1.am I reasonable 2.childcare costs

peachyprice

Daddys.girl wrote: »

She can pick and choose time off with in reason. Unfortunately I can not

If we was still together then it would be split 50)50

It still should be now.

Person_one

peachyprice wrote: »

It really isn't that rare to be able to have at least some time off during school holidays.

OP works in a team of 6, what are the chances of ALL 6 of those people having children

Just to point out, having children is not the only reason (or only legitimate reason) somebody might want to take annual leave that coincides with school holidays...

onlyroz

I can't comment on the ins-and-outs of who should pay, but round here a day in the holiday club costs £23, so would be £115 for a week.

Guest101

peachyprice wrote: »

It really isn't that rare to be able to have at least some time off during school holidays.

OP works in a team of 6, what are the chances of ALL 6 of those people having children and ALL the other 5 hogging the 13 weeks school holidays between them?

As I said earlier, OP needs to speak to his colleagues and come to an arrangement that is fair to all of them. Sticking his head in the sand and saying he might not be able to take time off so that's that isn't good enough.

He needs to put his daughter first and speak up for himself. So he can't book any leave until 1st april, neither can any of his colleagues, they either work it out between them before submitting their requests or he makes damn sure he gets in there first. It's what parents do.

Management can dictate when annual leave is taken. He doesn't really get a say in the matter if push comes to shove....

quidsy

Which is why parents use holiday clubs, at considerable expense to ensure their little ones are looked after during school holidays. The op & his ex will need to research local clubs, consider the costs & split equally any expense.

Kynthia

Guest101 wrote: »

Management can dictate when annual leave is taken. He doesn't really get a say in the matter if push comes to shove....

He gets as much day as his colleagues who are booking some school holiday leave.

If holidays are split between the parents then he needs to use some of his leave to cover the school holidays and pay/arrange for childcare for the rest of his half.

OP you get your DD for two days a week and presumably your DD is a school for one of those days and your ex is working? Then your ex is only getting one daytime child free a week and you want her to come over and look after your child while you play football during every other one of these child free days? Of course she's busy and doing other things. Fair enough if you want to stop going over there for favours too but I don't think it's unreasonable fir you to arrange someone to look after your child while you go out during your days.

Guest101

Kynthia wrote: »

He gets as much day as his colleagues who are booking some school holiday leave.

If holidays are split between the parents then he needs to use some of his leave to cover the school holidays and pay/arrange for childcare for the rest of his half.

OP you get your DD for two days a week and presumably your DD is a school for one of those days and your ex is working? Then your ex is only getting one daytime child free a week and you want her to come over and look after your child while you play football during every other one of these child free days? Of course she's busy and doing other things. Fair enough if you want to stop going over there for favours too but I don't think it's unreasonable fir you to arrange someone to look after your child while you go out during your days.

Not true.


The employer is free to give one employee all their leave outside of term and another all in term.

burlington6

You have given her too much and now she's taking the p s.

You're a man, so on this forum you are automatically seen as the bad guy. She earns more and you gave her £10,000. Flip the sexes and the forum would be in uproar.

'' My male ex partner earns more than me and when we split I gave him £10,000 of my savings ( he also only ever paid the food bill ) ''

duchy

Daddys.girl wrote: »

My only is objection is that why should I pay for the child care costs when I thought the maintenance should cover it,

Simple Maths

Your £250 a month doesn't cover even half of childcare for "your 2 weeks" - and the child still needs to be fed, watered clothed and housed year round - there's no such thing as a holiday from that !!

duchy

Daddys.girl wrote: »

She can pick and choose time off with in reason. Unfortunately I can not

If we was still together then it would be split 50)50

So what's the difference
The child still has 50% of your DNA - that didn't change when you split up.