Is it OK to send cheque in post as wedding gift?

Gavin83

Last wedding I went to I did a bank transfer. I was best man and know him well enough to know it was preferred. I guess it depends on who's wedding it is.

duchy

Blimey it's a wedding gift
Talk about looking a gift horse in the mouth !!!

Some of you would grumble if you won the lottery that it was a pain to bank the blooming cheque !!!

OP a cheque is fine

All this nonsense about bank transfers ....are some of you seriously suggesting the OP rings the bride or groom and demands their bank details ?

Jagraf

duchy wrote: »

Blimey it's a wedding gift
Talk about looking a gift horse in the mouth !!!

Some of you would grumble if you won the lottery that it was a pain to bank the blooming cheque !!!

OP a cheque is fine

All this nonsense about bank transfers ....are some of you seriously suggesting the OP rings the bride or groom and demands their bank details ?

Any monetary gift is of course generous. and yes it would be a massive hassle taking one of those huge lottery cheques into the bank. I would need to tie it on the roof rack

tea_lover

duchy wrote: »

All this nonsense about bank transfers ....are some of you seriously suggesting the OP rings the bride or groom and demands their bank details ?

Seriously suggesting that the OP speaks to her friends and asks them what is the most convenient way for her to send them a gift. Don't see what's nonsense about that.

I've got bank details for loads of my mates - it's how we sort gig tickets, weekends away etc.

Timpu

Cheque, bank transfer, either fine imo.

When we got married we made bank details available but certainly didn't think less of the cheques our nearest and dearest kindly offered. It meant a special trip to the bank (while on honeymoon), so inconvenient but not unreasonable.

We did get grumpy with close family who decided to ignore more practical options and withdraw cash to hand us in advance of the day...then nag us about banking it as 'leaving it lying around isn't safe' :wall: When working long hours, moving house, doing wedding stuff and packing for our honeymoon, you don't have time to get to town for the bank.

Jagraf

tea_lover wrote: »

Seriously suggesting that the OP speaks to her friends and asks them what is the most convenient way for her to send them a gift. Don't see what's nonsense about that.

I've got bank details for loads of my mates - it's how we sort gig tickets, weekends away etc.

So do we - the schools rarely even ask for cheques now because of the hassle. We pay direct for trips.

catoutthebag

To the people who bank transfer (yuck, horrible cheap thought )
Is it accompanied with a WhatsApp 'congrats' message too Esther than card?

pickledonionspaceraider

duchy wrote: »

Blimey it's a wedding gift
Talk about looking a gift horse in the mouth !!!

Some of you would grumble if you won the lottery that it was a pain to bank the blooming cheque !!!

OP a cheque is fine

All this nonsense about bank transfers ....are some of you seriously suggesting the OP rings the bride or groom and demands their bank details ?

Thank god - someone talking sense

tea_lover

catoutthebag wrote: »

To the people who bank transfer (yuck, horrible cheap thought )
Is it accompanied with a WhatsApp 'congrats' message too Esther than card?

Are your cheques gold plated or something? It's just a piece of paper, you don't even keep it. Why does that show more thought than giving the money directly? Surely taking the recipient's circumstances into consideration when deciding how to give money can only be a good thing?

Ikamva

Cheques are for old people. This isn't the dark ages, use Paypal