Holiday alone

NiftyDigits

duchy wrote: »

I suspect Nifty is a retired male of a certain age - looking for different things from a holiday than the OP.
Travelling solo as a female is different - and whilst some people love backpacking - others think it's best left to students and wouldn't want "basic: but require a comfortable room to themselves and guaranteed hot water after a day spent out and about whether that day is spent relaxing on a beach or exploring the area . I wouldn't personally take any sort of organized holiday - but even as a single female I see no pleasure in slumming it when I can afford not to. Local colour is all very well but if I wouldn't sleep in a shed at home -one on a beach in Asia wouldn't be my choice either !!

Certain age? What would that be?

Seems that you like writing but not reading. Backpackers don't stay in sheds.
This is where I usually stay:




Though my absolute beachfront bungalow is not shown.
I think perhaps you are showing your age by assuming that backpackers are 'slumming it'.
I don't even pretend to be a backpacker any more.

FBaby

piglet74 wrote: »

Thank you,

Can i ask what part you went to, and I there was a large single supplement?

Like you, its a rest, peace to be alone, I'm not afraid of being lonely, and I don't want to HAVE to talk to anyone, or sit with them at meals, but if it happens, so be it.

I don't want to feel like I have to dress up to eat, hence my questions on meal times on a cruise.

Its just a relaxing week in the sun I want. I'm not bothered about sight seeing or exploring, not on this trip. So if I went AI I would be happy to stay in the resort, and if I went on a cruise, I would be happy not to have to leave the ship,

Thanks again

If you were to go with Royal Caribbean, you'd find that there are people of every age, families, couples, retired people and quite a number of single people. There is even a single 'call' on the first evening for single to get together if interested and I heard it is very low profile (ie, not like speed dating!).

You don't have to spend your meals with others. You could have your own table at the restaurant of your choice, or you can choose to to go to the large self-serving place and seat where you want. You can also go there, help yourself to anything and take it back to your cabin (and go back as many times as you wish). If you get a room with a balcony, you can eat on there too which is really nice. You can even order room service for free. You don't have to dress up to eat except for one evening and that's only at the restaurants (and a dress will do).

You don't have to hop off and can very much stay on board, which actually is not a bad thing to do as it is then much quieter.

If I was single, I would definitely go for a cruise as it means you can do your own things without anyone noticing, mix with other single, or just interact with anyone you find friendly if you feel like it.

FBaby

Seems that you like writing but not reading. Backpackers don't stay in sheds

And if you practiced what you preach, you would have given up on the backpacking suggestion as OP has said over and over that she is not interested in this sort of holiday.

Andypandyboy

NCL cruiseline have studio cabins with access to their own lounge, which, according to friends who have been, means that you can meet others if you wish, or just do your own thing.

NCL also have "freestyle" dining where you do not have to dress for dinner and can eat whenever, wherever you want.

You can also buy or sometimes be given as a perk, an all inclusive package covering drinks.

I think a Med cruise taking Venice, etc, would be ideal. There have always been a lot of single people on the cruises we have taken, and age range is across the spectrum.

NiftyDigits

FBaby wrote: »

And if you practiced what you preach, you would have given up on the backpacking suggestion as OP has said over and over that she is not interested in this sort of holiday.

Where is the backpacking suggestion? It's only let's say, people who find it hard to comprehend, that would think that I am suggesting backpacking.
In case you are one of those people, I have no reason to think that you are not... the suggestion is to go somewhere that she might actually like, as opposed to limiting herself because of fear and anxiety.
No suggestion of literally carrying a backpack. Wow! They are really coming out of late

I seriously cannot imagine anything more dull than a cruise.... and for those who think that I have no experience.... I have and if you actually read my post, you would realise that i suggested that she should do the cruise, as at least it might give her the taste to see other places. But if she doesn't intend to get off, then she might as well do the all inclusive. Terribly dull either way.
How much this 'cruise in the sun'?

Anyway, here is a video made with piglet74 in mind. I hope my casting is appropriate. Let me know what you think, piglet74

piglet74

It still doesn't appeal to me.

I'm not interested in seeing Thailand, I think I said that already. Both sets of music is so annoying! I'm starting to think you might be on commission!

I am interested in either a week, all inclusive in the sun, as I have done this before and enjoyed it

Or a cruise, which I haven't tried, but anyone who I know who did try one, would highly recommend it.

If you find both of them boring, that's fine, at least there's no danger of us banging into each other on holiday!

duchy

It's a polite way of saying you are old enough to get a bit confused at times - as shown by your ramblings about backpacking -and then showing a picture of a hotel rather than a typical backpacker's hostel - and then saying you wouldn't backpack anyway- You're rambling ! Maybe it's an unfair assumption that you fit the same age demographic of the typical single elderly men who have such a fondness for spending months at a time in Thailand but that's how you come across.

As for showing my age- I'm clearly closer to the OP in age - as well as the same sex and have travelled in the way she wishes to - so actually have something constructive to add - instead of telling someone who has said that they want ideas for a week away that they should go away for months instead- to an area with a thriving sex trade and an expat community that is dubious in patches to put it mildly. Not really a practical idea for a first time female traveller making their first short solo trip.

Not to say the Far East doesn't have some wonderful destinations - just you are trying to promote your own ideas on someone who at this point is clearly looking for something entirely different.Maybe when the OP has the confidence of a couple of shorter trips under her belt and more confidence and time your ideas would have merit but they don't fit her requirements in any shape or form at the moment.

NiftyDigits wrote: »

Certain age? What would that be?

Seems that you like writing but not reading. Backpackers don't stay in sheds.
This is where I usually stay:

Though my absolute beachfront bungalow is not shown.
I think perhaps you are showing your age by assuming that backpackers are 'slumming it'.
I don't even pretend to be a backpacker any more.

NiftyDigits

duchy wrote: »

It's a polite way of saying you are old enough to get a bit confused at times - as shown by your ramblings about backpacking -and then showing a picture of a hotel rather than a typical backpacker's hostel - and then saying you wouldn't backpack anyway- You're rambling ! Maybe it's an unfair assumption that you fit the same age demographic of the typical single elderly men who have such a fondness for spending months at a time in Thailand but that's how you come across.

As for showing my age- I'm clearly closer to the OP in age - as well as the same sex and have travelled in the way she wishes to - so actually have something constructive to add - instead of telling someone who has said that they want ideas for a week away that they should go away for months instead- to an area with a thriving sex trade and an expat community that is dubious in patches to put it mildly. Not really a practical idea for a first time female traveller making their first short solo trip.

Not to say the Far East doesn't have some wonderful destinations - just you are trying to promote your own ideas on someone who at this point is clearly looking for something entirely different.Maybe when the OP has the confidence of a couple of shorter trips under her belt and more confidence and time your ideas would have merit but they don't fit her requirements in any shape or form at the moment.

So...women of a certain age and definitely out of touch. Your perceptions are like those of the parents of young travellers. twenty years ago You just don't have a clue.

Hotel? Where did I post a hotel? Those are bungalows on the beach.
Typical backpacker's hostel? Show me one on any of the Thai islands.
Seriously Duchy, you are out of touch.
Emphasised it, as posting clearly, seems to appear as ramblings to older women. Yes...you are older than I.

I posted it to show an example of having your own space, with no one bothering you. Sit or set a hammock up on your balcony. You'll note that one of the bungalows has a mosquito tent on the porch, enclosing a carved wooden bed. Perfect for sleeping safely outdoors at night, to the sound of the sea..

You just have old fashioned and outdated ideas of places.

As to musings about my age.... I could equally post pictures my of apartment in Rio overlooking Sugar Loaf Mountain or Z Beach Hotel overlooking South Beach in Miami or from my house in Capri overlooking the harbour or my apartment at Rocks Resort on the Gold Coast......but none of these are within the OP's reach, nor do they meet her criteria.
So I posted an affordable alternative to the staid AI and cruise idea.
I really don't care as to whether she takes it or not. It's what makes a forum interesting, different ideas.
I could see long ago the character of the OP and knew that this kind of independent travel would not be for her, but at the same time, I set her a challenge...that I would set her up with a bungalow on the beach if she wanted to go for it.
Of course I knew that my money was as safe as houses...cos she's a wimp.

Three months covers the winter. Then I'm off to the USA and the Virgin Isles, then off to Korea and Japan, followed by Peru...

You keep your fixed old ideas if it keeps you comfortable at night. But in reality, you are way off the mark.

piglet74

Just because I am not chomping at the bit to go to Thailand for three months does not make me a wimp.

A wimp would have posted something along the lines of, "I am so jealous of all your holidays but I am afraid to leave the house alone"

And you cant see my character, but yours is coming through as a man who shoves his opinions down peoples throat.

You have no advice to offer, as you are not a female travelling alone, and your that wrapped up in yourself, I am not surprised you travel alone!

Ps, I have been to Miami, I didn't say I wasn't interested in it! And you didn't set me up with a challenge, I'm not one bit interested in Asia, what you are doing is ramming your ideas down peoples throats.

torbrex

Have a look at https://www.justyou.co.uk you might get some inspiration for destinations.