Deal Breakers in relationships

Dill

Petra_70 wrote: »

Just a bit of Thursday fun!

I was talking about this today with my friend. One of her 'deal breakers' was that she would never marry a vegan! She said she had 10 years with one, and it was a constant battle trying to appease him with meals/food. Also, he cannot smoke.

My deal breakers would be no smokers, and he has to be taller than me. He must have a job, and no halitosis. :rotfl:

My friend's son, who is in his early 20s, said he would never date a girl with tattooes, and he would never date anyone fat! :eek:

Tell me your dealbreakers, and tell me if you're female or male

Thank you.

I am female and the obvious dealbreaker would be someone married (or taken) already. I don't think I'd want to share someone!

mark5

AubreyMac wrote: »

I'm in my early 30s so would like a bloke from mid - late 30's onwards.


This is also why I wouldn't want a guy with a child as at that age the child is likely to be young.

Does ruling out guys with kids leave you with many options?

If I was single and ruled out women with children in my age range I doubt there would be many options available to me, saying that I wouldn't know where to look in my mid 30's.

AubreyMac

mark5 wrote: »

Does ruling out guys with kids leave you with many options?

If I was single and ruled out women with children in my age range I doubt there would be many options available to me, saying that I wouldn't know where to look in my mid 30's.

I've not actively been looking but I think there are a lot of men in their 30s without kids. As one of my friends keep telling me that at my age there's 'still a chance'.

With regards to where to look, isn't everything online these days?

heuchera

Lily-Rose wrote: »

I do agree with Burlington though, that people make excuses for each other, 'fat' is now the new 'curvy,' obesity is celebrated, and you get laid into if you slate someone for being fat, but not if you slate someone for being thin. And I also feel exasperated when people who are very fat try to convince themselves that they are healthy and look good. This is not the case for the majority of very fat people.

So I do see both sides of the 'fat' argument.

People (men and women) are much bigger these days. I don't know why that is, - more sedentary lifestyles, perhaps, coupled with convenience foods? I also can't help noticing that some of the girls who come out of school in their little short skirts are absolutely HUGE! Seems that fat has become the norm now


Companies like Marks and Spencer have what's known as 'vanity sizing' in their women's clothing. Their size 8 skirts actually have at least a 30 inch waist! You notice it if you buy 'retro' clothing - a size 12 in the 1980s is about a size 6-8 now.


Marilyn Monroe was a size 14-16 but she wasn't overweight. Compare her curves to someone these days who considers herself to be a 'size 16'..

onlyroz

Person_one wrote: »

Western society has tied itself up in so many knots over the size of women's bodies that its become complete madness. I've opted out, its lovely!

There's a difference between not stressing too much and being a happy size 14, to totally stopping caring about your own health and becoming a size 24. To tell such people that there is nothing wrong with their appearance or health is doing them a major disservice.

Gloomendoom

heuchera wrote: »

Marilyn Monroe was a size 14-16 but she wasn't overweight. Compare her curves to someone these days who considers herself to be a 'size 16'..

Presumably, that's a size 14-16 American which is 16-18 UK.

Her vital statistics, according to her dressmaker, were 35, 22, 35 and she was 5' 5.5" tall. UK size 16 is 41, 34, 44

Marilyn Monroe was closer to 6/8 in modern UK sizes.

Person_one

onlyroz wrote: »

There's a difference between not stressing too much and being a happy size 14, to totally stopping caring about your own health and becoming a size 24. To tell such people that there is nothing wrong with their appearance or health is doing them a major disservice.

I think it would be entirely true to say there is nothing 'wrong' with their appearance. There shouldn't be any rights or wrongs related to how we look, its a ridiculous way to determine the value of a human being.

Health wise, its more likely that there will be health problems as a result of being a size 24 (again, a very variable measurement!) but its not inevitable, and anyway, its entirely between that person and their doctor or any other health professional they deal with surely? Why is someone's size or weight anybody else's business at all? Why do so many people think they have a right to a loudly stated opinion on the matter?

I'm afraid fat is still a feminist issue! Rampant body policing/shaming abounds, the health angle is just a fig leaf.

onlyroz

Person_one wrote: »

I think it would be entirely true to say there is nothing 'wrong' with their appearance. There shouldn't be any rights or wrongs related to how we look, its a ridiculous way to determine the value of a human being.

Health wise, its more likely that there will be health problems as a result of being a size 24 (again, a very variable measurement!) but its not inevitable, and anyway, its entirely between that person and their doctor or any other health professional they deal with surely? Why is someone's size or weight anybody else's business at all? Why do so many people think they have a right to a loudly stated opinion on the matter?

I'm afraid fat is still a feminist issue!

I'm not suggesting that we yell "hey fatty" at people in the street - but on the other hand I don't think we should be normalising obesity either.

And there are just as many obese men as women.

BarryBlue

Jagraf wrote: »

It must be really hard to live without any imagination

Don't you think about those people who imagined the world could be different, scientists who invent, researchers who keep trying and trying to find cures?

Again, not the issue at all. There is no imagination required for belief, since it is all something that has been imagined by someone else in the past. Imagination is coming to your own conclusions, not simply copying the ideas of others word-for-word.

Research and discovery is about creativity. There is nothing creative about repeating the same things that everyone else within an organisation does, especially without evidence. Can you really tell me that islam is a creative force, for instance?

mark5

AubreyMac wrote: »

I've not actively been looking but I think there are a lot of men in their 30s without kids. As one of my friends keep telling me that at my age there's 'still a chance'.

With regards to where to look, isn't everything online these days?

I think I prefer the old way, Is it like Facebook where no one looks like their profile picture?