Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 2

mellymoo74

Right
I am going to shower in a minute then tweak the presentation and get it over to the agency.
Healthy minds is at 1.30pm they didn't call me back following my trying to get hold of them monday I need to make sure they understand that OH care provision and the floating support worker promised in December will help sort me out.

Birdie85

Hugs Code, your Dad really needs some lessons in tact! I'm sure you look fine! Long, soft, shiny hair is something other people dream of! I've started colouring my hair in the last 6 months or so (as the grey patches were getting too much! ) and it's currently 'Radiant Red', has been for months, which is quite far from my natural 'darkish brown' and the last time I saw my Dad he glared at me and said 'What's with the red hair?! What's wrong with your own hair?'... huh?! I think he's offended that I'm covering it as I've got his hair, same colour (before he went grey in his 30's!), same thickness, same hairline, same genetic predisposition to go fully grey by 40...

Oh and I am appalled at your Dad's 'game'!!! :mad:

Hope the presentation goes well Melly, sounds like a good angle to take!

Glad you reported the weirdness Tea, seems like too much of a coincidence to let it slide.

With the sex drive stuff, DH is happy being once a week and has never had a really high drive, even when we first got together. It doesn't bother me now but it was very frustrating when we were trying for Baby Bird as it's really difficult to time it right when you're trying to catch the right days!

tea_lover

I'm having a crisis I need to speak to FOH. It's completely ridiculous that things have got this far.

elsien

It may be ridiculous, but the ridiculousness is coming from his side not from yours. If you do see him, what are you going to say that you haven't already said and which he hasn't already completely ignored?

If you do really feel you need to talk to him, then could you do it with police baby or someone official there so there's no room for misinterpretation after the event? Otherwise you could be opening yourself up to a whole load more grief.

Birdie85

Weigh-In Wednesday!

I have lost 2lb this week! Makes it feel like it's worth staying away from pizza, wine and chocolate when I see those numbers going down on the scale!

My positive things:
1. On Sunday I wore a skirt I've not been able to fit into for ~4 years! :T
2. Drinking lots of water at work, which means I'm burning extra calories every time I have to run to the loo which is on the other side of the office!
3. Coloured my hair so it's nice and bright again.

Positive Steps for this week:
1. Still need to do my exercise DVD!!!!!
2. Get the bedroom decorated so it's ready for the furniture to go in next week and I can have a lovely space to feel special in!
3. Drink more water at home.

Wellyboots6

Tea, you have done your best to prevent things going this far. It's is FOH who has continued to push it. You've been far more accommodating than a lot if people would have been, but even that hasn't been enough for him. Don't let him push you in to backing down, it won't help him in the long run if he is never expected to stick to any boundaries. For his own sake he needs to accept that sometimes in life he has to play by the rules. This is actually the best thing you can do for him, as hopefully he will get some help out of all of this

mellymoo74

Tea elsien is right.
Don't speak to him he will misconstrue it

mellymoo74

Still not showered
Motivation a bit low

elona

Tea

He won't just misconstrue it he will probably redouble his efforts as from his point of view they are working.

There is nothing anyone can say to someone who is not willing to listen or to even try to understand. He has even got his Mum harassing you and your family.

For your own sake, your relative's sake and even for his sake in the long run you dare not contact him in any way.

tea_lover

I can rationally see that it would be a really stupid thing to do, but I feel desperate today. Have gone from a bit annoyed about it all to verge of panic attack. Feel like I can't breathe

ETA: I read something on a stalking website the other week which I'm clinging to right now - was along the lines of "if the 20th time they make contact you respond, that just tells them that persistence pays off".