Best friend's new friend

getmore4less

pol-zeath wrote: »

So have you been friends a long time?

First 6 words of the thread

We've been friends nearly 7 years

gabriel1980

are you over 16?

Coinmachine

what was the film in question? as that may have some relevance here.

fairy_lights

catmiaow wrote: »

Yes we both have other halfs, I like long friendships prefer not to change.

Well, things do change. It's great if you can maintain a lifelong friendship with someone but it's inevitable that over time your relationship will change, you will both meet other people and won't always be able to spend as much time together as you once did.
If you feel she isn't putting as much effort in to the friendship as you are, maybe that's a sign you need to branch out and meet some new people?

missingmum

I've been on the other side of this - I was the "new" friend. The old friend didn't like "sharing" her friend with me so spit her dummy out. Unfortunately it back fired on her and she lost the respect of several long standing friends.

culpepper

I think it would be better really to just say, you enjoy outings with her but dont really get on with youknowwho so are unlikely to tag along on those 3somes.
It might just mean that you have to be the one doing the inviting when you want an outing with her .
If she invites you and you then discover youknowwho is there too when you arrive , it might be better to call it a day.
I am intrigued to discover how you know you have been blocked presumably on FB if you have never friended her in the first place given that those who are blocked have no indication .
I know that there are different levels of privacy settings so that one can post to a friend but not friend's friends which is not quite the same as blocking.

pebbles88

catmiaow wrote: »

True, but she is still doing the same things with her new friend that we both like!

I meant more things like points of view, opinions etc x

Peter333

Re the original issue, I agree with the people who are saying let her go and do her thing and find new friends. There are plenty more fish in the sea, and maybe you're just not compatible now.

Incidentally, I'm not sure why people are so obsessed with knowing the OP's age. I agree with her that it's irrelevant. And let's face it, if she says she is 38 or 50 or something, people will laugh and mock, and say 'goodness me, you are old enough to know better!' Frankly, no matter how old someone is, they are just as entitled to feel upset and worried about friendship problems, and relationship problems, and it's not very nice to say 'you're 30/40/50/60, and you sound like a teenager! Grow up!'

People putting her down for this supposedly trivial issue is not nice. I think the people who belittle people for having friendship issues and relationship issues are the type who will laugh at people if they have anything they class as silly or trivial, like a phobia for example...

One woman said to my cousin when she had post natal depression some years ago 'at least you HAVE a baby, some people can't have them. Get over yourself.' So I agree that anything that is upsetting people is a problem if it's upsetting them, and they shouldn't be ridiculed.

heuchera

Peter333 wrote: »

Re the original issue, I agree with the people who are saying let her go and do her thing and find new friends. There are plenty more fish in the sea, and maybe you're just not compatible now.

Incidentally, I'm not sure why people are so obsessed with knowing the OP's age. I agree with her that it's irrelevant. And let's face it, if she says she is 38 or 50 or something, people will laugh and mock, and say 'goodness me, you are old enough to know better!' Frankly, no matter how old someone is, they are just as entitled to feel upset and worried about friendship problems, and relationship problems, and it's not very nice to say 'you're 30/40/50/60, and you sound like a teenager! Grow up!'

People putting her down for this supposedly trivial issue is not nice. I think the people who belittle people for having friendship issues and relationship issues are the type who will laugh at people if they have anything they class as silly or trivial, like a phobia for example...

One woman said to my cousin when she had post natal depression some years ago 'at least you HAVE a baby, some people can't have them. Get over yourself.' So I agree that anything that is upsetting people is a problem if it's upsetting them, and they shouldn't be ridiculed.

It's true, - people can be immature at ANY age. Some of the squabbling and arguments on here will attest to that :rotfl:

I don't think a crass comment about PND is really comparable to spitting your dummy out over a friend's new friend, though.

AndyBSG

You should find out where her new friend works and wait outside.

When she comes out just run up to her screaming and take her out with a WWF style wrestling clothesline before running off shouting "Woo, woo, woo" at the top of your lungs.

Yes, this is an immature response but no more immature than the original posts school yard drama!