How much rent should my daughter pay

JReacher1

BNT wrote: »

From the opening post:



People can only advise based on the information they are given, or they can ask for more information. If the information given is wrong or misleading, the advice might well be wrong or misguided.

The line you've quoted isn't conclusive. It is unlikely that he does provide "everything" as I doubt he buys his daughters clothes etc. The list of things quoted are all general utility bills with the exception of food. It is likely she just eats the same as everyone else.

Therefore unless the OP comes back to clarify at the moment you can't say with any authority that he does pay for the baby's clothes, nappy's etc.

mark5

BNT wrote: »

From the opening post:



People can only advise based on the information they are given, or they can ask for more information. If the information given is wrong or misleading, the advice might well be wrong or misguided.

I took everything to mean everything as well. Either way £30 is way to low for the circumstances.

Pollycat

mark5 wrote: »

At 19 and having a baby she's probably had no taste of the real world yet, one of the apprentices in work (few years back) was stunned when we told him in work that water costs about £50 per month, he honestly thought it was free, he couldn't understand council tax either, had never heard of it.
He was moaning his mum wanted rent and he had a car and Mobil phone to pay for.

How much? :eek:

We pay less than £20 per month (metered).

I agree with the principle though.
If young adults aren't taught how much things cost, they'll never learn to budget.

BNT

JReacher1 wrote: »

The line you've quoted isn't conclusive. It is unlikely that he does provide "everything" as I doubt he buys his daughters clothes etc. The list of things quoted are all general utility bills with the exception of food. It is likely she just eats the same as everyone else.

Therefore unless the OP comes back to clarify at the moment you can't say with any authority that he does pay for the baby's clothes, nappy's etc.

You might be right. He might have written something he didn't mean. Maybe you are right to 'fit the facts around the information you are given' rather than use the facts as written.

It is perfectly possible to advise without all the facts and without being judgmental. One can do this by providing a few things to think about; advice that can be modified to fit the circumstances.

LoveLifeAgain

Quizzical_Squirrel wrote: »

You're being taken for a mug.

Oh yes!
£100 a week is still very reasonable for all she is getting.

BoJangles_2

JReacher1 wrote: »

OP I don't see how anyone on here can help you as they don't really know anything about the personal circumstances. £30 a week isn't much but she is only 19 years old. If you take too much of her income off her then she will never be in a position to move on with her life and get her own place.

An adult by all accounts, old enough to have a baby she is then old enough to provide for that baby. Whatever money she does pay out she is only paying a nominal amount for living costs and bills. In the real world that just wouldn't happen and it sounds like she is taking advantage somewhat, especially when others struggling to pay have asked for more money to be paid. If there are spare funds and she can afford to pay more, she should!

mark5

Pollycat wrote: »

How much? :eek:

We pay less than £20 per month (metered).

I agree with the principle though.
If young adults aren't taught how much things cost, they'll never learn to budget.

I pay about £40 per month metered , my house on the fixed price is about £50 possibly more now.

audigex

I've always gone with the theory that rent to parents for adult offspring should be the greater of

- Minimum: the extra it costs to keep them on top of your own bills
- 50% of their income
- £200/month

If they'd really struggle with £200/month, I'd consider reducing it down as far as the minimum "extra" cost of keeping them in your home. Above £200/month I think a flat 50% is fair considering most people renting privately pay >50% of their income in bills etc

If they earn enough that 50% of their income is more expensive than living elsewhere, they shouldn't be living with you anyway

Mojisola

Neilnwalker wrote: »

I also moved into a large 4 bed to accommodate her and the baby which has increased my out goings.

It always surprises me that discussions about financial contributions and sharing chores doesn't take place as part of the planning before major changes to family life.

Many of this young woman's peer group will be at university and managing their own lives and finances. As she's missing out on that life lesson, she needs to be involved in the family finances so that she learns how much just basic living costs and starts contributing a fair share towards them.

lazer

thorsoak wrote: »

Your daughter's benefits will include a specific amount for her housing - she should be paying this over to you. And it will be more than she is paying you at the moment.

There will not be anything included for housing as she is living with family.


However, the amount she is getting should cover all bills other than housing and she is getting £50 a week extra in maintenance too