Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 2

whitewing

melly,

why don't you phone the agency and ask them if it is crucial that you come today? Say OH is poorly but you will work something out if it has to be today. People tend to be more flexible if they have choices.

tea_lover

Without meaning to sound harsh, the agency don't care what you say, so don't put too much energy into worrying about them. Obviously let them know you can't make it but a simple "I'm not able to today, I'll reschedule next week" will be sufficient.

Then that's one thing crossed off the list and you can focus your energy on something else.

If it helps, I'll contact them for you? If there's anything practical I can do, just shout. If I knew where you were I'd drop food parcels

mellymoo74

Ok agency then chase healthy minds for OH
I also need something from them for his PIP
Got a complaint number so putting one in about the cow who did the assessment.

I know tea I met them awhe ago and they also sent me on yesterday's interview so don't see the point if I'm honest

Georgiegirl256

codemonkey wrote: »

. Would it be a very bad thing if your OH voluntarily checked into a MH unit to treat the OCD or would he not do that? You can't continue this way.
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I thought this too, shame he won't do it Melly

calleyw wrote: »

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Get in the fort and we have a massive duvet snuggle.

That sounds lovely right now. :grouphug:

tea_lover wrote: »

? If there's anything practical I can do, just shout. If I knew where you were I'd drop food parcels

Same goes for me too Melly.

Georgiegirl256

Did you manage to get an appointment code? How are the bruises today? The same? Worse?

mellymoo74

Yes have you been Code?

Izadora

Melly, I wish there was some way I could help. I know it must be hard when your OH is being so demanding but please try to take some time out to look after yourself.

Code, I hope all went/goes well with the doctor.

Georgiegirl256

Mentioned to D a health problem that is worrying me and he snapped back "well what do you want me to do? Go to the doctors then." Yeah, thanks for that, very helpful and comforting.

I know he's stressed about becoming unemployed, but still. I think he thought that another job in the same company would come up just like that, but it hasn't. There aren't any jobs at all, and I think he's getting down and panicky about it all now.

A quick work out of the figures and we know how much we'll have left from the redundancy after paying big bills off, and how much that'll leave us to live on and how long for, and tbh it's a pretty long time. He's starting to get into a flap about things, and was really upset before. Maybe I'm just a lot more laid back and have more faith? Either that, or I'm thinking what's the point in worrying now, start worrying if and when the sh*t really hits the fan. Things will work out, they always seem to. Maybe I just hate having to deal with "grown up" things and am burying my head in the sand? Maybe he's just being his usual catastophising self? He does get himself worked up about things sometimes, whereas I'm like "don't worry it'll be fine" He thinks I'm too laid back and I think he worries about things that really don't need to be worried about....yet.

I don't know? Just ignore me, just musing, just rambling on, just getting all my thoughts out.

whitewing

I think when people are feeling really awful themselves, it gets very difficult to take on someone else's pain and worry. I know I can get really panicky if DH starts to worry. It is almost contagious for me when I am feeling down. If I am not feeling down then I mostly am very patient.

That said, last night we had tea and put littlewing to bed. A bit later DH decides he is going to eat sunflower seeds. I kept my mouth shut for 25 minutes but then asked (not sweetly but not nastily either): when are you going to stop eating?

He snapped back at me. So I tried to explain that the noise was making my ears hurt. And he wasn't haven't any of it. Puts the bowl down in a right old huff and then stomps off to bed, with an 'I don't see what your problem is!'

When I am tired, my hearing on certain things goes supersonic. I can't stand the sound of people eating late at night unless I am eating too. Even with the TV on, it drives me crazy. And it does make my inner ears uncomfortable.


Thanks for all the info on the printer. I shall look at that probably over the weekend when I have a bit more time.

code - how are the bruises?

melly - why don't you and OH both get admitted and get some serious help for the pair of you? When I had a stay in hospital many years ago, I still went out for a job interview (and got the job). You're not superhuman - well, you do seem to be, but you know what I mean.

Have you sorted out food for DH and a little bit for you yet?

whitewing

And WaS, are you coming out to play?