Shocked at my friend.

Loz01

For anyone asking, yes coloured is an offensive word, at least in my world anyway. If you look back at racism in by gone years, coloured was always used as a segregating and negative word. Time to let it die now methinks. I understand older people still say it but... what can you do. If you call people out they just rant that "IN MY DAY WE COULD SAY WHAT WE LIKED!" so there we go.

zagfles

Loz01 wrote: »

For anyone asking, yes coloured is an offensive word, at least in my world anyway. If you look back at racism in by gone years, coloured was always used as a segregating and negative word. Time to let it die now methinks. I understand older people still say it but... what can you do. If you call people out they just rant that "IN MY DAY WE COULD SAY WHAT WE LIKED!" so there we go.

In other countries maybe, but not in the UK - it used to be the "politically correct" term to use. Older people in the UK using it rarely if ever mean to offend, quite the opposite, they are trying to be PC. And failing, obviously.

But it's not as bad as trying to label all ethnic minorities as "black". When I was at uni I went out with a Chinese girl for a while, one night we got chatting to a few revolutionary socialist types who tried to explain to my gf that she was "black" (or "politically black" as I think they put it :rotfl:) - I've never known her get so angry, or rather pretend to! I was a bit worried for a while till she gave me a wink!

ThumbRemote

pollypenny wrote: »

I assume the OP is talking about 'adaptations' too.

No such thing as 'adaptions' as far as I know.

Maybe that just shows your own lack of knowledge.


http://grammarist.com/usage/adaption-adaptation/

pollypenny

ThumbRemote wrote: »

Maybe that just shows your own lack of knowledge.


http://grammarist.com/usage/adaption-adaptation/

Thank you. The link is interesting, but I would still consider 'adaption' as wrong as 'definely', for 'definitely'.


I consider myself put in my place.

RichardD1970

zagfles wrote: »

In other countries maybe, but not in the UK - it used to be the "politically correct" term to use. Older people in the UK using it rarely if ever mean to offend, quite the opposite, they are trying to be PC. And failing, obviously.

But it's not as bad as trying to label all ethnic minorities as "black". When I was at uni I went out with a Chinese girl for a while, one night we got chatting to a few revolutionary socialist types who tried to explain to my gf that she was "black" (or "politically black" as I think they put it :rotfl:) - I've never known her get so angry, or rather pretend to! I was a bit worried for a while till she gave me a wink!

I was taught, any years ago, on a HR/Equal Ops course, that in a tribunal setting etc that anyone who wasn't white was referred to as black.

Spendless

I think the minor adaptations to the house might be an area to area funding. My Grandmother didn't have to contribute at all last year to her flat having steps and a rail fitted outside her front door and a bath rail. I remember querying with the social worker about if a financial contribution would need to be made. Gran has dementia and was also physically unable to walk far.

Redlady.....

Lily-Rose wrote: »

So many people say this pollypenny, and I am sure it's wrong too!!!

Like when people say ALUMINUM instead of ALUMINIUM (usually Americans,) (and they also say 'I could care less' instead of I COULDN'T care less.)

And one of my pet hates, people saying FEBREE, instead of FEBR-U-ARY! :mad:

And I hate it when people say 'relay-ship' instead of 'RELATIONSHIP,' (Jeremy Kyle does this!) and when people do double plurals, (putting an S on a word that already has an S!) Eg breakfasts's. So it sounds like BREAKFASTIZ.

Sorry, I am just ranting now.:rotfl:

I agree wholeheartedly with your post Lily-Rose.

I really don't care how Americans spell or pronounce their words, I don't like to hear them here though. In the area I live there is a road with a 6th form college, a primary school and a high school. It's quite a longish road but it has now become 'The Education Campus' with a big sign as you enter the road.
Prom? Why? Why not end of school ball/dance/celebration/event?
I'm sure we could have found our own name, but no, Prom it is.

One of my pet hates is presenters using the words 'final result'.

GracieP

zagfles wrote: »

In other countries maybe, but not in the UK - it used to be the "politically correct" term to use. Older people in the UK using it rarely if ever mean to offend, quite the opposite, they are trying to be PC. And failing, obviously.

Yup, I had a teacher in the mid-80s who told us all that 'black' was offensive and 'coloured' was the correct, respectful word to use.

OP, it's a tough one. I have a fairly new friend who I have recently discovered is extremely racist though she thinks she isn't. It's very much put me off continuing any friendship with her. I'll be honest, I have had reservations about our friendship before this but I just don't have any will to continue on a friendship with someone who holds such views.

Nada666

FreddieFrugal wrote: »

It's all about intent.

No it is not. That is the problem.

fierystormcloud

GracieP wrote: »

Yup, I had a teacher in the mid-80s who told us all that 'black' was offensive and 'coloured' was the correct, respectful word to use.

OP, it's a tough one. I have a fairly new friend who I have recently discovered is extremely racist though she thinks she isn't. It's very much put me off continuing any friendship with her. I'll be honest, I have had reservations about our friendship before this but I just don't have any will to continue on a friendship with someone who holds such views.

I hate racism, and I'm not racist; I have lots of black friends.

But this constantly having to worry about what you say for fear of being jumped on is just absurd. I see posts on here all the time where someone is describing someone and they mention their skin colour, and you would think they killed someone!

Also, people get jumped on if they say the 'wrong thing;' ie' 'coloured' instead of 'black' or 'half caste' instead of 'mixed race' and then we are told it's not mixed race; it's 'dual heritage!' And yes, I also was also told we should say 'coloured' back in 80s, and that 'black' was rude! It was rude because they weren't actually black!

It's ridiculous, and it needs to stop, because it's fuelling racial tension. People are fed up of being afraid to say anything. One girl at work I know had a go at a colleague for saying 'black coffee' once! And an elderly colleague (63) got slaughtered because she said she had just popped to the little Indian shop on her street on the way to work for some milk. It's been run by Indians for 30 years, and they very good friends of hers, and they loved her, and loved to see her, and she had no issue with their race at all. But she got annihilated by 3 uber-PC girls in their 20s and 30s at work, because she said the 'wrong thing!'

But re the OP, your friend does sound a bit racist. Saying she is not being put first because she is not black is a bit silly and is also wrong.