The Spreadsheet Diva's MF Diary

A_Frayed_Knot

Great bargains, find, wins.:j and great way of working out challenge:D so December is not too costly.

Re Mr M stamps, could you trust yourself(well, I mean everyone else) to put in account along with TTidies - just think of the interest ££.:) just a thought.


I am a bit crafty (more ways than one - some say:rotfl:) myself, just haven't had the time or inclination but would to get back to it. I'm thinking more ££ for the o/p's.


Not too much planned for this weekend either, just go with the flow, just do whatever I feel like/needs done.


Will also be reading if freezer goes in DD's room, know someone who has had great bargains both on the bay and Gumtree although we are talking American Fridge/Freezers:eek:

What's the Mr & Ms?


Have a good weekend:).

SueP19

Sorry mr ms (morrisons) lolol

I have a website and run a business for my craft as well as work full time (4th website I have built) it helps being able to do my own tax return.

As for the stamps each year I tell myself I am going to get it all before but I usually end up stopping mid november to buy presents and you do get £3 free if you get to £97 so thats a 3% return

Well paid for the first part of the car £352 and second part booked in for February, OH wanted to go get air filter and stuff for an oil change today but I stamped my foot and said no way, it was then I realised I always produce money when he says because he throws a tantrum and always have to deal with the consequences of the spending. So I said no but put the items in my little "to buy" book and that worked :T:T

We used our new (second hand) bread maker today for the first time today, it smells alright and looks alright so fingers crossed. It won't save me money as I dont usually buy bread but OH misses it and does mean he can have more stews and soups etc so will save in long run

Off for a date with The Winchesters now and to finish knitting DDs cushion :A

Karmacat

Hi Sue

Nothing wildly exciting here either - all of us are mostly building for the future really, aren't we - its not adventurous, but it *enables* adventures later that's how I'm trying to think of it anyway!

I do my own accounts too - its a bit complicated because of having the French apartment, but I get it done in the end, saves hundreds of pounds.

SueP19

It's my day job Karmacat lolol

It is building for the future but I am hoping I learn to enjoy life again too, am enjoying it so far. I Tilly tidy every day now xx

SueP19

Day 35

Well what a great start to Monday, arrived at work to be blasted by a fellow colleague, complaints too numerous to mention...............God I hate him!!! He is sat on his ivory tower casting judgement down on the fact I left at normal time on friday because I had to get to the garage by 5pm to pay for it, how he is the only one working OT at the moment, that was the first insult, when I explained that I had to wash up from the roast eaten late last night because OH work late I was told that I shouldn't put home life first, at that point I went into silent deadly mode as nothing I could say would be good enough.............he does this on a regular basis.
Funny thing is he knows it will be only me that will help him these next few weeks and to be honest I feel like not turning in early just to spite him.

These last few years have really taken their toll on me mentally and I am at the point now where everyone just feels they can have a go at me, to be this misjudged is heart breaking

lulabelle1

Don't let the eejit get you down... You certainly don't need to make any justifications at all as to why you would not start work early or finish late. So long as you're getting your work done, then he can swivel?

I wouldn't even make excuses..

Just grin and bare it as much as you can

SueP19

Thanks Lulabelle, I finished a job at lunch time on friday (1pm) gave it to him and left at 3.30pm, so he accuses me of yet again giving it to him at last minute. I was rushing to finish it for him, yet again and yet again I get slammed for it. When things crop up that I haven't had time to do yet the attitude is "you not done that YET" All of it just wears me down so much

He does not have a go at the others like this plus he has now insisted I finish another job because he is finding it embarrassing making excuses to client (his friend) When I pointed out that I had 3 jobs to do for "the boss" this week he told me to ignore that and do his.................oh just so you know I am off equal status to him.

Lots of the things he pointed out were things that he decided to include that had not been done previously. That I can cope with but it's the inference that I "don't pull my weight" I have spent the last year giving every ounce that I have to others including my job and I am just weary so weary of it all, he's not the only one OH and DD have the same attitude

I will ignore him for the rest of the week, as is usual and he will make some joke on friday :sad::sad::sad:

lulabelle1

I would address the issues with him ASAP. I would also appraise your boss of the situation. Stick to the facts and try and keep any emotion out of it. If you continue to leave it and let him treat you this way, then nothing will change.

SueP19

"Boss" on holiday for a week, hence his deadline on 3 jobs, all due 31st Jan

Am sure towards end of week he will mutter words of "oh I just got annoyed" or "you can understand...."

His words won't really help me feel any better, how do I cope and change this being a victim, I don't do that to other people and when I stand up for myself I am accused of being "flighty/awkward/nasty"

Just last night OH expected me to drop everything and look at a picture on faceache, when I said no sharply ( I was carving joint/dishing up and feeding the dog)he sulked ALL evening with me, to be honest is it really worth it, I ask. If I do stand up for myself I am made to be the bad guy and I suffer in the long run because I have to back down and grovel just to make peace............what a life

Karmacat

Oh Sue! You poor thing

This bit stood out in your last post: "Am sure towards end of week he will mutter words of "oh I just got annoyed" or "you can understand...."

His words won't really help me feel any better, how do I cope and change this being a victim, I don't do that to other people and when I stand up for myself I am accused of being "flighty/awkward/nasty"

Just because he says it, doesn't make it true. Since you know he'll say sh*t like that, what comeback can you think of in advance?
- "I understand you're annoyed, but you're taking it out on me, and I won't put up with that level of insult any longer".
- "I understand all too well, but that doesn't make it all right for you to be so insulting towards me".
- "If you think I'm being nasty/flighty, etc, I'd like you to let me know exactly what you mean".

And like Lula says, definitely, your boss should know, and stick to the facts - in fact, take notes, write the history down if you can bear to. How big is the firm, is there an HR person?

And since this guy is on the same level as you, he has no right to be ordering you around. It sounds really poisonous, sorry you're going through that