Deal Breakers in relationships

Gavin83

AubreyMac wrote: »

I'm female.


The biggest deal breaker for me at the moment is if a guy still lived at home with his parents.


I'm also put off if he had a child/children.


I also don't like anyone who holds a grudge on past relationships.

Out of interest what kind of age range of men would you be considering here?

An 18 year old living with parents is normal. A 40 year old should probably have moved out.

AubreyMac

Gavin83 wrote: »

Out of interest what kind of age range of men would you be considering here?

An 18 year old living with parents is normal. A 40 year old should probably have moved out.

I'm in my early 30s so would like a bloke from mid - late 30's onwards.


This is also why I wouldn't want a guy with a child as at that age the child is likely to be young.

Chlorine7

If someone was an estate agent. That would be an instant put-off

Jagraf

BarryBlue wrote: »

I think that once you can grasp the reality that there is one life and nothing beyond it, the acceptance of that is a huge relief to the way you can live your life. Many people seem to worry about this so-called afterlife, and shape their 'real' life so that it will all fall into place when they fall off the perch. It is wonderfully liberating to live life for what it is and not what you imagine it might be. That, to me, is a huge confidence booster.

It must be really hard to live without any imagination

Don't you think about those people who imagined the world could be different, scientists who invent, researchers who keep trying and trying to find cures?

Lily-Rose_3

BarryBlue wrote: »

I think that once you can grasp the reality that there is one life and nothing beyond it, the acceptance of that is a huge relief to the way you can live your life. Many people seem to worry about this so-called afterlife, and shape their 'real' life so that it will all fall into place when they fall off the perch. It is wonderfully liberating to live life for what it is and not what you imagine it might be. That, to me, is a huge confidence booster.

That is YOUR reality!

What an incredibly arrogant post. Assuming that everyone who has a faith, and a belief that there is an afterlife, is deluded. That is basically what you are saying, seeing as how you say 'once people accept the 'reality!' For many people, a God, and an afterlife IS the reality.

How would you like it if someone said 'I actually pity you and your lack of faith. And I think you are wrong in what you say, and once you accept the reality of the Lord, your life will be enhanced...'

That is basically what YOU are doing. You are basically preaching at people to try to make them accept YOUR views, and saying they are wrong in what they believe. You are doing what you accuse religious people of doing?! Can you actually hear yourself? :rotfl:

For many, the acceptance that there IS a life after death, and there IS a God is wonderfully liberating, and helps them live their life to the full.

Don't have a faith, and don't 'believe' if you so wish, but how dare you belittle and ridicule people who do have a faith, and imply that they are all deluded/stupid/daft and so on?!

So so so rude!

Person_one

Lily-Rose wrote: »

When you apply the will to do something, you CAN do it, and you do feel so much better when you lose weight. Your physical and mental health is better, you are healthier, and you look better.

Nah, not always. Years back in my twenties I dieted and ran myself down to the supposedly 'perfect' size 8-10. Though I do say it myself, I looked fantastic but it was completely unsustainable and made me miserable. My body was crying out for me to eat more all the time and I thought about food and weight multiple times every single day.

Then I relaxed and let myself even out at a size 14-16, I am healthier and happier and while I might not look what is generally considered 'better' I find myself not caring all that much what other people may prefer me to look like, which has to be better, right?

Western society has tied itself up in so many knots over the size of women's bodies that its become complete madness. I've opted out, its lovely!

As for the original topic, my main deal breakers are men with cats (I'm allergic), men who want kids ( I don't) and men who are self centred (because I am too so it would be a disaster!). Hence being single and only going on about 2 dates a year to keep my hand in so to speak! :rotfl:

Person_one

Lily-Rose wrote: »

How would you like it if someone said 'I actually pity you and your lack of faith. And I think you are wrong in what you say, and once you accept the reality of the Lord, your life will be enhanced...'

Um, don't religious people say that all the time? That's kind of their whole message, isn't it?

mark5

AubreyMac wrote: »

I'm female.


The biggest deal breaker for me at the moment is if a guy still lived at home with his parents.


I'm also put off if he had a child/children.


I also don't like anyone who holds a grudge on past relationships.

I think most hold a grudge about past relationships, some hide it better than others. A little jealousy is fine anyway it's when it gets obsessive it's a problem.


Most estate agents I've met are lookers and easy on the eye!

Gloomendoom

Person_one wrote: »

Um, don't religious people say that all the time? That's kind of their whole message, isn't it?

A minority might do. In my experience, the vast majority don't.

You may be mixing with the wrong sort of religious people.

AubreyMac

mark5 wrote: »

I think most hold a grudge about past relationships, some hide it better than others. A little jealousy is fine anyway it's when it gets obsessive it's a problem.

What about accountability? I'm not talking just romantic relationships but past relationships in general.

I know many people who dwell on 'daddy did this' or 'mummy didn't do that' etc and it is that attitude that prevents people moving forward.

Sure I have grudges but I accept my role in previous break ups, acknowledge them and steer my life in the direction I'd like it to go rather than blame others totally for my shortfalls.