Blind date error

System

Pollycat wrote: »

I can't read anything in the OP's posts that imply that her date misled her into believing he was one of the other 2 guys in the photos or that he guilt-tripped her into staying to see out the date.

From what the OP said he behaved pretty well, despite the OP allowing him to see she was gutted.

He has been very manipulative if you think about it. The guy she was attracted to was the guy in the centre of the picture. You would expect it to be the person in the centre who you are talking to. The other picture she says is taken really far away so she cant see him clearly. He also avoided any video chat methods by saying his webcam was broken and he needed to buy a new phone. That is pretty misleading imo

When he saw she was disappointed which he knew she would be as he must have known she thought he was the other guy, he guilt tripped her by making her think it is her fault and by offering to leave he took advantage of her good nature.

This is known as catfishing.

cashewnut

I'd be more bothered that he's now left you dangling you on a hook wondering about his profession...

FBaby

You would expect it to be the person in the centre who you are talking to. The other picture she says is taken really far away so she cant see him clearly. He also avoided any video chat methods by saying his webcam was broken and he needed to buy a new phone. That is pretty misleading imo

OP had a choice to say that she wasn't interested in meeting with him before seeing a clear picture of him if it mattered so much to her. Not everyone is obsessed with looks, he might have thought it didn't matter so much to her at this stage.

Personally, I find the whole thing about the job much weirder. Do strippers or the like need to go on dating site to find dates?

lincroft1710

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

Yvonne's threads are so entertaining! Whatever did happen to the colleague who used your shower?

Yes, she has started some most unusual ones. They're definitely worth a read!

onlyroz

It's not like you have to decide straight away whether this man is the man of your dreams. Sounds like he's worth a few more dates at least before you make up your mind.

SandC

I would be intrigued by the job thing myself. Its probably less of a big deal than he thinks.

And as for the video chat thing, that's something I have no interest in doing with anyone, personally. We can talk on the phone, text or meet up. My alone time is private and I would like to meet someone who feels the same way!

Goldiegirl

As he's going drama queen over the job situation, that'd put me off.

System

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

Yvonne's threads are so entertaining! Whatever did happen to the colleague who used your shower?

I recall one thread where a work colleague was stealing her lunch, another where the man was using her shower, and another where there was some sort of social gathering which turned nasty after a man made a suggestive remark. I imagine this current man will turn out to be working in the sex industry, as some have suggested.

lisa110rry

FBaby wrote: »

I don't want to be unkind, and in your previous posts, you came across as a lovely person, but this is showing you as quite shallow and I think your attitude to him when he showed up was quite rude. It is your fault that you started to fantasize about the wrong man, he did nothing wrong and didn't deserve to be greeted with such an attitude. If I was him, I would be the one questioning whether I would want another date.

When my OH got in touch with me and I saw his picture, I was really disappointed as I found him totally unattractive. Still I liked his profile, what he said in his emails, and our telephone conversations. Despite believing that I wouldn't find him attractive in real life anymore than I did his picture, I looked forward to meeting him. Add a few years and we are happily married and I found him the most gorgeous man I've ever met.

I think you need to move on from your fantasy and decide whether the person who has shown so far to be a real gentleman is worth getting to know better even if you have not be blown off your feet at the first meeting. Then again, it might be too late, he might have decided not to waste time and ask someone else for lunch.

I have been married for 38 years next month to a wonderful man, but just have to say your post is wonderful. What's on the outside doesn't count (though I felt my husband was the most attractive, sexy, funny, cool person I had ever met) it's what's on the inside that counts!

Pollycat

avogadro wrote: »

I recall one thread where a work colleague was stealing her lunch, another where the man was using her shower, and another where there was some sort of social gathering which turned nasty after a man made a suggestive remark. I imagine this current man will turn out to be working in the sex industry, as some have suggested.

Or he could be a lunch-stealing, shower-using, pass-making ordinary type of bloke......

Or a figment of imagination......