How long before acceptable to fart in front of partner?

seven-day-weekend

Petra_70 wrote: »

What? So you don't pick your nose in front of your partner either? :huh:

What things DO all you prudish oh-so-polite people do in front of your partner?

Anything? Anything at all? Or do you just chat politely about your day, use the bathroom individually, and then retire to the bedroom and get undressed in the dark?

Seriously. I'm not saying you have to sit there farting and belching and flicking bogeys at one another all day, but to say that you should never do things that are perfectly normal - in front of your spouse or life partner, is just mind boggling. I would feel very stressed and unhappy in a relationship where I couldn't relax.

I do wonder how people like this manage to find each other...

You won't be surprised to discover that we actually DO use the bathroom separately.

In spite of this, we have a very long and happy marriage of over 44 years and are still each other's soul mate and best friend. Which is why I endeavour not to carry out unpleasant bodily functions in front of him. Of course accidents happen sometimes, we just apologise to each other. But I believe in treating my friends with respect , and my best friend gets even more respect.

But I say again, this is our take on it, each couple must do what is acceptable for them and not slate others if they make a different choice.

(FYI, we met on a blind date and got married after four months).

catkins

Petra_70 wrote: »

What? So you don't pick your nose in front of your partner either? :huh:

What things DO all you prudish oh-so-polite people do in front of your partner?

Anything? Anything at all? Or do you just chat politely about your day, use the bathroom individually, and then retire to the bedroom and get undressed in the dark?

Seriously. I'm not saying you have to sit there farting and belching and flicking bogeys at one another all day, but to say that you should never do things that are perfectly normal - in front of your spouse or life partner, is just mind boggling. I would feel very stressed and unhappy in a relationship where I couldn't relax.

I do wonder how people like this manage to find each other...

I would thank this post more than once if I could. My OH is the one person I can truly be myself with. I can talk to him about anything, no matter how silly, as he can with me.


In public I am quite shy and have very little confidence so often feel I have to "put on an act". I never feel like that with OH. Out of the house I would never even wear an even slightly low cut top whereas I am at total ease naked with OH.


Of course we are all different but I can't really get my head round couples being so ill at ease with each other.

seven-day-weekend

catkins wrote: »

I would thank this post more than once if I could. My OH is the one person I can truly be myself with. I can talk to him about anything, no matter how silly, as he can with me.


In public I am quite shy and have very little confidence so often feel I have to "put on an act". I never feel like that with OH. Out of the house I would never even wear an even slightly low cut top whereas I am at total ease naked with OH.


Of course we are all different but I can't really get my head round couples being so ill at ease with each other.

Please understand that we are NOT ill at ease with each other. We are very, very comfortable, but don't think it is acceptable to display unpleasant bodily functions if we have any choice in the matter. It is not 'putting on an act', it is the way we choose to be within our relationship.

Petra_70

Each to their own SDW... I just can't get my head around it.

bugslet

catkins wrote: »

I would thank this post more than once if I could. My OH is the one person I can truly be myself with. I can talk to him about anything, no matter how silly, as he can with me.


In public I am quite shy and have very little confidence so often feel I have to "put on an act". I never feel like that with OH. Out of the house I would never even wear an even slightly low cut top whereas I am at total ease naked with OH.


Of course we are all different but I can't really get my head round couples being so ill at ease with each other.

To be honest, I read about the first 6-7 posts on the first page and then this page.

I don't think I ever farted in front of Mr Bugs - having said that I am the least windy person ever and it was a rare occurence for him as well.

Nor would I have picked my nose, that's what tissues are for!

I always thought that I was myself with Mr Bugs, whilst lacking in confidence in many things, I am fine mostly with other people. Nor do I think, what to me is consideration for others, is indicative of being ill at ease.

I used to bellydance in public, so clothing has been interesting;) at times.

I don't think I'm particularly prudish, I'll leave it our bedroom life was perfectly healthy and not elaborate. Maybe we were exceptionally polite, but I don't think so; in the environment I work in, you can't always be a retiring wall flower.

I think labelling pruidsh and oh-so-polite as if it were a negative is not really very nice. I may have missed something on previous pages where someone suggested that you are doing something wrong, in which case that is equally wrong IMO.

Personally I think whatever suits individual couples is up to them and that's that.

odd thread!:D

moneyistooshorttomention

Very odd thread!

I'm still wondering if OP is serious in posting a thread like this - as the answer is so obviously "Never - of course".

The same as yawning without covering mouth, sneezing without covering mouth, going to the loo without shutting the door first, eating with mouth open, etc, etc.

catkins

moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

Very odd thread!

I'm still wondering if OP is serious in posting a thread like this - as the answer is so obviously "Never - of course".

The same as yawning without covering mouth, sneezing without covering mouth, going to the loo without shutting the door first, eating with mouth open, etc, etc.

Why is the answer obviously never? For me, and quite a few other posters that's not the answer.


Of course I would not eat with my mouth open nor sneeze without covering my nose but I don't always cover my mouth when I yawn. When I have a migraine coming one of the symptoms is almost continuous yawning. I don't see yawning as particularly rude anyway.


There have also been times when I haven't closed the door when using the loo - when we have renovated a couple of our houses and there was no door! Also, as I said before, one of us will sometimes have a wee when the other is in the shower so no reason to close the door then. I don't always close it completely when in a hotel either.


Most couples see each other naked, engage in sex, quite likely see each other throwing up when ill and, if they have children, seen childbirth and yet they are not supposed to see their partner yawn or pee or hear them fart?

Petra_70

catkins wrote: »

Why is the answer obviously never? For me, and quite a few other posters that's not the answer.

Of course I would not eat with my mouth open nor sneeze without covering my nose but I don't always cover my mouth when I yawn. When I have a migraine coming one of the symptoms is almost continuous yawning. I don't see yawning as particularly rude anyway.

Most couples see each other naked, engage in sex, quite likely see each other throwing up when ill and, if they have children, seen childbirth and yet they are not supposed to see their partner yawn or pee or hear them fart?

Well exactly! What people are saying is barely making sense IMO.

bugslet wrote: »

I don't think I ever farted in front of Mr Bugs - having said that I am the least windy person ever and it was a rare occurrence for him as well.

Nor would I have picked my nose, that's what tissues are for!

I always thought that I was myself with Mr Bugs, whilst lacking in confidence in many things, I am fine mostly with other people. Nor do I think, what to me is consideration for others, is indicative of being ill at ease.

I don't think I'm particularly prudish, I'll leave it our bedroom life was perfectly healthy and not elaborate. Maybe we were exceptionally polite, but I don't think so; in the environment I work in, you can't always be a retiring wall flower.

I think labelling pruidsh and oh-so-polite as if it were a negative is not really very nice. I may have missed something on previous pages where someone suggested that you are doing something wrong, in which case that is equally wrong IMO.

I don't see why labelling people prudish and 'oh-so-polite' is any worse than people saying 'you are showing an utter disrespect for your partner' (post No. 4,) or 'you have no dignity,' (post 32,) or 'you will start farting when you stop respecting your partner.' (post 45,) or 'it's disgusting. (post 65.) To name but a few...

Moreover, the insults against people who DO fart in front of their partner, started before the insults against people who don't.

People were just having a laugh, and then some sniffy people who DON'T fart in front of their partners, came onto the thread, and made it clear that they think they're better than anyone who DOES fart in front of their partner. The snooty attitude of those few people, and the rude comments they made, makes the comments like 'prudish' and 'oh-so-polite' look quite tame.

And to say it's rude and disrespectful towards your partner, to not shut the door when you're in the bathroom, or to eat with your mouth open, or to yawn or sneeze without putting your hand in front of your face? Oh come ON! These are things that people DO sometimes. In normal relationships anyway!

So if you think the 'prudish' comments are rude, maybe you should start having a go at the people who started the 'rudeness,' and that just happened to be the people who DON'T fart in front of their partners.

The vast majority of posters on this thread agree that farting in front of your partner is no big deal anyway, so whatever.

tommix

My missus is like a female 'Le Petomane'..She can actually break wind to the tune of 'Danny boy'.

Personally I find the whole business distasteful. I can't even bring myself to say the 'F' word.:(

UnderPressure

NEVER! This is one of the many reasons why my partner of nearly 20 years is on the verge of becoming an ex partner because she thinks this kind of vile behavior is amusing, I am not talking about the odd pharf here when this became a problem it was relentless and stinking, seriously made me look at her in a whole different way and was 100% the start of the downhill slide.

It is just disgusting, she is a lot better now but still will fart away and laugh as though she has just cracked a real funny joke or something, is it really that hard to go to the toilet or out of site so nobody else has to breathe in their toxic waste, seriously this was the start for me, especially when I told her I found it disrespectful and to be frank vile and at first it made no difference, pardon the pun but it seemed to "egg her on!".

Don't do it ever if you can help it, not funny and also quite disrespectful not to mention incredibly bad manners!


Sorry, bad day today, had enough! Came here to try and read some words of encouragement and this thread caught my eye for the reasons mentioned above, probably seem a bit mellow dramatic but I don't like it and it was the start of things for me, this had been going on for years there are only so many times you can politely protest before it really becomes a problem.