Broken

Pollycat

justme111 wrote: »

How come so important piece of information (that it was her idea for you to move in , that she persuaded you to ,that you offered to rent a house ) only comes up after a few pages with many of your replies and is quite different to the original post where you used wording " extensively discussed" instead of "was persuaded" and somehow forgotten to mention you intended to rent independently. It is either you have serious issues with communication that are bound to affect your relationships or what you saying is not truth.
And really , you live with your parents because your farther works away ?

I think you are reading something that isn't there.
I've already posted this in response to your earlier post (over a week ago):

Pollycat wrote: »

I didn't get that from what the OP has posted

He says 'they' (I'm assuming - maybe wrongly - that he means he and his ex) decided that he & his daughter would move in.

He also says they 'spoke at length' about him taking the new job.

They had also discussed saving for a house together and having children.

You make it sound like the OP said 'I'm moving in' with no discussion whatsoever.
Surely 'extensively discussed' and 'spoke at length' is pretty clear......

And what does the OP's current living arrangements have to do with anything (or you)?
The OP had planned to move 30 miles away and change jobs - and move into to (ex) partner's house.
Those 3 things have all changed.
Maybe he had given notice on his house or even rented it out and is staying with his parents whilst he finds somewhere else to live.

FBaby

In the end, the most likely explanation for her behaviour is either the situation got to her gradually and she started having doubts which were counpound by a particular event that meant she decided she had to make a drastic choice and her being uncommunicative is because she is trying to heal her broken heart and move and believe that the only way to do so is by cutting all contact.

Or, as it's been hinted and yourself has considered, someone appeared in her life that made her decide to give it a go with them. When it is so sudden, it is often someone who they've always had an interest in (past partner, friend, colleague) who wasn't available then, but suddenly becomes so.

pebbles88

Pollycat wrote: »

I think you are reading something that isn't there.
I've already posted this in response to your earlier post (over a week ago):


You make it sound like the OP said 'I'm moving in' with no discussion whatsoever.
Surely 'extensively discussed' and 'spoke at length' is pretty clear......

And what does the OP's current living arrangements have to do with anything (or you)?
The OP had planned to move 30 miles away and change jobs - and move into to (ex) partner's house.
Those 3 things have all changed.
Maybe he had given notice on his house or even rented it out and is staying with his parents whilst he finds somewhere else to live.

I agree, op has stated they spoke about it in detail, given from what op has wrote, at no point was the girlfriend told that 'this is happening regardless of your feelings'