How long before acceptable to fart in front of partner?

picklekin

I remember when I started dating my now husband, he kept leaving the room and coming back in straight after, I was very puzzled: one time it was very loud and I was astonished I said "Did you just leave the room to FART?" He confessed and I thought it was hilarious (and besides, it was interrupting the film!), I told him to please stop being so silly and just get on with it. Its not something we do on purpose, and it just happens, we don't waft but I think its almost a shared intimacy (of the non sexy kind!), we know and love each other enough not to care. It also provides some silly harmless amusement from time to time.

I do waft the dog farts at him, because that's neither of our faults and is pretty funny (for us anyway!) . My cat farts about once about every 5 years, and its evacuation time.

I do understand some people have boundaries where this is concerned, but I couldn't live like it.

Georgiegirl256

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

I certainly agree with this...which is why I do not want to treat him with what, in my eyes, is disrespect.

However, not everyone sees it like this, and I accept that, so I hope those of you who think differently also accept that the viewpoint of people who think like me is also valid,

Of course. Everyone's opinion is valid and should be respected.

I think it's just hard for some people to get their heads around (me included) as it doesn't appear to represent being truely comfortable and at ease with your partner. It's like you're holding back (no pun intended) and don't feel comfortable enough around them.

Maybe we're just really laid back, but most things aren't off limits, as for me, I think it would just make a big deal of something which after all is a natural bodily function.

pollypenny

Definitely no farting or belching in front of anyone!

If it happens, my OH would get the apology that anyone else would.

Is there an age division on this? I see that SDW and I agree.

deesbees

:rotfl:Sat in outpatients, getting funny looks as im shaking with laughter, tears etc...

Anyway, its always been day 1for me. No point ptetending. My sister sees it differently though. It was a YEAR before she let rip in front of the bloke she married. God knows why though, he did everything from day one - farting, burping, bumscratching, pocket billiards, nose picking, hawking.. Only took her 28 years to realise she'd picked the wrong bloke...better late thannever...:T

seven-day-weekend

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

Of course. Everyone's opinion is valid and should be respected.

I think it's just hard for some people to get their heads around (me included) as it doesn't appear to represent being truely comfortable and at ease with your partner. It's like you're holding back (no pun intended) and don't feel comfortable enough around them.

Maybe we're just really laid back, but most things aren't off limits, as for me, I think it would just make a big deal of something which after all is a natural bodily function.

Comfortable and at ease, yes, but to me that does not mean that he has to be subjected to unpleasant bodily functions unless it is unavoidable. I would not deliberately subject anyone else to them, why should he draw the short straw?

Wizup

This is a very important question, and has a very simple answer (if a bit longwinded!) I can only speak from my (male) experience, because I would not advise any female to fart in front of their husbands/boyfriends, unless they are a supermodel, of course, when it would probably be seen as 'hilarious'. Anyway, having been married and divorced 4 times (nothing to do with farting BTW, usually money) - I digress - the answer as with any 'atmosphere' that can arise between male and female is to boil the frog slowly, and send up trial balloons every so often. Judge her reaction carefully each time. If she 'swallows' it and perhaps has a titter, then be a bit more audacious the next time. Before you know it, you will be lighting each other's farts to see who can make the biggest flame! After all a bloke cannot be expected to leave the room every time he farts - he may miss the only goal of the match... Hope I'm not giving away too many secrets chaps, but the kind of woman you should be associating with, would be too busy to read this drivel anyways!!

juliamarsh

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

Each to their own, I feel differently. There are some things I think should be private. My son and his partner go to the toilet in front of each other, we would never do that, nor would I allow my son in the bathroom with me when he was small.

I also know many people don't feel it necessary to say 'please' and thankyou' to their partners, that is also their choice, but we always have done, just the way we are.

As you say, each to their own, everybody is different. I don't however think you should equate it to saying or not saying 'please' and 'thank you' - I think that everybody should say 'please' and 'thank you' to their partners, it is a mark of basic universal respect. It would be disrespectful to persist in deliberately farting near your partner if they had made it clear that they found it offensive, but it is wrong to insinuate that couples who have mutually agreed that farting is ok in their household do not respect one another.

That aside, I have to say that this thread has given me more amusement than I have had in quite a while! I have been laughing my head off all morning!! :rotfl:

Wizup

AnneMary wrote: »

I agree with this. Farts are controllable; how many people fart in an office environment? If you need to you probably need to go to the loo anyway.
I can except the occasional accident from others or myself but it should be accompanied by a "Ooops!" Or a "Sorry".

It is a common misconception among 'non farters' that that anyone passing wind needs to go to the loo. Now I don't know anyone that has a turnout a 100 times a day...

Pixie5740

I didn't have much choice, one bad oyster and farting in front of my OH was the least of my worries. It was just the tip of the iceberg but the way he looked after me during that bout of food poisoning I knew he was a keeper.

Each to their own really. On one hand I think it's good that some couples feel comfortable enough to let rip in front of each other but on the other I do think that familiarity breeds contempt. I try an maintain an air of mystery rather than letting him catch my tweezing one really long, whiskery chin hair that just won't take the hint.

Sometimes though the best laid plans....

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GfPZNnrx1RU

Wizup

deesbees wrote: »

:rotfl:Sat in outpatients, getting funny looks as im shaking with laughter, tears etc...

Anyway, its always been day 1for me. No point ptetending. My sister sees it differently though. It was a YEAR before she let rip in front of the bloke she married. God knows why though, he did everything from day one - farting, burping, bumscratching, pocket billiards, nose picking, hawking.. Only took her 28 years to realise she'd picked the wrong bloke...better late thannever...:T

I was beginning to wonder why I was reading these posts - then I came across your post and learnt a new word - HAWKING - if you don't know it, look it up!! Thanks :j