Dad Is Leaving Me Out Of Will

determined_new_ms

Was your father an abusive father? There have been cases where an abusive parent has written their child out of the will and it has been overturned as it is an extension of the abuse.

Otherwise I think it would be very unlikely to be overturned

DUTR

determined_new_ms wrote: »

Was your father an abusive father? There have been cases where an abusive parent has written their child out of the will and it has been overturned as it is an extension of the abuse.

Otherwise I think it would be very unlikely to be overturned

I don't see what abusive has to do with anything. 15 years on , the OP can stand on their own two feet now. I have intentionally excluded an offspring, not planning on leaving just yet, but I don't feel they deserve leaving anything. As said earlier it is the testator's choice.

Poppie68

You want to go against your father's wishes to get his money, but you are willing to ask strangers to grant your mother's wish of a certain headstone!


Just move on, it's not your money it's his to do as he wishes.... maybe he will have the sense to liquidate all his assests and blow it all on himself.

missbiggles1

determined_new_ms wrote: »

Was your father an abusive father? There have been cases where an abusive parent has written their child out of the will and it has been overturned as it is an extension of the abuse.

Otherwise I think it would be very unlikely to be overturned

Who would want to accept money from a parent who'd abused them?

GwylimT

So you would be happy to take money from someone who hates you?

My mother was awful, I would not ignore this for financial gain.

tomtontom

missbiggles1 wrote: »

Who would want to accept money from a parent who'd abused them?

Or have any relationship with them at all?

This is all very dysfunctional.

kelpie35

If what you have mentioned about how you were treated by your father I think you should just forget about him, his money and the request for money towards your mother's headstone.

You have made a new life for your self and should now get on with living it.

Money does not always bring happiness.

paddy's_mum

bluelass wrote: »

he expects me to fork out £5000 for my mothers headstone.

Honestly?

Your mother lives, forever, within your heart or not at all.

Why play their rotten game?

Marktheshark

Why are you still speaking ?
I would have thought "Away and drop dead" would be my reaction.
Life is too short, Ignoring those that seek to hurt you takes the power from them they have over you and the hatred they have will be directed elsewhere.
Someone usually gets it.

I know, been there, got the shirt.

jaylee3

There are few things more satisfying and liberating than cutting someone dead who has treated you like crap for years. They can no longer get to you, and that really gets to them.

Sometimes it can mean distancing yourself from other extended family, or friends, and can even mean completely losing touch altogether, but that's a cross you have to bear. It's often worth it to get rid of toxic people in your life. Your peace of mind and mental health will be better for it.

Just extinguish this man from your life. Why do you want his money if he is such a vile article?