Dad Is Leaving Me Out Of Will

duchy

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

I would not 'get on' with my parents if they refused to meet my partner.


My OH comes first and my loyalty is to him.

I have to wonder if Matthew would socialize with any other people who made it clear they disliked his wife

System

No, and tbh my best friend and nan when she was alive liked her, its just that parents are less expendable because of my history with them than most people

Pollycat

MatthewAinsworth wrote: »

No, and tbh my best friend and nan when she was alive liked her, its just that parents are less expendable because of my history with them than most people

So they are refusing (or at least your Mother is) to accept your wife/partner because of your history with them.
But they are now happy to see you but not your wife/partner?


Sounds very odd to me.

duchy

MatthewAinsworth wrote: »

No, and tbh my best friend and nan when she was alive liked her, its just that parents are less expendable because of my history with them than most people

How would your Dad react if someone told him he was welcome in their home but they couldn't stand his wife ?
Would he consider that to be OK ?

Your parents still consider you a child and are treating you as such with their lack of respect not just for your wife but for you too. I remember talking to my Dad about his situation (when I was much iolderand him telling me that the reason he stood so firm with his family (and I in no way underestimate how hard that was) was because of me (I'm the eldest child) as he realized that if he didn't he was giving me the message that my Mum wasn't @good enough@ for them - and he wasn't having that.

I'm guessing your son is quite young - as his father and role model -what are you teaching him about family dynamics and how to treat people by example ?

You've never said why your parents are so against your wife (in my parent's case my Dad married out of their faith ) obviously whatever it is wasn't anything that stopped you choosing her as your life partner and mother of your children though.

Jagraf

xXMessedUpXx wrote: »

Mmmm pancakes

Tbh i have more of a bond with my step dad, plus he;s always treated me like his own, and to me he's been more of a dad than bio dad ever was.

Interestingly the quote that "blood is thicker than water" isn;t what most people think, the original proverb it was taken from is "The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb." So technically its not saying what people think it says

My DD always says to her stepdad that he was always meant to be her dad but the timings were just wrong and she had to be born before I met him

tea_lover

Jagraf wrote: »

My DD always says to her stepdad that he was always meant to be her dad but the timings were just wrong and she had to be born before I met him

Think I've got something in my eye.... *sniff*

Stevie_Palimo

I'm not sure why your worried about this and being in a similar situation where I have nothing to do with my family anymore all I can say is that I am much happier without them in my life and to be honest even if I did get left anything in a will of which I very much doubt I would simply refuse it.

Pollycat

Jagraf wrote: »

My DD always says to her stepdad that he was always meant to be her dad but the timings were just wrong and she had to be born before I met him

That's really sweet - and exactly how I felt about my step-dad.
I wish he was still here so I could tell him that.

Rain_Shadow

SailorSam wrote: »

I've just been watching ....'Shoppers guide to saving' on C4. They were looking at where the money goes when you have a funeral. They said the average price of a headstone in the Uk is £900. It can vary 'cos the price changes the number of letters they need to carve out in your name.

Who'd be a Fearnley-Whittingstall?;)

heartbreak_star

Jagraf wrote: »

My DD always says to her stepdad that he was always meant to be her dad but the timings were just wrong and she had to be born before I met him

Aw, you know what, that's one of the nicest things I have ever heard. Your DD is ace

tea_lover wrote: »

Think I've got something in my eye.... *sniff*

Me too!

Rain_Shadow wrote: »

Who'd be a Fearnley-Whittingstall?;)

*looks at own surname*
*sets up account for own headstone*

HBS x