Women who keep their married name YEARS after the divorce.

tea_lover

Maybe I just deal with more forward-thinking institutions :rotfl:!

missbiggles1

Jagraf wrote: »

Although at some point your maiden name is also a result of a woman taking on a mans name. Not that I agree it disagree either way, I'm just saying your maiden name is a product of a name change.

My father's mother was unmarried (:eek:) so my original name (I will not say maiden name!) has come down to me from a woman.:)

missbiggles1

tea_lover wrote: »

Maybe I just deal with more forward-thinking institutions :rotfl:!

I don't think I've ever seen a form which didn't ask for your title - how would they address you if they didn't know what it was?

notanewuser

Jagraf wrote: »

Although at some point your maiden name is also a result of a woman taking on a mans name. Not that I agree it disagree either way, I'm just saying your maiden name is a product of a name change.

How so? My daughter has her dad's name for her surname (mine is a middle name) but I've never used anything but my name. Mum wished she hadn't changed hers - been married to dad for 40+ years - so used it professionally. She's known as both, but I have my dad's name as my surname.

missbiggles1

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

But for a woman their name does define them.


Whenever I am asked to fill out a form it usually asks if I am Mrs.or Ms/Miss.


This then identifies you as single or married, wrongly or rightly.

Ms doesn't define you as married/unmarried - that's the whole point!

notanewuser

missbiggles1 wrote: »

I don't think I've ever seen a form which didn't ask for your title - how would they address you if they didn't know what it was?

Why would they need to address you as anything?

I was asked this morning when I booked a trampolining ticket online for DD!

missbiggles1

notanewuser wrote: »

How so? My daughter has her dad's name for her surname (mine is a middle name) but I've never used anything but my name. Mum wished she hadn't changed hers - been married to dad for 40+ years - so used it professionally. She's known as both, but I have my dad's name as my surname.

I think that's the point.

notanewuser

missbiggles1 wrote: »

I think that's the point.

But it's not as a result of mum changing her name. That would have been my name whatever she did.

missbiggles1

notanewuser wrote: »

Why would they need to address you as anything?

I was asked this morning when I booked a trampolining ticket online for DD!

Presumably that'll've put you on a mailing list somewhere.

You can't write a formal letter to someone without using a title. It's totally incorrect to write "Dear John or Mary Smith".

janninew

I suppose for many it's just convenience keeping their married name. I work in a school and have done for 8 years. One of the business teachers has been married twice and in between reverted back to her maiden name. So in 8 years has been Miss Maiden, Mrs Married, Miss Maiden (after the divorce) and then finally Mrs Married! I often get her name mixed up and I'm sure the children do!