Women who keep their married name YEARS after the divorce.

theoretica

There is also the issue of having changed name for that man once, why should they do so again?

Jagraf

I kept mine as same as my daughters
Also for credit history

As she gets older I use my now married name more.

Only problem is my husband sometimes gets called my ex's surname lol.

They are my reasons - just practical ones.

notanewuser

tea_lover wrote: »

Exactly. I don't see either of the names I've used as belonging to men (and only borrowed by me). They're both MY name. I might change my name to something else one day, and that will be just as much my name too.

It's only a name, it doesn't define who I am as a person.

Most do see it as part of their identity though.

Best friend has just reverted to her maiden name after her 15 year marriage broke down. I remember having a discussion with her as she was unsure about keeping her name after marriage. She ended up using both until they had children, then just using her "married name". Now she can't bear to be associated with her ex husband and has decided to go back to her maiden name. Her children couldn't give a toss so long as she's happy. The uproar on FB when she changed though...............

Goldiegirl

seashore22 wrote: »

I've been Mrs Seashore 10 years longer than the time I was Miss ...... If I ever got divorced (a very happy marriage so unlikely) I would keep my married name as it's who I am now.

That's how I feel. I had my maiden name for 21 years and I've had my married name for 34 years. The vast majority of people who know me now have only ever known me by my married name, so it makes no sense to me to revert to a name I last used nearly half a lifetime ago

missprice

Well I have kept my married name for over 20 years now, mainly because its easy/simple/ and 5 letters long. My maiden name is foreign 10 letters long with a space, 2 capital letters and 15 ways to pronounce. It also has to be spelled out every time someone hears it and there is always a conversation about what it means, how I got it and where is it from ( Belgium)

Jagraf

notanewuser wrote: »

It's the assumption that males keep their names and women change theirs. One would hope future generations wouod be a little less mysogenistic than those previous to them.

So do you think a surname is important, or not? I kept mine for practical reasons, but I'm not really bothered what I am called. I don't see it as an inequality thing, as I don't see it as that important, one way or another.

Jagraf

theoretica wrote: »

There is also the issue of having changed name for that man once, why should they do so again?

This is a good point.

swingaloo

I was married for 20+ years and after my divorce kept my married name.

Ive now remarried and still use the same name. I married at 20 so my name has been my name for the last 40+ years and I see no reason to change now. My new husband has no issue with it.

Serendipitious

I kept my married name after divorce, primarily so that my DD would have the sense of security of having the same name as me throughout school - she had only just started school at the time and divorce was less common an event in those days.

That reasoning obviously no longer applies as she is now an adult, but I have never wished to return to my maiden name as a) I didn't like it and still don't; b) I always had to spell it for people; c) I think all these years on it would be very much a backwards move to return to my childhood name.

I have toyed with the idea of changing my surname to one of my own choice and have actually chosen one, so I might get around to it one day. But I'm also mindful of the hassle it would be to change it by deed poll and then to update all my financials, insurances, pensions and personal documentation.

notanewuser

Jagraf wrote: »

So do you think a surname is important, or not? I kept mine for practical reasons, but I'm not really bothered what I am called. I don't see it as an inequality thing, as I don't see it as that important, one way or another.

Not especially. I didn't want to be more closely associated with my husband's family than mine. I also had a reputation in my working life that I didn't want to complicate. And I hated the sexist expectations and assumptions, as well as the history of why women changed their names.