Staying in a marriage you think might be abusive

candygirl

pigpen wrote: »

I was allowed to go with my mother

Omg:eek: forgot to say, he did manage to pay for his Mum to attend the same course as me, so she could spy on me:rotfl:

bluelass

I witnessed my dad with my mum growing up and she died this year and I really regret not speaking out when I was younger. I don't want you to end up that way hun and I don't want someone to die again.

System

bluelass wrote: »

I witnessed my dad with my mum growing up and she died this year and I really regret not speaking out when I was younger. I don't want you to end up that way hun and I don't want someone to die again.

You were in an impossible position, its not easy to speak up against a family member, please don't blame yourself.

I witnessed how my dad treated my mum, but it wasn't till i was a lot older i decided to cut him out of my life. I'm still trying to deal with that choice 10 years later. I didn;t feel i could speak out when younger as i felt some kind of misplaced loyalty to my dad and his side of the family, even when they were saying horrible things about my mum and step mum in front of me.

bluelass

harrys_nan wrote: »

He isn't all you have, you have your children and they deserve a better life. If you cannot leave for yourself then leave for your children.

I know it will be very hard to start with, but as time goes by it WILL get easier.

I agree. Do you want your children to grow up with low self esteem and them to have flash backs and issues because that will happen if you stay.