Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 2

Georgiegirl256

tea_lover wrote: »

You see WaS, we all learn so much from this thread.... information about MH issues, a chance to find out more about the benefits system, in-depth discussion of Muppet Christmas carol

I honestly don't know where I'd be without you lot xx

Ditto tea. You lot are the best x x

I particularly enjoyed the discussion on MCC! I wanted to watch the other Christmasy one with Pepe in it but couldn't find it anywhere. Will have to hunt out the DVD.

Wellyboots6

Our Christmas has been over a while. I'm that much of a Scrooge our decorations came down on Boxing day!

whitewing

What I find sad about the benefits is how many genuine people seem to limit their existence because they are worried about the effect on benefits. As a simplistic example - the theoretical person who is so worried that they will be judged capable of working so they develop a phobia of going out of the house at all as it is subconsciously easier to think if I can't leave the house then it's more obvious I can't work.

As I said, this is a theoretical example, as issues raised on this thread are a lot more complex than that.

I am feeling better after my virus but completely wiped out by my first day back at work. I came home and slept for 3 hours.

I did have the unexpected benefit that my work clothes felt slightly looser this morning.

onomatopoeia99

tea_lover wrote: »

First Saturday night of 2016 and I am so bored I could cry, only I can't even summon up the enthusiasm for that.

BBC4 usually keeps me entertained from 9pm on a Saturday with detective series from around Europe. Some new episodes of Il giovane Montalbano started today.

Fifth year of studying Italian and I still need the subtitles

whitewing

My DH loves that, ono. I didn't realise it had started again.

I have been lurking on the KonMarie thread. I stumbled across it last year and have just seen the new 2016 thread. I tend to find I can only deal with one main thread at a time in MSE. I used to be on the dehoarding thread before I joined WaS here. Don't worry, WaS, I'm not going anywhere, just feeling a new urge to declutter and reorganise. Last year was difficult as DH and I didn't seem to have much time off together. It had an impact on the 'organising' household jobs because the car wasn't available or DH needed to help move something etc. This year his shift patterns have changed (for about the fifth time in as many months, which is really beginning to get on my wick), but this latest batch will be a lot better, I think.

DH also has been thinking about his plans for the year. I am relieved as they seem to be more realistic and celebratory of small changes. His overall long term aims are the same but he seems to have finally lost the attitude of 'if he can't do it exactly how he wanted as quickly as he wanted, then it isn't worth bothering with'.

I can't sleep at the moment due to being dehydrated and my nap earlier. I ought to make a headstart on packing away xmas decorations. I am fine with doing a bit at a time but I have got really bad lately with actually starting jobs, even if they are things I want to do.

whitewing

I am still up and feeling quite pleased with myself. I have taken down a lot of the decorations and the room looks so much bigger now. I feel like it is ready for a new beginning. I have had an idea or two about how to reorganise things in the house so I will need to get DH to buy into it. He can be easy-going but if he doesn't think it is a good idea he will dig his heels in.

Am going to have vitamin c and water before I go to bed. I feel gently relaxed.

In the morning I will have to pack the decorations etc away. I have gathered everything up into the kitchen and will go through it with DH to see if there is anything we want to get rid of. Some things are a little battered now.

Pyxis

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Pyxis

Had an appalling night, waking every hour or so with streaming nose, sore throat, cough etc.

Don't think I'll be on here much today.

Wellyboots6

Get well soon to all the poorlies.

Goblin Nan used to swear by a teaspoon of honey and a walk round the garden (might have been clockwise) to cure colds etc. I still do it!

Escapette has been up all night again. Nothing really wrong with her, just bored I think. So unbelievabley tired

tea_lover

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Doesn't look like any of us slept much last night....to the fort!