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mumps

heuchera wrote: »

People are talking so much about the way this couple look I'm almost tempted to click on a Daily Mail link.. but I won't

You're not as nosy as most of us.

Brighton_belle

heuchera wrote: »

People are talking so much about the way this couple look I'm almost tempted to click on a Daily Mail link.. but I won't

Stay Strong heuchera.

heuchera

mumps wrote: »

You're not as nosy as most of us.

I'll just use my imagination.. 26, dropped 4 sprogs, looks older than she is (apparently!), refusing sex, and husband's let himself go. They both sound delightful :rotfl:

Kynthia

FBaby wrote: »

I have heard so many times girlfriends having a moan about their partner not doing something they ask them to do, usually in relation to helping with the children or house chores, and then joking that they will make them pay when they claim to suffer from a headache when going to bed. I am pretty confident that in most cases, it was all talk, letting steam out etc...because they are all still -seemingly-happy married, but I can't help but wonder whether they are some women who don't just joke about it but actually use it as punishment indeed.

I can't say that I've ever heard a woman say that. However perhaps you are interpreting their meaning incorrectly and it's not that they'll refuse their husbands advances as a punishment. Perhaps what they are saying is that they are unlikely to feel like having sex with their husband because they are too tired after not getting any help, or because they won't feel like sharing their body with someone they are annoyed at and who has been selfish.

I've heard it said by a few women that there's nothing sexier than a man doing housework. I'm sure there was a study that showed on average the happiest marriages were the ones where the men did a greater than average percentage of the household chores. So if you see your husband doing the washing up, folding some laundry and then putting the children to bed perhaps you fancy them more, and are less worn out and not resentful, which is much more likely to lead to sex.

Gloomendoom

heuchera wrote: »

I'll just use my imagination.. 26, dropped 4 sprogs, looks older than she is (apparently!), refusing sex, and husband's let himself go. They both sound delightful :rotfl:

Just for you...

heuchera

Gloomendoom wrote: »

Just for you...

Yeah.. he does need to lose a few stone :rotfl: What an odd couple.
She looks quite glamorous actually. I was picturing someone a bit more 'Jeremy Kyle'!

onlyroz

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

I agree, but sex is usually part of it! At least if you chose not to bother, it should at least be discussed and agreed together,

There's a big difference between "not bothering", and being exhausted because you've got four toddlers running you ragged but your husband still expecting sex on tap.

Gloomendoom

onlyroz wrote: »

There's a big difference between "not bothering", and being exhausted because you've got four toddlers running you ragged but your husband still expecting sex on tap.

On tap? The bloke hasn't had it in months.

onlyroz

Guest101 wrote: »

I disagree that has been the attitude, but that's your opinion.

However on what basis can you demand fidelity??!!

Surely the point is to give your partner a reason not to leave, not a demand?

For most people infidelity would be a deal breaker. If you're unhappy in your relationship then I think most people would try and fix it, or leave, before starting up a new one.

Gloomendoom

onlyroz wrote: »

For most people infidelity would be a deal breaker. If you're unhappy in your relationship then I think most people would try and fix it, or leave, before starting up a new one.

If you're unhappy in your relationship because your spouse has decided that they no longer want a sexual relationship with you, how does that get fixed?