Dad Is Leaving Me Out Of Will

Person_one

I feel for you OP, its really really hard to accept that your parent doesn't love you the way they're supposed to. There's absolutely nothing you can do to change how he feels though. If his approval is conditional on you staying at home forever and never having your own independent life, then its not worth seeking. His treatment of you is unfair, but there's nothing you can do to make him want to treat you fairly.

Have you had any counselling? You might find it really useful in helping you to sort out some of these thoughts and feelings.

Oh, and of course you don't have to pay a penny for the headstone.

DUTR

Marktheshark wrote: »

Why are you still speaking ?
I would have thought "Away and drop dead" would be my reaction.
Life is too short, Ignoring those that seek to hurt you takes the power from them they have over you and the hatred they have will be directed elsewhere.
Someone usually gets it.

I know, been there, got the shirt.

That could be either party in the case of the thread.

Guest101

Your father has rights, one of them is to spend his money as he wishes.

Actually shocked by this question!

If 'unfair' is your attitude to life then perhaps your father has a point about the choices you've made.

System

Sad to hear and unfair, should be contestable. Inheritance can sometimes be the only way we can help our own children on the housing ladder

System

Guest 101 - no matter what a child dies they're still yours, and what they did could've been a derived consequence of parenting, the parent might blame the child when really a lack of support meant they made mistakes. Or maybe the parent isn't a fair judge, they're not always

Pollycat

MatthewAinsworth wrote: »

Sad to hear and unfair, should be contestable. Inheritance can sometimes be the only way we can help our own children on the housing ladder

But if the parent does not wish to help his children - or one of them - by leaving property or money in his will, that is entirely their choice.

I don't think 'unfair' has anything to do with it.

System

A parents duty to their children is to be fair, not necessarily give 50% each, but to try their best to understand their child and make it right

missbiggles1

MatthewAinsworth wrote: »

A parents duty to their children is to be fair, not necessarily give 50% each, but to try their best to understand their child and make it right

A parent has very little "duty" to treat their adult children fairly and, in most circumstances, no legal responsibility either.

System

Children don't ask to be brought into this world and my reason for doing so is so that he'll live a happy life, I'm putting him through a world of work and bullying in places and I feel I owe it to him to make it worthwhile

I want my son & any future children to have a better and happier life than me, there is no point having children if a parent won't make the effort for life

no1catman

But at least you had it straight from your father, it's not as if after his death, and no inheritance - you got hold of the will and wondered was it his intention, or was he manipulated into doing it that way!!