Deal Breakers in relationships

Guest101

burlington6 wrote: »

But we are getting to the point in the female world where obese, overweight women are making out that it's healthy to be like that.

If you want to be fat, fair enough but don't try and convince others it's healthy or attractive.

Totally agree


I often see people and think how they got into that state - but they may be perfectly happy like that. Which is fine.


Im not fat. Im not a fitness buff. I'm naturally stocky.


My OH tells me I need to 'tone up' but not lose weight. I tend to ignore her ramblings, life is easier that way...

burlington6

Lily Rose, I was in a similar situation as you.

It's only when you stop the excuses and do something about it results happen.

I honestly think the straight up mocking from the lads made me change.

If a group of women are on a night out and an overweight friend of theirs joins them and what she is wearing makes her weight seem worse, women usually still compliment her on how she looks.

Men are usually straight to the point and brutal about it when face with a similar male friend.

We don't need more plus size models that only encourage others to stay the way they are.

We need more healthy, fit models.

When do you ever hear a bloke telling his fat mate '' Oh that shirt really suits your curves''

Lily-Rose_3

burlington6 wrote: »

Lily Rose, I was in a similar situation as you.

It's only when you stop the excuses and do something about it results happen.

I honestly think the straight up mocking from the lads made me change.

If a group of women are on a night out and an overweight friend of theirs joins them and what she is wearing makes her weight seem worse, women usually still compliment her on how she looks.

Men are usually straight to the point and brutal about it when face with a similar male friend.

When do you ever hear a bloke telling his fat mate '' Oh that shirt really suits your curves''

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl: Men are a bit more brutal aren't they?!

As you said though, it's probably not a bad thing.

And you're right, when you stop making excuses and address the issue, then things can - and will - change.

I got to the point where I was 15 and a half stone, a size 20 was a bit tight, I couldn't walk up 13 stairs without stopping half way, I was developing rashes under my arms, my joints hurt, my breathing was a bit laboured - especially when I was sleeping, and my snoring was awful!

I now have none of those ailments, and am now virtually as healthy as my 20 year old daughter, and feel and look so much better. I don't know why I didn't do this 10 years ago... Better late than never I guess.

Gloomendoom

burlington6 wrote: »

Men are usually straight to the point and brutal about it when face with a similar male friend.

They certainly are. I frequent another 99% male forum and the mickey taking is ruthless. God help you if you are fat or can't spell.

The only taboos are wives and children.

mark5

Most blokes just abuse each other and its accepted and taken in good humour most of the time.

Women tend to tell their friends what they want to hear, not the truth.

My interpretation of curvy and my wife's interpretation of curvy are way out of sync.

If you eat 3 reasonable sized meals per day,( not kfc) drink mainly water, and get some exercise is it that hard to maintain a decent weight?

Have one day each week when you eat or drink what you like.

You see boys in work who complain they can't lose weight yet they drink 3-4 cans of coke during a shift and stuff a snickers in their gob every few hours. They must spend £20 per week in the vending machine. There's a free water dispenser with cups next to the drinks machine. I'm not sure if women do this, I don't think we have ever had a woman working with us!

Gloomendoom

mark5 wrote: »

My interpretation of curvy and my wife's interpretation of curvy are way out of sync

Luckily, my wife shares the same interpretation of 'curvy' as I do.

Otherwise it might have been a deal breaker.

BarryBlue

Jagraf wrote: »

I like life that way. Contrary to you thinking that religios people are not confident people, i think its those who feel secure in the confinement of fact who struggle.

I think that once you can grasp the reality that there is one life and nothing beyond it, the acceptance of that is a huge relief to the way you can live your life. Many people seem to worry about this so-called afterlife, and shape their 'real' life so that it will all fall into place when they fall off the perch. It is wonderfully liberating to live life for what it is and not what you imagine it might be. That, to me, is a huge confidence booster.

AubreyMac

I'm female.


The biggest deal breaker for me at the moment is if a guy still lived at home with his parents.


I'm also put off if he had a child/children.


I also don't like anyone who holds a grudge on past relationships.

burlington6

AubreyMac wrote: »

I'm female.


The biggest deal breaker for me at the moment is if a guy still lived at home with his parents.


I'm also put off if he had a child/children.


I also don't like anyone who holds a grudge on past relationships.

What if you still did/do?

AubreyMac

burlington6 wrote: »

What if you still did/do?

If I did then I can't complain.


But I don't, so I can.