Women who keep their married name YEARS after the divorce.

Person_one

duchy wrote: »

Most women I know don't think the man they share a bed with defines who they are.

Judging by the speed with which so many women change their names (often changed on Facebook before the wedding cake is cut!), plenty do see it as a defining part of their identity.

POPPYOSCAR

Perhaps the answer is to both change your name on marriage.


My niece and her husband did this as neither of them liked their surnames.

tea_lover

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

Do you call yourself Mrs or Ms?


I have always called myself Ms.

Ms or Miss if I had to, but I can't even remember the last time I was asked that.

My name is a small part of my identity, as is my job, my hobbies, my friends, etc. But none of them define me, that just seems like such an odd concept to me. It's like being defined by my hair colour or favourite coat.

duchy

missbiggles1 wrote: »

Of course not but there's a big difference between sleeping with someone and marrying them!

Plenty of women who are married and had no previous sexual partners who would disagree with that !!

Actually the thing I've always found really odd is women who dont/won't marry their partner but change their name by deed poll to theirs (when their is no legal impediment to the couple marrying).

Some people don't want/need marriage - fine- but why mimic it by changing your name as per the marriage convention (or sometime convention) if you don't believe in marriage . That one baffles me.

POPPYOSCAR

tea_lover wrote: »

Ms or Miss if I had to, but I can't even remember the last time I was asked that.

My name is a small part of my identity, as is my job, my hobbies, my friends, etc. But none of them define me, that just seems like such an odd concept to me. It's like being defined by my hair colour or favourite coat.

But for a woman their name does define them.


Whenever I am asked to fill out a form it usually asks if I am Mrs.or Ms/Miss.


This then identifies you as single or married, wrongly or rightly.

DevilsAdvocate1

notanewuser wrote: »

So much wrong with this post.

There's no reason at all to assume boys won't be changing their names. And if changing names is such a hassle, why did you do it in the first place?!

That's how I found out that it was a hassle!

tea_lover

I've changed jobs and bought a house this year and haven't had to do that. All forms have just asked for my name.

Jagraf

notanewuser wrote: »

Not especially. I didn't want to be more closely associated with my husband's family than mine. I also had a reputation in my working life that I didn't want to complicate. And I hated the sexist expectations and assumptions, as well as the history of why women changed their names.

Although at some point your maiden name is also a result of a woman taking on a mans name. Not that I agree it disagree either way, I'm just saying your maiden name is a product of a name change.

missbiggles1

duchy wrote: »

Plenty of women who are married and had no previous sexual partners who would disagree with that !!

Actually the thing I've always found really odd is women who dont/won't marry their partner but change their name by deed poll to theirs (when their is no legal impediment to the couple marrying).

Some people don't want/need marriage - fine- but why mimic it by changing your name as per the marriage convention (or sometime convention) if you don't believe in marriage . That one baffles me.

That would be a pretty rare bird these days, unless from a minority community!

However, I totally agree with the rest of your post - it seems like the worst of all worlds.

POPPYOSCAR

tea_lover wrote: »

I've changed jobs and bought a house this year and haven't had to do that. All forms have just asked for my name.

Most forms I have to fill out ask for title.


Bank account applications, insurance policies etc. have all asked
Mr/Mrs/Miss/Ms/Dr/other title.