So... who's done the school run in pyjamas?

burlington6

Person_one wrote: »

The school run is more time critical than shopping, and the consequences fall on your children, not yourself as with your own job.

There's a heck of a lot of snobbery about this subject if you ask me. I've just read a terrible quote from this headteacher where she refers to the parents in pyjamas as having a 'benefits street' image. What kind of attitude is that to have about the families of the children she's responsible for?

Probably not far of the truth :rotfl:

happyandcontented

Person_one wrote: »

The school run is more time critical than shopping, and the consequences fall on your children, not yourself as with your own job.

There's a heck of a lot of snobbery about this subject if you ask me. I've just read a terrible quote from this headteacher where she refers to the parents in pyjamas as having a 'benefits street' image. What kind of attitude is that to have about the families of the children she's responsible for?

I don't think it is snobbery, it is standards.

Like it or not I can't think of a reason why the time it takes to sling on a pair of jeans and jumper would make the difference between getting a child to school on time or not. If you have overslept, presumably you still get the child dressed or wait while they get dressed? You do it then, or you do it before or during screaming "we have overslept, get up".

I am sure most of us have done it, but never needed to go to school in nightclothes.

It does point to lack of pride, lack of work ethic and pointing it out is good, helps to show it shouldn't go without challenge or comment because it is not normal to do it.

pigpen

Person_one wrote: »

The school run is more time critical than shopping, and the consequences fall on your children, not yourself as with your own job.

There's a heck of a lot of snobbery about this subject if you ask me. I've just read a terrible quote from this headteacher where she refers to the parents in pyjamas as having a 'benefits street' image. What kind of attitude is that to have about the families of the children she's responsible for?

pigpen wrote: »

some parents have a lot going on at home others know nothing about and a snooty teacher making disparaging remarks about any of the parents or children is not acceptable nor in the remit of her role.. barring abuse or neglect of course!

While I fully admit I dislike seeing any people dressed in a manner I would find inappropriate (bikinis and tiny shorts or Walmart style leggings ) I would not ever say anything to them because it is their choice.. unless they asked me of course, then I must say something.

The teacher does sound like a class act with serious delusions of grandeur. She has absolutely no right to judge or say anything.

I have a friend does the school run in her pjs.. she works nights in a nursing home, gets home at 7am on a good day, covered in Lord knows what having handled bodily waste and dead people some nights, showers, puts on clean PJ's takes her children to school, then sleeps all day... Why would school staff know any of that?

happyandcontented

pigpen wrote: »

While I fully admit I dislike seeing any people dressed in a manner I would find inappropriate (bikinis and tiny shorts or Walmart style leggings ) I would not ever say anything to them because it is their choice.. unless they asked me of course, then I must say something.

The teacher does sound like a class act with serious delusions of grandeur. She has absolutely no right to judge or say anything.

I have a friend does the school run in her pjs.. she works nights in a nursing home, gets home at 7am on a good day, covered in Lord knows what having handled bodily waste and dead people some nights, showers, puts on clean PJ's takes her children to school, then sleeps all day... Why would school staff know any of that?

Why is it relevant? Why not shower, sling on jeans and top, do the school run, then jump into fresh pj's and go to bed? It boils down to laziness, and her job and what it entails is completely unconnected.

snowleopard61

A bad idea for the headteacher to make the "Benefits Street" comment - but basic standards of dress and cleanliness are not snobbish, and it must be very hard for a headteacher to enforce them in children with this as an example. For the vast majority, it is about not being organised rather than not being able to afford basic day clothes.

pigpen

happyandcontented wrote: »

Why is it relevant? Why not shower, sling on jeans and top, do the school run, then jump into fresh pj's and go to bed? It boils down to laziness, and her job and what it entails is completely unconnected.

because she's going to bed.. why get changed twice and waste sleeping time and create extra laundry?.. when you get home, have a shower ready for bed do you put clothes on?? Especially when it is because some teacher with an attitude problem is the only person in the world griping about it.

her job is utterly relevant.. she could go to school covered in contaminated waste but chooses not to.. the same as those on their way to work wear their work clothes.

Unless people look utterly ridiculous why would anyone even notice what they are wearing?

My OH is sat across the room from me and I couldn't tell you what he is wearing without looking, it is irrelevant.. his tummy and feet are covered nothing else matters..

I however have a rather fetching pair of black leggings which are too big and keep falling down and a black furry jumper with a cat hood.. part of Asda's nightwear range.. hoodie for bed? I'd say most of the pj clad parents are better dressed/tidier than I am.

Person_one

happyandcontented wrote: »

Why is it relevant? Why not shower, sling on jeans and top, do the school run, then jump into fresh pj's and go to bed? It boils down to laziness, and her job and what it entails is completely unconnected.

Who is she hurting? Why create laundry!

I've never worn PJs in public, but all this pearl-clutching on the subject is tempting me!

pigpen

Person_one wrote: »

Who is she hurting? Why create laundry!

I've never worm PJs in public, but all this pearl-clutching on the subject is tempting me!

lol.. exactly..

I'd not wear a onesie.. I do have some standards!

Though, living in a high student populated area there are loads who do.. I'd fit in

duchy

scooby088 wrote: »

Never would be that disorganised to do the school run in my pj's, get up in plenty of time to have a shower and put on clothes.

Easy to say but life happens
I had my Mum recovering from brain surgery and my son diagnosed as autistic both directly after my marriage imploded. I was also working.

I'll admit there were some mornings I threw trackkie bottoms over nightwear to drop my son to school , coming back , sorting Mum out then getting ready, working for a few hours before dashing to pick up my son from school then back home to look after them both, cook dinner etc.

It didn't *look* like I was in my PJs but I was but frankly if anyone wanted to have a go they'd have been welcome - I wouldn't have had the energy to care ....when the only time you can actually get out to shop is 3 am when Mum finally slept then just getting son to school on time was the priority and my sleep deprived brain really didn't care if I didn't meet some aquaintance's standards of dress at the school gate.

Fortunately I was lucky enough to have a friend who insisted she drove out of her way (she actually drove past the school to get to my house) and picked up my son every morning as she realized just how stretched to the limit I was .....nearly twenty years later we're still good friends ...possibly we wouldn't be if she'd seen only the trackkie bottoms but not the problem !!.

Personally my feeling is - there's plenty of PJs that look like leisure suits rather than actual PJs -if you really can't get ready in time - buy plain dark PJs not ones with fluffy bunnies on them and odds are no-one will even notice ! Plain PJs with a pair of Uggs and a jacket over- and most people wouldn't even realize. (take the rollers out though !!)

I do remember my cousin moving into her first flat on a(Surrey) high street and commenting to me the looks she'd got when she popped down to the newsagents below for a pint of milk in her PJs on a Sunday morning . She said no-one ever cared when she did that at Uni in Liverpool :rotfl:

happyandcontented

Person_one wrote: »

Who is she hurting? Why create laundry!

I've never worn PJs in public, but all this pearl-clutching on the subject is tempting me!

Create laundry :rotfl:she could wear the same jeans/top every day for 10 mins and have worn it less than if she had worn them a full day.

She is "hurting" her kids, giving them the impression that such slobiness is fine, that bed wear (clue is in the name) is fine to be be worn out. Showing them lax, lazy standards, all for the sake of a few seconds. Someone on the other thread summed it up. "It is slovenly and it is depressing that it needs to be pointed out"

Pearl clutching? Is that what having standards is? OOh, call me Hyacinth then.:D