What are our rights playing the drums?

jimbog

bobbymotors wrote: »

Troll.

Do not feed.

It is disappointing that a parent is prepared to use their child's disability as a form of entertainment

robatwork

jimbog wrote: »

It is disappointing that a parent is prepared to use their child's disability as a form of [STRIKE]entertainment[/STRIKE] excuse for antisocial inconsiderate behaviour

fixed it for you.

Dird

Can autism not be detected during pregnancy? Seems like 50% of kids born after 2000 have autism now

GaleSF63

I used to know someone who killed their neighbour (flat above) because they played their music too loud.

G_M

Dird wrote: »

Can autism not be detected during pregnancy? Seems like 50% of kids born after 2000 have autism now

and 25% have ADHD.

and 25% are dyslexic.

Are there any 'normal' kids left?

Jhoney_2

Spend an hour observing most children and you could see these behaviours in all of them! Conversely there is an autistic child in DD class at sch and he is coping very well with the expectations of a typical classroom along with his peers.

The thing that is required above all else is for structure, love, boundaries, patience and social behavioural guidance (as this is often something that autistic children do not recognise easily through no fault of their own, imo). In short, the same as every other child.

All this was around for 10's of decades and longer, but it was labelled/treated differently and before that didn't exempt you from child labour or the workhouse anyway!

Obviously it must be harder and the support should be there, but the concern would be what OP may inadvertently be teaching his son that may affect him in the mid to long term future e.g lack of empathy, lack of social skills, self regulation, right and wrong, teamwork, how to make friends and to encourage social engagement etc etc.

J_i_m

G_M wrote: »

Are there any 'normal' kids left?

What would you define as 'normal'?

SnooksNJ

chris_m wrote: »

Depends on whether you're any good or not

and if you were playing anything from Coda.

Tigsteroonie

Dird wrote: »

Can autism not be detected during pregnancy? Seems like 50% of kids born after 2000 have autism now

No. Next question?

Jhoney wrote: »

Spend an hour observing most children and you could see these behaviours in all of them! Conversely there is an autistic child in DD class at sch and he is coping very well with the expectations of a typical classroom along with his peers.

Autism is a spectrum disorder - which means that its impact can range from a minor inability to handle social situations (high functioning / mildly aspergic) to an inability to handle any situation in an appropriate manner (severely autistic).

The media, for example in the film Rain Man, has a habit of showing what I would describe as the better side of ASD, the more acceptable side where the individual has some understanding of a neurotypical ('normal') life even if they cannot behave that way themselves. Unfortunately for many of us, Autism is not like this; it has a huge adverse impact and turns life upside-down.

Jhoney_2

Tigsteroonie wrote: »

No. Next question?



Autism is a spectrum disorder - which means that its impact can range from a minor inability to handle social situations (high functioning / mildly aspergic) to an inability to handle any situation in an appropriate manner (severely autistic).

The media, for example in the film Rain Man, has a habit of showing what I would describe as the better side of ASD, the more acceptable side where the individual has some understanding of a neurotypical ('normal') life even if they cannot behave that way themselves. Unfortunately for many of us, Autism is not like this; it has a huge adverse impact and turns life upside-down.

Which I do appreciate. He still has some learning difficulties but he is learning many other important skills as a result. sense of community, compromise, communication skills, fairness, selflessness, equality, the give and take of friendship, how to manage disappointment, conflict and refusal. I do not mean to imply that autism is straightforward or easy to deal with.

My last paragraph touched on that, however related specifically to the OPs behaviour. Buying the drum-kit is all well and good, but the attitude to those affected leaves something to be desired and is not a very good example in other important elements of parenting his son either. I do not doubt his motives.