girlfriend/boyfriend behaviour

cuthbertlilly

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cuthbertlilly

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cuthbertlilly wrote: »

yes there's a certain truth to that. OH early 30s, bar/waiter early 20s. made me a bit uncomfortable.

Literally nothing wrong with that.


Later 40's and early 20's maybe, but 23-33, whats the issue?


(purely from the age front, not the she's taken, he may be too angle)

burlington6

Alikay wrote: »

Perhaps the OP is more bothered about his girlfriend embarrassing herself (and him) by going on about how handsome the waiter is, and simpering over him. Not classy or amusing at any age, but rather pathetic if she's a mature lady acting like that around a much younger guy whilst her partner's present.

And what do you think will happen if he makes a song and dance about it?

Alikay

burlington6 wrote: »

And what do you think will happen if he makes a song and dance about it?

Who - the waiter? I'd imagine his boss would sympathise with him and assign another server to that particular table, much the same as if it was a young waitress being hit on by an older bloke out with partner and friends.

Peter333

Not sure if it would bother me as it's never happened.

However, I do know someone who was always letching after other women - in front of his wife - and she just sat there quietly and looked embarrassed. A proper jack-the-lad he was. And this one time (after she had tolerated him for 5 years,) a fella at work started complimenting her, and told everyone how attracted he was to her.

When they were out one time, this work colleague was there, and someone let it slip that this bloke fancied this woman, and her husband (the letch!) almost has a meltdown. He literally could not hack it that someone else fancied his wife. He was seething and fuming, and went utterly mental.

Moreover, he started saying stuff to her afterwards, that she was fat, ugly, and daft, and anyone who fancies her must need a white stick. He was so bitter and jealous and angry that someone else fancied her, that he tried to 'put her in her place.' (Even though she had done nothing wrong.)

Not surprisingly, he and her are not still together. She left him for said colleague.

Funny how some people are OK to flirt and have members of the opposite sex all over them, but can't stand it when the tables are turned, and someone is attracted to their partner.

burlington6

Alikay wrote: »

Who - the waiter? I'd imagine his boss would sympathise with him and assign another server to that particular table, much the same as if it was a young waitress being hit on by an older bloke out with partner and friends.

No the OP.

The waiter can do what he likes with the op's girlfriend as long as it doesn't affect his job

cuthbertlilly

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pigpen

I'd ask if my OH wanted me to get their number for him..

Window shopping is ok.. My OH has almost given himself whiplash eyeing up scantily dressed boxom things.. so what? He comes home with me (I see his point lol) I just remind him to look where he is walking/driving..

Nothing wrong with a bit of healthy flirty banter.. I'm the worlds worst but I sure as heck am not taking any of them home!

balletshoes

cuthbertlilly wrote: »

Have any MSErs had a situation when you’re at the pub with your gf/bf (and their mixed male/female friendship group – group of 6) and they have commented to their friend whilst you’re sat next to your OH “xyz person is handsome, xyz is soo handsome…I got lost there” and you’ve see them chatting and smiling to a bar person/waiter (xyz person in question)?

How would the above situation make you feel?...and how have you reacted to this scenario?
Is the above disrespectful to you?...or is it considered standard behaviour?

do you mean your gf/bf was the one saying "that barperson is sooo handsome .... i got lost there", in front of you? as in, verbally drooling a little?
Not gonna lie, I wouldn't be that impressed, because I wouldn't do that to my partner (I would consider it disrespectful).

Chatting and smiling to bar staff is normal behaviour in my book, so that in isolation wouldn't bother me at all.