Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 2

Izadora

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

Mentioned to D a health problem that is worrying me and he snapped back "well what do you want me to do? Go to the doctors then." Yeah, thanks for that, very helpful and comforting.

I'm not excusing his behaviour, because it's not fair to take it out on you, but my OH is often like that and, as much as I often forget it and get humpy cos he's snapped at me, it's coming from a place of love and concern.

I'll unload a problem on him, just wanting a pat on the shoulder and a "there, there dear" after I've had a vent, but he feels that it's something which he has to fix and ends up getting frustrated that he can't and then takes that out on me.

Georgiegirl256

whitewing wrote: »

I think when people are feeling really awful themselves, it gets very difficult to take on someone else's pain and worry. I know I can get really panicky if DH starts to worry. It is almost contagious for me when I am feeling down. If I am not feeling down then I mostly am very patient.

That said, last night we had tea and put littlewing to bed. A bit later DH decides he is going to eat sunflower seeds. I kept my mouth shut for 25 minutes but then asked (not sweetly but not nastily either): when are you going to stop eating?

He snapped back at me. So I tried to explain that the noise was making my ears hurt. And he wasn't haven't any of it. Puts the bowl down in a right old huff and then stomps off to bed, with an 'I don't see what your problem is!'
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I think you've hit the nail on the head there WW, especially with the bit I've bolded.

Regarding the noise, I can relate to that. A lot of noises can make me just what to flip sometimes. Take the other week for example. I don't know if you remember when me and D had that argument? When he kept on being really irritating and making the same sound over and over again.....it ended up the same way, with him stomping off to bed.

Hope you're both ok again, and he isn't slinking around ignoring you?

tea_lover

Misophonia. FOH never did believe it was real, I think that might have been the final straw!

mellymoo74

Managed to get the makings of chilli and some milk
Fed idiot some porridge
One of the people interviewing tomorrow had just had a lovely mooch at my LinkedIn.

mellymoo74

And yes
He couldn't even make porridge
Why
He started getting g anxious and flapping

codemonkey

Finally back. Went to the GP. She looked confused. Then she looked up my medication, went pale and sent me immediately to the nearest hospital for blood work. Spent all day sitting in a chair in a waiting room because they were so busy but it turns out there is nothing wrong with me.

mellymoo74

Best to know tho code.
Xx

calleyw

Code,

Better to be safe than sorry.

Melly,

Would help it if you OH had what I call big bird instructions for something as simple as making porridge.

Another bites the dust. Talking to this bloke for a few days went quiet for a day and then came back on-line today I said thought perhaps he had done what others had done to me run away he said never. We are in the middle of converstation arranging plans to meet up and he deletes himself. OMG!!!!! I think I am jinxed!!!!!

feeling sorry for myself. Never mind.

Hugs and handshakes and squishes to all.

Anyone see FB around? I assume she is just really busy with work and study.

Yours

Calley

mellymoo74

It does when he's a bit more stable right now he's too flappy Calley.

He gets panicky then OCD says you need to do this the this then this and everyone will be ok and no one will leave

He's also forgetting what he's doing, not retaining information at all (it's gone after 5 mins) and basically driving me insane

mellymoo74

I was going to email Fly check she's ok. Was getting a bit worried (apart from being so preoccupied with me at the min it's untrue)