Best friend's new friend

euronorris

I think you're placing too much pressure on this one friendship to fulfil all of your friendship needs, to be honest.


It really shouldn't matter who invites who where, or how often. If it was a case of one always doing favours for the other, and that not being reciprocated or only one person ever initiated contact (just for a chat/catch up), then I would agree that the friendship was one sided and if it couldn't be addressed, it would be time to move on. But that doesn't seem to be the case here, so I wouldn't focus on who is inviting who to the cinema.


Your friend was equally silly about getting upset with you for going to the cinema with your Mum and not you. But it sounds as if she has realised that she was placing too much pressure on you being the only person who could do this with her and so has found another friend she can do things with.


Neither of you should be committed to only ever being able to do certain activities with each other, and no one else. That is not healthy for either of you. So, whilst you might feel a little upset at missing out on the activity you declined, she isn't to blame for that. You had the opportunity, and you declined. She should not have to miss out just because you said no. It's also unreasonable for you to expect her to then uninvited this other friend to the activity just because you didn't want to go with her. You have the option to either do it with your friend alone another time, or do it with someone else.


As for FB....I do hate it sometimes. It brings out the worst in people. You say that you were not friends with this other girl, so there was no need to block you. Yet, you must've been looking at her profile fairly regularly anyway in order to have noticed that she had then blocked you. And, if you aren't friends with her anyway, and you don't like her, then what does it matter?


I think that, if you still have plenty in common with your friend and the relationship is otherwise good, then you should just move on from this episode. Don't expect her to never do the things you enjoy with other people, and vice versa.


And ignore FB and what anyone else says that someone else said/posted whatever. Not worth the hassle.