she is saving to move out you might want to continue subsidising her. But the child support and benefits are intended for basic living and supporting the baby, not on her lifestyle. So yes it is unfair - to you.

Mojisola

Neilnwalker wrote: »

I am currently working full time but not really in the position to support her as me and my wife have 2 other children.

theoretica wrote: »

So yes it is unfair - to you.

Not just unfair on her parents but her siblings as well - while she isn't contributing a fair share towards the household expenses, she's taking money away from the other children.

As she's not working, is she doing a good chunk of the household chores?

HappyMJ

£60 a week all inclusive is a bargain. I'd put it up to £150 a week (or up to the exact same amount she gets in benefits-excluding the child support)....but that's me. She gets money to pay for her bills for both herself and her child and all of that should be handed over to you to pay for the bills and feed her and her child.

She's more than welcome to move out and pay for the household bills herself and buy her own food...and to pay for the cost of either travelling to the supermarket or paying for it to be delivered each week.

I would give her back £20 from the benefit money to pay for her personal luxuries and the child support she gets can be used for the child's clothing costs.

I might sound rather mean but I wasn't the one to decide to make the baby without an income or assets backing her so my rules in my house apply.

If she wants more money she can ask the father to pay more in child support.

piglet74

Neilnwalker wrote: »

No sorry 150per week and 200 per month,
It just seems am skint supporting her while she lives the high life,
Thanks for all your help its gave me plenty food for thought
Cheers

She's getting £800 a month, she needs to be giving you a lot more than she is!

yllop1101

If she refuses to pay you, you simply stop buying her food, tell her to go to the laundrette, stop her using the phone/stop paying for her phone, and explain to her these things cost money and if you're not getting paid she isn't getting the above.
She needs to learn the value of money. It frustrates me as young people only don't know the value of money if their parents haven't taught them. If she had always had things handed to her on a plate, or been bailed out for money, then she genuinely isn't going to know how much things cost.

Suggest she looks online for alternatives to give her some perspective.

gettingtheresometime

Neilnwalker wrote: »

No sorry 150per week and 200 per month,
It just seems am skint supporting her while she lives the high life,
Thanks for all your help its gave me plenty food for thought
Cheers

That's still £200 per week

System

My son is paying £50 a week but that does include a contribution to his Dads fuel cost running them both to and from work (200 miles a week). It also includes a donation to his out of town accommodation whilst he is at work. At the moment his Dad is paying most of it.

gettingtheresometime

We had this conversation in work recently;

One of the girls pays no rent
Another just pays £20 a week
The daughter of another pays £100 a month
Whilst our son pays £200 a month.

One of the girls used to pay £250 a month but her parents saved that money which they gave back to her for a deposit.

Basically op one size doesn't fit all - you have to charge the rent that you feel is right; if your daughter doesn't like the subsidised rate then she can always try paying the market rate plus bills

chocolatebum

i would ask for 25 to 30% of what she gets so £50- £60 per week. if you are purchasing anything extra for child, clothes etc then stop. my eldest pays 30% of take home pay to us for his digs, which covers electricity, gas, food, internet, he does his own washing but uses our liquid etc. phone he pays for himself. When he was unemployed we also took the same percentage from him out of his benefits as felt he needed to know that he had to pay his way regardless of how much he was bringing into the house

Lunar_Eclipse

I think it depends what she's doing with her income.

If she's saving hard for a better future for herself and the baby, I'd leave it be. If not, charge more (& maybe save it/some for her.)

With £200/week and rent of £30, I think she should be saving £130/week minimum. This allows for rent, £20 personal spending and £20 on baby's needs. She should be financially focussed on getting a life.

Maybe also talk to her about her plans, in terms of work and childcare. If she's alone, she'll need to get a job soon.