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considering teenage children when moving

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  • duchy
    duchy Posts: 19,511 Forumite
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    edited 10 November 2015 at 8:01PM
    It seems to be that you are a bit bored with living where you do and fancy a change .......OH isn't bothered about moving......DD is assuming she'll be able to live at home and do a degree locally ......and you are asking if it's OK to put your wants first ?

    So if you moved would she still be able to travel to the same college daily ?

    If not what would her study options be ?

    If you are bored have you considered redecorating ? It seems you don't have any real need to move - more like you want to because you can. You seem a bit disatisfied with your career -maybe what you need is to consider if you too want to study -just a thought.
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  • 74jax
    74jax Posts: 7,930 Forumite
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    RAS wrote: »
    If she wants to do Psychology then she would be best advised to do a degree with British Psychological Society recognition.

    OK - not going to be absolutely necessary because only about 5% need it for their future jobs (clinical psychology etc) but employers know what they are getting because most of the course is prescribed by the BPS.

    That's why we looked at Newcastle uni, but she just dismissed it. Which was a shame as it seemed the most interested she'd been in something.
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  • Peter333
    Peter333 Posts: 2,035 Forumite
    I'm glad someone noticed this, i feel like I am reading a different thread to some people

    Well quite! I couldn't believe some of the things I was reading. I was wondering whether 'person-one' was replying to another thread, and had posted in this one by accident!
    You didn't, did you? :rotfl::rotfl:
  • missbiggles1
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    Peter333 wrote: »
    For the record, a degree done at college is just as worthy as any degree done at university. It's unfair and inaccurate to say it's not! What about the open university degrees then? People do them from home; are they worthless too?!

    To 74Jax, I would not uproot her right now, but as soon as she finishes her A levels, then knock yourself out, and do what you want. :) If you move quite far away, she will be 18 and able to look after herself then anyway. Do ask her what she wants though, and at least consider her feelings.

    It's not a question of worthiness but of academic standards and how employers consider them.

    Comparing a degree course taught at a local college to one from the OU just shows how little you understand about the subject, I'm afraid.
  • Person_one
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    Peter333 wrote: »
    For the record, a degree done at college is just as worthy as any degree done at university. It's unfair and inaccurate to say it's not! What about the open university degrees then? People do them from home; are they worthless too?!

    These degrees certainly aren't worthless, but unfortunately they are often less well regarded by employers and other academics.
  • 74jax
    74jax Posts: 7,930 Forumite
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    duchy wrote: »
    It seems to be that you are a bit bored with living where you do and fancy a change .......OH isn't bothered about moving......DD is assuming she'll be able to live at home and do a degree locally ......and you are asking if it's OK to put your wants first ?

    So if you moved would she still be able to travel to the same college daily ?

    If not what would her study options be ?

    If you are bored have you considered redecorating ? It seems you don't have any real need to move - more like you want to because you can.

    If we moved yes she could still go to the same college, just we'd be the other side of Newcastle to the one we are now.

    We put a drive in, New kitchen, bathroom, decking.... Nothing much else left :rotfl:

    But I think you've got the mail on the head, I think I'm bored with the house, maybe.
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  • missbiggles1
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    Peter333 wrote: »
    Well quite! I couldn't believe some of the things I was reading. I was wondering whether 'person-one' was replying to another thread, and had posted in this one by accident!

    Well, I'm absolutely on the same page as Person One on this - and that's unusual for us!
  • Person_one
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    Well, I'm absolutely on the same page as Person One on this - and that's unusual for us!

    Yes, it happens roughly once every blue moon, attach as much importance to that as you wish!
  • 74jax
    74jax Posts: 7,930 Forumite
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    Person_one wrote: »
    If you re-read, you'll see that he won't support his step-daughter, not can't. Do you think that's acceptable?

    I agree with him though, and I'm the mother.

    If she had wanted to go for a couple of years. Had shown a desire to go then yes he would support her. I couldn't and I don't feel bad I couldn't, I don't earn enough there's no shame in that.

    But she changed her mind constantly. Even at college she changed her mind in the first month.

    Just because he can afford it, doesn't mean she should have it.
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  • Peter333
    Peter333 Posts: 2,035 Forumite
    Well, I'm absolutely on the same page as Person One on this - and that's unusual for us!
    Person_one wrote: »
    Yes, it happens roughly once every blue moon, attach as much importance to that as you wish!

    Wow.

    It's amazing how some people can make things say what they want them to say.

    Like I said, NOWHERE in the OP's posts did she say ANY of the things that 'person-one' said she was saying.

    I am not the only one who noticed this.
    You didn't, did you? :rotfl::rotfl:
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