Is it OK to send cheque in post as wedding gift?

Jagraf

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

Seriously? How ungrateful can you get? A cheque IS a very nice present IMO. Yes, a bank transfer might be easier for a lot of people who don't get into town often (myself included), but for some people a cheque is their prefered way of sending cash.

We got a lot of cheques for our wedding, mainly off older friends and relatives, as that's what they prefer and what they are used to sending. Yes, nowadays it perhaps isn't the most confident way of sending cash, but we were still grateful for each and every one.

It's someone sending you their hard earned cash, which you should accept with gratitude.

This isn't about not being grateful for any gift, of course it's generous, it's about the most convenient way for the recipient of receiving money. Some say it's more thoughtful to send a cheque, but I don't agree that there is any more thought, in fact, less.

Georgiegirl256

Jagraf wrote: »

This isn't about not being grateful for any gift, of course it's generous, it's about the most convenient way for the recipient of receiving money. Some say it's more thoughtful to send a cheque, but I don't agree that there is any more thought, in fact, less.

Saying that a cheque is not a good gift IS being ungrateful. Of course, a bank transfer/actual cash, is more convenient, but I still wouldn't turn my nose up at a cheque.

Jagraf

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

Saying that a cheque is not a good gift IS being ungrateful. Of course, a bank transfer/actual cash, is more convenient, but I still wouldn't turn my nose up at a cheque.

yes, it's more convenient. And as someone sending a gift, I woukd think about what was more convenient for the recipient.

Georgiegirl256

Jagraf wrote: »

yes, it's more convenient. And as someone sending a gift, I woukd think about what was more convenient for the recipient.

I don't disagree. I would always try and send a gift in the preferred method of payment. My comment was in relation to the statement of a cheque not being a good gift. That cheque might be off an elderly relative who knows no different and only deals in cheques. Because they send their gift in that way, it should still be appreciated.

duchy

tea_lover wrote: »

How is payying in at a different bank any easier? Do people really not understand that some of us never go to a bank or post office? We don't all work part time hours with town-centre lunch breaks. Yes it could be posted but that's also more hassle. What's wrong with the money just appearing in your account, with no delay.

I'm sure you never go shopping , never pass a branch of your bank, never go anywhere except work and home . It's quite amazing you managed to make any friends to attend the wedding if you never go anywhere except work and home

I actually work from home -and still manage to get to a bank if I need to-It's really not the dreadful hardship some people are claiming.

I'm finding this thread really amusing "How dare people have the audacity to gift me money and force me to actually bank it myself- How inconsiderate of them - Surely they know I have far more important things to do . Good grief they'll be expecting a (hand signed) thank you note next !"

If a cheque is more convenient for the giver then perhaps the recipient could consider that more important than their own convenience (unless they believe the world revolves solely for their personal benefit)

Murphybear

tea_lover wrote: »

I haven't received a cheque for years, why on earth would I?

I venture out plenty thanks - that's what happens when you work 50+ hours a week.

I received a cheque for £4.06 the other day from my utility supplier. It's the fourth one in the last 2 years.:T

Jagraf

duchy wrote: »

I'm sure you never go shopping , never pass a branch of your bank, never go anywhere except work and home

For our family, personally, it is logistically difficult , as it is for anyone who works full time away from a town centre. Offices are often out of town as land is cheaper and office tenancies don't have a high street premium. My husband actually cannot get to a bank in the week he doesn't work near one. If he went at lunchtime he would need to drive 15 mins and park up in a busy town centre and queue. For me, I also work on the outskirts of town but I'm lucky enough to have flexibility to work from home but it's still a car journey (I live by local shops but no bank).

My daughter is 16 and she had a couple of cheques for her birthday (which of course any present she is grateful for). She is at school all week and works on a Saturday. If I hadnt put the cheques in for Her she eoukd have had to wait till half term to cash her money. Usually relatives put money into her bank account so that she can access it straight away. She will probably never send a cheque in her life.

To me, it's not that people aren't grateful for gifts, but I would rather ensure the recipient of the gift had no hassle, a bit like when kids open toys on Christmas day and someone has thoughtfully added a couple of batteries.

I can see a couple of uses for cheques still - and there are people who don't have access to a computer or don't like that way of banking - but when a reasonable alternative is found they will surely be phased out.

I can't say I often go 'shopping' in a town centre. I buy from my local shops ie the butcher and then either on line or at out of town shopping centres.

pigpen

I get cheques through from my feed in tariff every 3 month.. last one was £142 so not an insignificant amount.. it took me 3 weeks to get it to the bank.. at the end of the street!!! I've had £400 in a drawer waiting to get to the bank for a week.. it's just in the opposite direction to everything else so inconvenient.. bank transfer would be so much simpler.

Not paypal.. the fees are hideous.

tea_lover

The last time I went into a bank was 5 years ago when we opened a joint account. The last time I went into a town centre was easily a few months ago. I go to aldi at the weekend (usually 9pm as it's quiet) and that's about it. Everything else is bought online. I can think of hundreds of things I'd rather do with any precious free time than trawl around shops..... or worse, banks.

It's nothing to do with being grateful or not, it's about being practical. I maintain that the nicest give is one you've given some thought to - and if you know the recipient will find it difficult to pay in a cheque then it's far more thoughtful to pass the money on in a different way.

onlyroz

Assuming that you're not giving a vast amount of money, I don't see a problem with sending cash.