How long before acceptable to fart in front of partner?

seven-day-weekend

Soleil_lune wrote: »

Not read much of the thread, but I don't think there is anything wrong with breaking wind in front of your partner. Shows you're at ease with one another.

That said, I would get pretty irked with someone who kept doing it, say 20 times a day, in front of me, or if it stunk bad. Then again, me and DH eat quite healthily and don't generally have smelly gas, or foul smelling number twos.

As a few people have said on here, I don't understand someone that will never ever break wind in front of their partner. Guess it must be down to their upbringing; or maybe they're just not monsters like the rest of us. :rotfl:

It's a matter of choosing not to. Sometimes of course it happens accidently, but if there is a choice, we choose not to do it. You can usually pop to the loo or into another room, it's no great drama.

To sit there and just let it all rip without even trying to be discreet is slobbishness of the worst kind to me, I'm afraid, as well as really bad manners. To say nothing of killing romance stone dead. This is how it appears to me, and to many others,

However, I appreciate not everyone feels this way, so please let's accept that we all have our opinions about this and as long as the couple agree between themselves what is acceptable, then it is no-one else's business.

euronorris

I don't have a problem with it, and neither does DH. I think it was about a month or so before we 'relaxed' in front of each other.


We'll also pee in front of each other, if one of us caught short whilst the other is in the shower/bath, but we won't poop in front of each other. I've actually got out of the bath before, when DH was ill, so he could use the toilet for that reason.


We're less squeamish about each other's sick, probably because we are both keen to look after each other when ill. And poor guy had to put up with quite a bit during the early stages of my pregnancy, which included throwing up in the kitchen sink in desperation (bathroom was too far away!). He was rubbing my back, and immediately cleaning up after me, bless him!


But neither of us has an issue with passing wind in front of each other. We see it as a sign of being happy, and comfortable enough, with each other to do that without fear of rejection. And it has never affected the romance, passion or love we have for each other.


Each to their own though.

catkins

tea_lover wrote: »

Well as has been discussed previously, each to their own. Personally I couldn't stand to be in a relationship with a lack of basic manners and respect.

I don't agree that just because you are comfortable enough with your partner to fart in front of them that it shows a lack of manners and respect. When I am out and about it seems my manners are far better than a lot of other people and I show my husband respect and manners all the time

catoutthebag wrote: »

Doesn't show manners. I'd be mortified. We know it happens but it doesn't or shouldn't be done in front of each other. It's killing the love or romance imo.

It certainly does not kill love or romance. Me and OH have been married over 30 years and are very much in love. We walk down the street hand in hand, are always cuddling and kissing. Compared with a lot of our friends, quite a few of them on their 2nd or 3rd marriage, we seem a lot happier and a lot more in love.


I think the opposite of you in fact, being comfortable round each other shows love, friendship and trust. We are soul mates not strangers


It is just not always possible to stop a fart and not only may there not be time to run out of the room, it seems incredibly silly to have to.

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

Yes of course but you can still usually be discreet and move out of the room before you let off.

Even when my husband's IBS is playing up he normally manages to perform his bodily functions privately (and apologises to me if he is unable to).

As I said above, there is not always time to get out of the room. I suffer from IBS and sometimes a fart happens with no warning.


I can only think some of you must have wondrous stomachs and bowels that you can control them so much. I certainly can't and, yes, I have occasionally farted in the street, in work or some public place. I certainly did not do it on purpose and was incredibly embarrassed.


I am not talking about me or OH sitting farting every day or evening like some posters are suggesting. The odd one here or there is no crime and is certainly never going to harm our relationship.

Ames

Surely dashing out of the room just draws more attention to it?

I'm amazed how many people have so much control over it!

It doesn't bother me, it's a natural bodily function. I was in a very quiet Notre Dame cathedral once when a bloke did a very echoey fart. Apart from having to work really hard not to giggle it didn't bother me, but he looked mortified.

seven-day-weekend

Ames wrote: »

Surely dashing out of the room just draws more attention to it?

I'm amazed how many people have so much control over it!

It doesn't bother me, it's a natural bodily function. I was in a very quiet Notre Dame cathedral once when a bloke did a very echoey fart. Apart from having to work really hard not to giggle it didn't bother me, but he looked mortified.

You don't 'dash' out of the room. You walk out at normal pace, like you would if you were going to the loo, or indeed the kitchen.

I'm amazed how many people claim NOT to be able to control it, and unless they have a condition that causes it, like IBF or Crohn's disease, I'm afraid I don't believe them.

Most people can control it for the majority of the time, IMHO.

Georgiegirl256

Ames wrote: »

Surely dashing out of the room just draws more attention to it?
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Also, if I was that way inclined, I'd probably be more embarrassed as it's be obvious, and I'd feel I was doing something wrong and therefore had to hide it.

If we did that everytime, we'd be up and down like a jack in the box! Especially my husband :rotfl: As it is we don't bat an eyelid, unless it's a pretty impressive one that is! :rotfl:

12_month_challenge

If myself and my OH left the room every time we needed to fart we would never see each other again :rotfl:

Peter333

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

You don't 'dash' out of the room. You walk out at normal pace, like you would if you were going to the loo, or indeed the kitchen.

I'm amazed how many people claim NOT to be able to control it, and unless they have a condition that causes it, like IBF or Crohn's disease, I'm afraid I don't believe them.

Most people can control it for the majority of the time, IMHO.

That's up to you. But it is a bit rude to assume that just because YOU have all the time in the world (when a fart is brewing,) to get up slowly and gently from your seat, and walk through the house to crack one off in the back yard, that everyone else is the same.

As many people have said, sometimes you have no warning, and there IS no time.

Surely the fact that most people are not agreeing with you, should tell you that you may be wrong about this...

I could say I don't believe YOU when you say you can hold it in until you are safely away from your husband, but I would not be so rude as to call you a liar.

Maybe you could offer people the same courtesy.

seven-day-weekend

Peter333 wrote: »

That's up to you. But it is a bit rude to assume that just because YOU have all the time in the world (when a fart is brewing,) to get up slowly and gently from your seat, and walk through the house to crack one off in the back yard, that everyone else is the same.

As many people have said, sometimes you have no warning, and there IS no time.

Surely the fact that most people are not agreeing with you, should tell you that you may be wrong about this...

I could say I don't believe YOU when you say you can hold it in until you are safely away from your husband, but I would not be so rude as to call you a liar.

Maybe you could offer people the same courtesy.

You are right, I should. It's just that most people I know (not many I'm glad to say) who fart in public think it screamingly funny and make a meal of it, this is the image I have of it.

But you are right, and I apologise.

Peter333

Thanks SDW. Guess we should all just agree to differ.