Opinions on wedding invites

Chlorine7

My housemate has this exact same issue but can only invite 20 people on her side. I've told her that if they are her friends they will understand the capacity issue and that she is limited to having her very closest friends and family at the actual ceremony.

I'm only going to the reception and I have no problem with it. The reception is the best part anyway. She also having a picnic lunch the next day which everyone will be invited too.

Brighton_belle

Mojisola wrote: »

All the registry offices in our area have several rooms that you can choose from, depending on how many guests you plan to invite.

Our nearest ones takes 40.

Out,_Vile_Jelly

I would certainly not be offended, but I was single and independent for a long time before I met my current bloke, and have a real horror of being one of those couples that has to do absolutely everything together and can no longer function as single entities. Weddings do seem to make everyone more easily offended though, so perhaps best not to make life even harder for yourself.

I do wonder what it's like looking through photos of your wedding and seeing couples who are no longer together. Several of my friends are in smiley wedding pics with guys who turned out to be cheats and rubbish dads.

Petra_70

Out,_Vile_Jelly wrote: »

I would certainly not be offended, but I was single and independent for a long time before I met my current bloke, and I have a real horror of being one of those couples that has to do absolutely everything together and can no longer function as single entities. Weddings do seem to make everyone more easily offended though, so perhaps best not to make life even harder for yourself.

I do wonder what it's like looking through photos of your wedding and seeing couples who are no longer together. Several of my friends are in smiley wedding pics with guys who turned out to be cheats and rubbish dads.

Yes, coz God forbid a couple who are married/living together/spending their lives together/have kids together should want to go to a wedding together as a couple.

You sound a little bit bitter to be honest.

Brighton_belle wrote: »

Our nearest ones takes 40.

As someone said above, the majority of register offices will have a choice of rooms. The one in the town near me has 3; one of them holds over 100 people.

The OP really needs to pick another venue.

74jax

Petra_70 wrote: »

Yes, coz God forbid a couple who are married/living together/spending their lives together/have kids together should want to go to a wedding together as a couple.

I think that is what OP is asking though, some people are like what you mention, others (like me) are not. I wouldn't mind not wanting to go to a wedding together. We do a lot seperately.

Hubby has been to many weddings without me and I really don't mind. You obviously would mind - neither way is right or wrong.

If a close friend was getting married and the choice was to see them get married without my hubby or to miss out entirely, I'd jump at the chase to go alone.

Mojisola

74jax wrote: »

Hubby has been to many weddings without me and I really don't mind.

I would feel differently about one of us being invited to a wedding without the other and one of us being invited to the whole day while the other had to hang around until they were allowed to join in.

74jax

Mojisola wrote: »

I would feel differently about one of us being invited to a wedding without the other and one of us being invited to the whole day while the other had to hang around until they were allowed to join in.

Again I really don't mind, I'd either join hubby later on or leave him to it with the other and not go. I don't think I'd see it as a reflection of not making the cut.

If it was myself invited to the day and not hubby, I doubt he'd go to the night but just because he'd think I'd be with others and not really miss him.

I think the OP wanted various opinions, and the majority are saying to look for another venue which she might well do, but it's nice to get differing views.

I honestly don't see the problem in being invited as a single and not a couple, but appreciate that others obvioulsy do.

Jagraf

74jax wrote: »

Again I really don't mind, I'd either join hubby later on or leave him to it with the other and not go. I don't think I'd see it as a reflection of not making the cut.

If it was myself invited to the day and not hubby, I doubt he'd go to the night but just because he'd think I'd be with others and not really miss him.

I think the OP wanted various opinions, and the majority are saying to look for another venue which she might well do, but it's nice to get differing views.

I honestly don't see the problem in being invited as a single and not a couple, but appreciate that others obvioulsy do.

Personally I think the context of being invited individually is important. I've been invited to good friends weddings where I am the 'main' friend and the hubbies just tag along when us girls invite them. I'm happy going alone to any of their functions. But if we were more of a couply friend to the bride or groom, then it would be a bit odd not to be invited.

We also go out separately a lot. We like it that way.

Sandhy

Just wish to add that if my OH was invited and I was not he would probably decline the invitation!

Counting_Pennies_2

I would say family only to the ceremony (with a couple of really close friends and their partners) and friends for the party afterwards.


That way you can't offend anyone, it is very clear that all friends come to the party, so you just write the invite there will be a small ceremony with family and a party to celebrate with friends and family after.


hth