People who comment on your age.

lisa110rry

heuchera wrote: »

When you look at slebs like Joan Bakewell or Mary Berry you think wow they don't look like they're in their 80s, but as you say, on closer inspection they do.

Sorry heuch, but Ms Bakewell looks about 60 to me! I reckon I'd get a better idea from the way she moved though if I met her.

Peter333

heuchera wrote: »

When you look at slebs like Joan Bakewell or Mary Berry you think wow they don't look like they're in their 80s, but as you say, on closer inspection they do.

Thanks H. This is the point I am trying to make! Like Helen Mirren and Joanna Lumley, these ladies look great, and they are attractive, but they don't look a lot YOUNGER than they are. Maybe a bit younger, (6-8 years or so,) but not a lot. Helen Mirren is very sexy and attractive, but looks like a woman in her early to mid 60s. So she looks no more than 5-8 years younger than she is IMO.

lisa110rry wrote: »

Oddly, I can't see where the OP is suggesting s/he (apologies if I've not noted the gender of the OP) is beautiful/attractive, and I have no idea of the definition of the word 'lush' in this context.

I've a friend whose 14-year-old daughter looks in single figures and I suspect this will continue, and a former neighbour's daughter had medical issues which made her look exceptionally young.

Must be quite unsettling OP, when it was suggested my husband was my father, I was mortified for him. Chin up!

No I didn't say she was saying that, but it's just that I have seen a few threads that begin like the OP's where this is what they think, and other women are jealous of them yada yada...

And I am sorry but although Joan does not look 82, she does NOT look 60. 72-73 at the least.

heuchera

lisa110rry wrote: »

Sorry heuch, but Ms Bakewell looks about 60 to me! I reckon I'd get a better idea from the way she moved though if I met her.

She does look the younger of the two. (She was actually quite stunning in her youth)

I think Mary Berry's had a bit of work done on her face, - her neck gives away her age.

Redacted

WeAreGhosts wrote: »

I'm not quite that young looking, but not far off!
I'm short and thin, too, so that doesn't help.

I want to respond and let people know they're being rude, but not in a confrontational/rude way ...


And for the other poster ... I said I look young. I never said I was attractive, nor perfect.

I don't think there is a one size fits all reply that will always not seem rude or non-confrontational. I think you'll just have to decide what is appropriate in any given situation.

It's a bit like someone asking you if you're pregnant, when you're not. They're not meaning to be rude, but they are anyway (for background, I was very ill, very thin but with a very distended tummy. Not sure how people got confused, but I was asked on 3 separate occasions during that ill time).

Peter333

heuchera wrote: »

She does look the younger of the two. (She was actually quite stunning in her youth)

I think Mary Berry's had a bit of work done on her face, - her neck gives away her age.

I agree about Joan. And as I said, she and Mary, and many other famous ladies of 60-65+ look quite stunning and sexy. But I don't think they look more than 10 years younger than they are. Not when you look at them properly.

I was surprised to discover Andrea McLean was 46 (off Loose Women) I thought she was 38-39. Then again, that is only 8 years younger.

As for women who have plastic surgery; they don't usually look younger really.


And on that note, I am logging off. The pub awaits.

SquirrelSmall

I'm 44 (albeit that in my head I'm still somewhere between 17 and 23). No one in the last two years, of new acquaintances, has "placed me" as being any older than 35. I smoke, I drink, but I'm happy in my skin. I think the "happy" thing helps. Plus, possibly (and this open a can of worms) I've never had kids. I do think pregnancy hormones age women. Maybe I'm wrong.

KRB2725

If anyone, male or female, doesn't enjoy looking younger than their years then I recommend popping out a couple of kids! Voila, within a year you will look 5 years older and after 3 years you'll look (at least) 10 years older than before! To add to the joy, you will feel it too!

Bogof_Babe

Funny how no-one ever says "oh you're only 30, I had you down as at least 40".

Then you really would have something to grumble about :eek: .

Popstess

It's one of those things, people see no problem in commenting on people looking young just like they don't think there's a problem commenting on people who are thin. Yet most people wouldn't dream of making a rude comment about someone looking older than they are or someone looking fat.
I think it's because most people see being thin or looking youthful as a positive thing and although you may feel they're making a rude comment they probably think it's complimentary.
Personally I would be thrilled if someone thought I was much younger than I am lol and I think most people would and that's why they don't see it as being offensive when they comment.
However I do understand that we always want what we can't have lol and i can understand you don't like it happening to you.
Could you just respond "I hear that a lot" and smile. As for the person in the bank saying you look about 12 that's just a saying people say when referring to someone younger, although i think that was unprofessional of him to say. The professional thing to do would have been to appologise and say sorry I thought you were younger end of.

TBagpuss

I'm not sure that there is a 'one size fits all' answer but depending on circumstances, if they ask you your age then answers you could try are:

"Why do you ask?" (Or, "That's a very personal question. Why do you ask?")

"As old as my tongue and a little older than my teeth"

"Old enough to know it's rude to ask strangers their age" (that's a bit more confrontational, obviously)

or simply "Over 21"

A surprised look and simply moving on as if you hadn't heard is also an option.

I've met one or two people who look *significantly* younger than they are so I don't find it inherently unbeliveable