Blind date error

missbiggles1

yvonne13 wrote: »

So first of all you're agreeing that I'm shallow because you saw "a couple of people on here say so". Now you're telling me once again based of "someone else’s suggestion" you agree that I should avoid online dating and online forums?!?!

You don't know me on any level to tell me what to do. I asked for guidance which some posters gave and whether it is positive or negative that's fine as it's only their opinion. What I won't put up with (I'm going to be rude now) is people like you that are socially awkward. You lack self awareness and empathy of emotional intelligence.
So as you've clearly been living under a rock let me spell it out to you.
1. You feel that I don't get to the point so it makes you impatient and frustrated.
2. You weigh in early with your assertions and defend them with vigour.
3. You under estimate what negative impact your words have on others.
4. You clearly ignore what you say and what other people hear.
5. You need to think about how your words are going to impact on others and how you want them to feel.
6. Think about how you want people to feel about you.
7 Stop being a keyboard warrior.

Now feel free to kick rocks and block me.

This is true of everybody on here but given that your first post ends by saying,

"What should I do?"

it strikes me as a pretty illogical position to take.

Given the way you spoke and reacted to this man (if he actually exists;)), how you have the gall to post comments 3, 5 and 6 defeats me utterly.

Pollycat

yvonne13 wrote: »

So first of all you're agreeing that I'm shallow because you saw "a couple of people on here say so". Now you're telling me once again based of "someone else’s suggestion" you agree that I should avoid online dating and online forums?!?!

No, I'm not agreeing that you're shallow because I saw "a couple of people on here say so".
I said

Pollycat wrote: »

From what has been written so far, I can totally see why Duchy & FBaby have called you 'shallow'.

My 'shallow' comment was based on what you wrote, not what other posters said. I was merely agreeing with them.

yvonne13 wrote: »

Now you're telling me once again based of "someone else’s suggestion" you agree that I should avoid online dating and online forums?!?!

My point was - thanks to a link to your previous thread about issues with internet dating - that maybe internet dating wasn't for you.
It was an observation.
I didn't mention 'online forums' at all. I said 'missbiggles first suggestion' - which was online dating.

yvonne13 wrote: »

You don't know me on any level to tell me what to do. I asked for guidance which some posters gave and whether it is positive or negative that's fine as it's only their opinion. What I won't put up with (I'm going to be rude now) is people like you that are socially awkward. You lack self awareness and empathy of emotional intelligence.
So as you've clearly been living under a rock let me spell it out to you.
1. You feel that I don't get to the point so it makes you impatient and frustrated.
2. You weigh in early with your assertions and defend them with vigour.
3. You under estimate what negative impact your words have on others.
4. You clearly ignore what you say and what other people hear.
5. You need to think about how your words are going to impact on others and how you want them to feel.
6. Think about how you want people to feel about you.
7 Stop being a keyboard warrior.

Now feel free to kick rocks and block me.

I could refute your 7 points one-by-one but won't bother (other than to say #4 makes no sense to me at all :rotfl:) - I've already done that to the points you raised earlier in your post.
Your misunderstanding about what I actually posted clearly shows that you don't read posts so your '7 points' hold no water in relation to me and what I post.

I wouldn't dream of blocking you.
Why would I?
You're just a random stranger posting on t'internet.

mum2one

did u go for lunch or not?

Georgiegirl256

uselessaver wrote: »

Avoiding any tittle tattle (agree - great expression!), let's get down to brass tacks...
Have you met up with him again? Did you find out what he does for a living?

I've got a sneaky feeling that we'll never get to find out!

fierystormcloud

So..... what did you decide to do Yvonne?

Did you meet this guy again?

What happened with his job?

duchy

Pity really ...on the whole this board doesn't have to deal with the "everything is a conspiracy" brigade.

Ozzuk

Yvonne, you like the guy, read your signature and go on a second date. If it doesn't work out, so what, but at least you won't be left wondering.

heartbreak_star

Wish I hadn't bothered starting to read this now - I'm hooked haha!

*Eastenders theme...*

I agree with a previous post though Yvonne - the photo thing has obviously thrown you a bit, so why not mention on profile or when you start chatting that you'd like to see a photo of just the person you're chatting to?

HBS x

Goldiegirl

Have you found out what he does for a living? That's what we all really want to know!

DUTR

Goldiegirl wrote: »

Have you found out what he does for a living? That's what we all really want to know!

I'm more interested in if the OP has gone for the 2nd or subsequent dates, what he does for a living doesn't really matter as long as it is legal.