Frump to Fab 2016 - Lets make it AWESOME!!!

maman

The Courthouse is quite a find chanie. My friend had been there before for afternoon tea so she took me there. I'll definitely go again as it was in such a convenient location.

Thanks for the info LL. Some years ago I had intense back pain and my then GP diagnosed it as a worn disc and prescribed painkillers and a muscle relaxant. The painkillers alone don't work but together they sort it out although it sometimes takes a day or two. The trouble is the amitryptiline really knocks me out, goodness knows how people manage who have to take it regularly. Fortunately, it only happens every few months and I can generally track it down to sleeping on a strange mattress or similar. In the past couple of weeks I've had aches nearer my shoulders and yesterday evening the same stabbing pain I've had before with the disc but in a different place. Fortunately I always carry my medication with me so I was fine.

I was lucky to have physio once on the NHS for frozen shoulder but that was some years ago so I've no idea what the provision is like now. I think I'll mention the pains to my GP when I next see him unless the pain comes back in which case I'll go PDQ!

My calf muscles are feeling really taut today. They don't hurt just feel tight and strong. I'm putting that to 2 days of wearing the fit flops. I notice they do shoes and even slippers. I might investigate further.:)

lessonlearned

Maman........I'm sure this is allowed......

I also use a variety of what I call "comfort" treatments. Warm baths, heat pads, wheat packs, hot water bottle, pain relieving gels etc. The Physio usually gives homework exercises so I do them and they also help. Tiger balm is very good. Smells a bit medicinal but I find it helps. I also find yoga and Pilates very helpful.

LAvender oil is a great muscle relaxant, you could try a few drops in the bath or as a back rub. Most physios use lavender oil, sometimes mixed with eucalyptus. Magnesium flakes Or Dead Sea salts in the bath. The proper ones not just Radox.

I now have a zero gravity sun lounger. You can lie back in it and it really takes the pressure of the base of the spine. I've just a had a little snooze in the garden in it and my back feels great.

You can buy zero gravity chairs for indoors too. I shall be investing in one when I move.

maman

lessonlearned wrote: »

I shall be investing in one when I move.

I like it! Go you!!


Thanks for the tips. The first thing I did when got back last night was fill a hot water bottle!;)

sugarbaby125

Hi Ladies,

I have decided to end things with Wayne. On Saturday evening when I was talking to him, he suddenly admitted that he was going to a Christening on the Sunday morning. I was surprised as he had never mentioned it to me and when I asked Wayne why he had not told me about the Christening, his lame answer was that he thought he had. This was so patently a lie, but I could not be bothered to challenge him. Then I asked Wayne why he was not taking me to the Christening with him and he replied that he did not think I wanted to come. Another bare faced lie, as we had never had any conversation about this Christening invite, so I could hardly have shown reluctance to go to an event with him that I had not known about. When I ended the call I sent Wayne a text saying I was hurt that he did not want to take me to the Christening and had not told me about it and Wayne replied that he was sorry he had hurt me and he was not lying to me, he was being honest. I did not agree, so I did not reply to the content of the text, I simply said that I would see him at Karaoke tomorrow as planned for our date.

We had arranged to have a date at Karaoke on Sunday evening. We both aimed to get to the pub for 8.30 pm to 9 pm. I arrived before Wayne about 8.35 pm and Wayne arrived just after 9 pm. All was well at first. Then Wayne started going on about how his mobile had hardly any charge on it. I basically asked why he was concerned, as he was out and he would not be taking any calls anyway. Wayne insisted on asking people in the pub if they had the correct charger for his mobile, but he had no luck. A female friend of mine who I had not seen on the Karaoke 'circuit ' for a few months arrived at the pub. I went out of my way to hug her and say hello. She wanted a seat, but they were all taken as the pub was busy. I asked Wayne to give up his seat for my friend and he duly did. he simply could not stand still and he kept looking over to the other side of the pub where a lot of men were playing pool and dominoes, both of which Wayne loves to play. I told Wayne he could go and play Pool or dominoes if he wanted and he was off like a hare out of a trap. It was only about an hour and a half later that I realised that Wayne had not once come back to me. I took a discreet look around the pub and was surprised when I could not see Wayne. I went outside to call him and he allowed the phone to ring out until his voicemail kicked in. I did not leave a message, as I knew that Wayne never bothers to listen to his voicemail's. I sent him a text asking 'where are you?' but Wayne did not reply. I went back into the pub and decided that I would just have to enjoy my evening out without Wayne. I sang my heart out and danced my legs off and went home happy and contented.

I did not want to speculate on where Wayne had gone or why until I spoke to him and I was not expecting to hear from him until the next day. Early the next morning he sent me a text saying 'Good morning love' and that's when I began to feel real anger towards him. I could not believe Wayne was simply going to act as if last night had not happened. I tried to call him and it was no surprise that he did not answer his mobile. I sent him a text saying 'call me' and waited for him to do so. When he did call me and I asked him where he had gone, I was flabbergasted to be told by Wayne that he had gone to the evening party of the Christening that he had neglected to invite me to that same Sunday. So then I really saw red and ended up shouting at Wayne. He asked why I was treating him like a child and shouting at him which incensed me even more. Wayne really could not see why I was so angry with him even when I was demanding to know why he would think he could walk out of a date with me and not even bother to let me know this was his intention. My son and daughter were agog, as they have not seen me lose my temper so spectacularly in many years. I simply could not get Wayne to understand the magnitude of how wrong his behaviour towards me had been, so then I was red hot angry and frustrated so I just ended the call.

It was the final straw. I decided to bring the relationship to an end. I do not even want to remain friends with Wayne. I simply can not abide bad manners, immaturity, selfishness, jealously, dishonesty and spite in a grown man.

There will be no forgiveness for Wayne, as this is not the kind of behaviour I am willing to forgive and forget. I can not even believe he thought he could get away with behaving so appallingly. I do not miss him, so I have made the right decision for myself.

lessonlearned

Good riddance......im afraid Wayne sounds like a total waste of space. Such rudeness, arrogance and disrespect.

And let's face it ladies, who needs men (or even other women) like that in our lives. I have absolutely no time for such rudeness and selfishness. I won't take that behaviour from anyone. Dont we deserve to be treated well.

My mantra is "better no man than the wrong man".

SUgarbaby - you sound like a strong, powerful woman - you don't need total losers like that.

If you want a man, go out and find a better one......;)

I came across a great quote by BEtte Davis, one of my favourite Hollywood movie stars of yesteryear. . She was never really pretty but she was incredibly glamourous and very feisty. At one point she took on the big Hollywood moguls To get a fairer deal for female actresses. SHe was one of the first to insist on being called an "actor" rather than "actress"

Anyway Apparently she said "Aging is not for sissies." I love that.

I agree. The older I get then the more emotionally stronger and more fearless I become. I suppose I take the view now that the worst that could happen has happened (the death of my husband). I survived that so there's nothing out there that can faze me now.

As you know I have battled with a few health problems over the last couple of years but I keep fighting back and so far I keep winning the battles. And I intend to keep winning. :rotfl:

And whilst I miss my beloved more than I can say and whilst I sometimes think it would be nice to have a male companion now and again, there is no way I would ever let a man give me the run around.

No thanks........I'll travel solo through life if I have to. And I'll travel first class, not lumbered with some second class loser. :rotfl:

Another glorious day here. Aren't we lucky. IM going to get out there and make the most of it. Maybe even have a siesta in my zero gravity recliner again.

Right time for some fabbing......a deep cleansing face mask and then some serious slathering of industrial strength body moisturisers after a nice long soak in the bath.

I had a luxurious 7 hours of uninterrupted sleep last night. Bliss.

maman

I can't say I'm surprised that you've ended it with Wayne sugarbaby. The reconciliation was always going to be conditional on him behaving properly and he's gone and done it again. To an extent I could understand (although not accept) him wanting to flash the cash. Some men are like that as it raises their self esteem and makes them feel in they're giving something to the relationship. Wayne probably has his reasons for not taking you to the Christening too but, if that's the case, he should explain and sneaking off to the evening party is just beyond belief! That's positively juvenile. Reminds me of a child being put to bed and climbing out of the bedroom window!:rotfl:


What did strike me so much was how well you've described what happened and explained your reasoning. Have you ever thought of getting a job using these skills?


I'm doing a bit of fabbing too today LL. I've done all the defuzzing and creaming then I'll blow dry my hair (I often post while I'm waiting for it to dry off a bit naturally). I'm out with a friend this afternoon for tea and a natter. The weather is good here so I'm torn between wearing a dress/skirt or trousers.


Have a good day all.:)

carolbee

Can I ask those of you who wear leggings on a regular basis the best place to get them? Fancy the tunic,leggings, boots look for this autumn and never bought leggings before. Thanks.

Floss

I tend to buy M&S "treggings" in black - I find they have more structure & thicker fabric, but are still really comfy.

maddiemay

I too like M&S Treggings, but for leggings I buy from Boden when they have a sale on, they keep their shape, do not bag and wash really well (just a 15 minute cool wash).

maman

I wear leggings at home and what I'm wearing now are from New Look as they had extra long in the January sale. Thanks for the Boden tipmaddie I like their stuff and they generally do long lengths.

I wear tunic /short skirt look in the winter toocarol ]but I wear them with opaque tights. I almost never wear sheer tights except for summer 'occasions' like weddings. I find opaques really flattering especially black with black suede heels.