Men - how do you behave on a night out with the lads when in a relationship?

Rambosmum

My OH looks but doesn't touch. Sometimes he acts as wing man and talks to girls, gets selfies with them and such but his friend is the one buying the drinks. And he always goes out with his wedding ring on. Plus I trust him. Doesn't bother me. (he also doesn't delete the photos and we have unrestricted access to each others phones).

I look but don't touch. I will give guys the time of day though, I think it can be rude just to ignore or brush them off, I'm quick to point out I'm in a relationship though so I don't give them false hope and I try not to make eye contact/ attract them.

VfM4meplse

OP, let him look. It's you that he comes back to.

And if he doesn't then he's not worth having anyway.

ravilious_fan

What do you mean by a night out? An evening at the pub is different for example to going with your mates to a gentlemens club.

FBaby

It all depends what he means by 'look'. There is 'look' that is nothing more than 'see'. There is 'look' meaning 'looking for', and there is 'look' that means 'looking and finding a way of starting a conversation'.

Which is his definition?

Rebel_Cause

I do not know if he looks and I could not care less if he did, I am not insecure whatsoever. However, I do look at other men and notice none of them are a patch on my better half! LOL

themull1

I'm not bothered, my husband even freezes the telly if he sees a particularly nice woman/massive boobs etc to show me!! He always looks, but never touches, thats fine with me.

ciderwithrosie_2

Why ignore other men while you are out with friends - do you think every male on a night out is on the pull? How very strange! Can't you just enjoy the company of the opposite sex for what it is. No wonder you're suspicious of your boyfriend's behaviour which I would say is perfectly normal. When you get in a relationship with someone you don't go blind. I'll still 'look' at a well turned out man and I've been married 26 years.

System

Tbh i don;t even look on the rare occasions when i go out.. i'm very happy with the bf and nobody even peaks my interest these days, he pretty much never goes out so i donlt know how he'd act.

I went on a lads nnight out with my ex, and was shocked to see his friend who had a gf cheating on her :eek: and my ex and his mates were completely cool with it, but then my ex did the same to me when i wasn't there so maybe its just some men, certainly don't think it should be considered a norm though. Fair enough noticing someone attractive is fine but it doesn't need to go beyond that.

Newlyboughthouse

Thanks for your replies - you've reassured me. It just grosses me out the thought of leering over other women.

Yep always comes home to me but I hate saying that because it sounds a bit, have your fun while you're out, behave single, but come home to me please... know what I mean?

And yes he was honest about it. Rather than telling me what I want to hear he had enough respect for me to be honest. I think he thought I wouldn't mind as I'm not the typical 'scratch your eyes out' jealous woman. I wouldn't give any man the satisfaction of appearing that insecure. He has no idea I'm upset about it.

I am a bit too aloof whilst out I think. I do believe most men are after one thing which is why I suppose (go on tell me I'm wrong haha)

Newlyboughthouse

pickledonionspaceraider wrote: »

How old are you? You talk as if you are still in school..

Not sure why it matters, but I'm 29, thanks for asking.