3.5 months 'dating'...

KRB2725

After such a short period of time I wouldn't expect an invitation to the whole day, but maybe a come along in the evening informal invitation. There's usually enough food at a buffet for one more.

Obviously though for that to happen, they need to know about you! That would be my bigger concern, why has he not mentioned you? My husband and I didn't meet each others families for about 8 months but they both knew we were seeing each other.

Maybe he is just incredibly private and wants things to be more serious before mentioning you, but i would have expected your name and appropriate questioning to come up in conversation. It's odd that he won't discuss it with you though.

Made_Without

piglet74 wrote: »

How did you hear about the wedding?

Is he private about other aspects of his life? Maybe he has been hurt in the past, or has recently split up with someone?

He told me about it on the first date we had. There was an engagement party / ceremony that weekend... and no I didn't expect an invite to that before someone leaps on me

Overall, he's very open about things, I don't get the impression that he deliberately 'hides' stuff.
We've not really spoken much about past relationships or behaviours - that's something that he's less comfortable with.
I don't necessarily need to know all back history - only about anything that may be influencing his current way of thinking / behaving.

C*F

pleasedelete

Engagement ceremony?

Made_Without

emmatthews wrote: »

After such a short period of time I wouldn't expect an invitation to the whole day, but maybe a come along in the evening informal invitation. There's usually enough food at a buffet for one more.

Obviously though for that to happen, they need to know about you! That would be my bigger concern, why has he not mentioned you? My husband and I didn't meet each others families for about 8 months but they both knew we were seeing each other.

Maybe he is just incredibly private and wants things to be more serious before mentioning you, but i would have expected your name and appropriate questioning to come up in conversation. It's odd that he won't discuss it with you though.

I agree, this is less about the wedding and more I guess about not being 'mentioned' or that it being known that he is seeing someone. I'll try to have that conversation again.

C*F

piglet74

Agree! I wouldn't be crazy about hearing all the past history, unless there was a particularly important relationship to him that is still affecting him

balletshoes

so this isn't immediate family of his, or very good friends of his? He's going because he's helped with the arrangements for the wedding?
In that case, I wouldn't expect he'd feel comfortable taking a "plus one" anyway (as in, he's going as a thanks for helping with the arrangements, his partner/gf wasn't anything to do with that).

I was in a relationship with my now-husband for over a year before I told my immediate family - I just couldn't face all the 20 questions that would have inevitably followed, so I waited until I was fairly certain we were going somewhere.

Made_Without

balletshoes wrote: »

so this isn't immediate family of his, or very good friends of his? He's going because he's helped with the arrangements for the wedding?
In that case, I wouldn't expect he'd feel comfortable taking a "plus one" anyway (as in, he's going as a thanks for helping with the arrangements, his partner/gf wasn't anything to do with that).

I was in a relationship with my now-husband for over a year before I told my immediate family - I just couldn't face all the 20 questions that would have inevitably followed, so I waited until I was fairly certain we were going somewhere.

His sibling's wedding.

balletshoes

Chocolate*fish wrote: »

His sibling's wedding.

sorry, i mis-read your previous post.

I do think its okay though, both the family not inviting you because they don't know you exist, and your bf not inviting you because its too soon.

piglet74

Do you and he have any mutual friends?

Made_Without

piglet74 wrote: »

Do you and he have any mutual friends?

Nope, I met him on a night out. He's met friend's of mine ... I've not met friend's of his. I'm more of a planner and have things in the diary. I don't think he sees his friends as often as I do, so it doesn't seem too unusual - other than obviously it would be nice if he was to arrange a night out or some excuse for me to meet them.

C*F