Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 2

Waves_and_Smiles

Good morning all! It's don't know whether to laugh or cry time! I called the DWP who put me through to the assessment centre and my form was recorded on the database last Thursday. They said they had no idea why it couldn't be found on Monday evening and perhaps the person looked in the wrong place. These people are handling my assessment claim, I am not brimming over with confidence here! I have just had two days of panic for no reason whatsoever. Scream actually, I think I'll scream.

tea_lover

WaS, am so glad they have your form

Code - it's ok to cry at funerals! I'm the other way - I resolutely go to my happy place during funerals and generally blank the whole thing out. I can remember about 2mins of my granddad's (last jan). Everyone else was upset (obviously!) and I'm stood there with a weird grin on my face, making inane conversation.

I really hope it all goes ok today, take care.

Happy Birthday baby bird!!

Wellyboots6

I did look in to fostering for similar reasons Fly. I was single at the time and they wanted me to stay single or be in a relationship for 2 years first though, and with no being able to see into the future it was too much pressure on a non-existent relationship. They also didn't like my dog!

Scream and then laugh WaS, best of both!

Good luck Code

Looks like we are moving house. Found a house to rent which is bigger than here fit the same price just down the road. Excited but a bit sad as I've got a lot of memories here. And I'll miss the open fire! Won't miss the first boiler, constant roof leaks or the flooded kitchen every time it rains though

Pyxis

May I put the other side to not having children?

This is difficult for me to say, on so many levels but.......

Having children can bring you the greatest misery when they are adults. They can bring you huge sadness and rejection. And that never goes away.

Having children is absolutely no guarantee that they will be there for you in your old age, or make decisions for you based on what is best for you and not what is best/easiest for them.

The cute little puppies are lovely, but those cute little puppies can grow up to be slavering Rottweilers.

Just thought I'd point that out.

jobbingmusician

What Pyxis said. A friend of mine has a son who never bothers to contact - and I mean it's about 5 years since the last contact, not just that he's a bit bad at it. And there is no acrimony or anything but a superficially good relationship when the little (now mid-30s) !!!! DOES get in touch. It's really painful for the parent concerned.

onomatopoeia99

Blimey, five years! I call my parents most Sundays. Won't this Sunday as I'm out all day at a meeting (hobby, not work), but I'm very much aware that with their combined age approaching 160 they won't be around forever, so try to maintain good contact.

Izadora

Morning All,

Code - I hope all goes okay today.

I can kind of see both sides of the children thing. When I was in my teens/early 20s, they were something that I thought I'd want when I was a bit more grown up and once I reached my mid-20s I decided that I definitely liked my life far too much as it was and that I was far too selfish to have a child.

When OH and I got together we were both on the same page with not wanting children and I can probably pinpoint the exact moment we both changed our mind. It was his niece's first birthday, we were mucking about with her and there was just a look between us where we realised that we both wanted one of our own. Seeing as we're quite old to be trying for a baby (I was 37 when we started and 38 now) I don't know that it's ever going to happen and I really wish it didn't bother me so much. I spent so long being perfectly happy with my decision not to have children that I really don't want to feel like I'm missing out if I now don't have them.

Flybaby

Pyx - most definitely agree with you actually. As you all know I have a most dysfunctional family, but one of the killer things is that the B*stard who is technically my brother turned out to be one of the worst kinds of people and tore my mum's heart to shreds. We haven't had any contact for many years and nor do we want it as he is a horrible and selfish person, but I know that my poor mum is most sad about the loss of her grandchildren, and the perceived loss of a lovely son. He was always nasty to me, but family wasn't aware until he started doing things wrong in his thirties. Even though I always hated him and was sort of glad when everyone else finally understood how evil he was (and stopped telling me to try and get on with him), if I had a magic wish, I think I would wish to go back and have everyone else never see his true side, so my mum could be happy. I don't think she will ever get over the loss. In fact it is the one thing that seriously makes me consider having a child, so she could have a grandchild again, but I know that is completely the wrong reason. Sorry........rant over..............I rarely think about him and having him out of my life is a blessing, but when I think about the effect it has on my mum......my blood boils.

Flybaby

WaS - but yea - they do have it and it will all go smoothly from here on in! There has to be a blip in the process when we are really worried about it - and that was it........so everything else will be smooth sailing. Flybaby says so! {{squish}}




Moo? YOu ok honey?

Waves_and_Smiles

Big hugs Pyxis, I am sorry things are the way they are.

A squish for you too, Fly. I still can't cope with saying Flysquish.