Men - how do you behave on a night out with the lads when in a relationship?

DSmiffy

My ex other half would never have expressed any interest in other women to my face.

My current other half, shall we say, appreciates the female form, and is happy to say so in my presence. I don't worry about him on a lads night out, it all comes down to trust, and he trusts me also.

We both look and maybe chat or even flirt a little, but that's it, nothing more.

However, it's only recently I have been pointing out other men and saying, he's fit, if I was single blah blah, only to give him a taste of his own medicine! He knows why I do it, because he does it to me. He knows I'd rather have steak at home than a burger on a girl's night out!!

It keeps us both on our toes, it reminds us both to always make an effort for the other one, relationships need to be worked on to keep them alive.

burlington6

DSmiffy wrote: »

My ex other half would never have expressed any interest in other women to my face.

My current other half, shall we say, appreciates the female form, and is happy to say so in my presence. I don't worry about him on a lads night out, it all comes down to trust, and he trusts me also.

We both look and maybe chat or even flirt a little, but that's it, nothing more.

However, it's only recently I have been pointing out other men and saying, he's fit, if I was single blah blah, only to give him a taste of his own medicine! He knows why I do it, because he does it to me. He knows I'd rather have steak at home than a burger on a girl's night out!!

It keeps us both on our toes, it reminds us both to always make an effort for the other one, relationships need to be worked on to keep them alive.

Was your ex slightly needy?

I only ask because your current other half seems like the confident type who knows how far he can push you and doesn't mind you giving him the same in return. How a relationship should be!

C_Mababejive

I am male. I know and have known of other male friends who have had secret affairs even though they are married and i have known some of them on lads trips out ,to get off with a woman. I have also known other men married or partnered, who wouldnt dream of such behaviour. Its all down to the individual, his or her values and how good they are at resisting temptation.


Scratch the thin veneer of civilisation and see what lies beneath. At heart we have the desire to "mate"with other available partners and it is only societal norms and our own self imposed morality and values that prevents that from happening.
in the end you cannot hope to police the activities of your partner and you just have to trust them and get on with your life.

Stevie_Palimo

I also believe this goes both ways and out meeting a client in a hotel ages ago and we see an American mother and daughter who took a liking to the pair of us, She openly admitted to being married and still tried it on with my client who laughed it off as he was married. They were both pretty fit though and if I were single at the time I would have not said no to either or possibly both.

Gra76

Anyone male who goes out for a night out and doesn't flash a few glances at the opposite sex is either a liar or a they prefer other men.

I get 'let out of my cage' a handful of times a year and I'm like a kid in a sweet shop looking at all those wonderfully dressed up beautiful women (and averting my gaze from the not so well dressed !!!!!! ones).

I have no issues talking to anyone of the opposite sex either, I'm very sociable so it tends to happen regularly. I draw the line at conversation though, that's the difference between having a good night and getting into trouble with the other half! If there's any suggestion that anything other than chat is expected a couple of mentions of the missus and kids soon stops that! All the friends I go out with are the same, window shopping takes up the majority of the nights out for us. We don't however go in and purchase so to speak...

Person_one

Alias_Omega wrote: »

Even NYD, I've entered a 10k race. That's more fun than drinking...

Are you sure you're doing it right?

ALIBOBSY

janninew wrote: »

Just wondered as I read this thread, has any females other (male) half ever pointed out another attractive male and said 'cor look at the ar3e on him?!' All seems quite one sided, almost a given that men will leer over women (with the partners joining in!) but women aren't expected to leer at men. Just an observation!

My OH and I are both very open about stuff like that and he will even send me links to pictures/sites of good looking actors and the like lol.

TBH I could pretty much tell walking down a street which woman he would find attractive and he would say the same to me. He is also a flirt when talking to people when we are out and we just laugh about it. I find being very open with each other just reinforces how much we trust each other. We will have been married for 18 yrs next week so I guess we are doing something right.

So I agree looking ok, touching no way and especially after a few bevies don't get into a temping situation where things could go too far.

Ali x

Alias_Omega

Person_one wrote: »

Are you sure you're doing it right?

Yes, down to about 44 mins now for a 10k..

Gloomendoom

Alias_Omega wrote: »

Yes, down to about 44 mins now for a 10k..

I think she means the drinking.

Randomjargon

Acceptable behaviour...anything if you're not caught